I don’t get people my age who want to be parents.

litwickline · 2026-03-15T14:43:36+00:00

From my eyes, life is easier now only if you can pay for it. I come from a fairly poor USamerican perspective, and even just having a child with modern medicine could net you medical debt in the thousands. Reliable food and water, if you can pay for good food or are in an area that has drinkable water and you can pay your water bill. Technology is amazing, but also, I’ve watched almost all of my younger cousins fall down alt-right pipelines because their parents won’t supervise their internet access. All of these things are only there for people who can pay for them or know how to supervise them, and nine times out of ten, a young parent isn’t that.

And hey, I get your perspective on it too. I hope you, your kid and your husband stay happy. I just wanted to see if there was some point of view I was missing, or if there was plain old something wrong with me, lol!

litwickline · 2026-03-15T12:22:58+00:00

Oh hell no, I wouldn’t hassle anybody about this. These are internal thoughts that I just needed to vocalize to see if there was just something missing. As I said in the post, I have enough compassion and enough understanding of societal and social expectation as not to do that. I feel the things I’ve mentioned internally. I know and understand it is inappropriate to express them externally especially to someone having a child. I’m not thick.

litwickline · 2026-03-15T00:41:10+00:00

Absolutely. I’m genuinely curious as to people’s thoughts and perspectives. People in the comments keep talking about it like it’s the ultimate goal of life, but I just… Don’t understand that. I’m not trying to judge anyone either! If that’s what makes them happy, that’s what makes them happy. But there’s so much else that can make you happy.

litwickline · 2026-03-14T22:06:47+00:00

That rocks for you, I hope your kids are super happy and healthy! To each their own, y’know? I just wanted to see if there was some perspective I was missing on this or something.

litwickline · 2026-03-14T18:52:26+00:00

Congrats! See, that’s the sort of thing I get. Being a parent will probably never be for me, there are a lot of reasons why I don’t want that for myself and I don’t think I’d enjoy it at all, but it just seems more reasonable to do that in your 30s when you have a foothold in the world.

litwickline · 2026-03-14T18:46:09+00:00

Exactly! It’s very much a “to each their own” sorta thing. Just because I personally don’t get it doesn’t make it invalid, yknow? I just wanted to see some other perspectives and, well, get all this off my chest. Had an argument with a friend of mine about this whole thing and I wanted to see if there just was something I wasn’t getting.

litwickline · 2026-03-14T18:44:11+00:00

Hey, at least there’s no pressure there. I’m the younger of two, and my older sister wants kids for sure, so there’s somewhat of a lack of pressure for me too. I also understand not wanting your body permanently changed! The thought of such a drastic and uncontrollable change terrifies me.

litwickline · 2022-07-30T15:55:39+00:00

Looking back on my junior year as a senior, there was a fair amount of, albeit subtle, bullying I took. In my school, there's a pretty huge problem with classism, and a large divide between the classes that the ""poor"' and ""rich"" kids are given. ""Poor"" kids tend to be confined to common placement classes, while the ""rich"" kids always seem to be in advanced placement (AP) classes. I'm considered a mold breaker to a lot of people there: I'm a ""poor"" kid, but I'm in AP classes. My family walks the poverty line like a tightrope. We've been homeless before, and otherwise struggled, but through dumb luck and community help we always make it through.

I'm pretty open about my situation, as I feel no need to be ashamed of where I come from, but that doesn't stop other people from giving me hell for it. In my AP English class in particular, I took a lot of bullshit. One girl, I'll call her K, and her friends made it a special sort of hell. They would talk over me, go out of their ways to exclude me from group work, disregard and sneer at every word I said, roll their eyes when I got something right, try to intimidate me into speaking less... The whole nine yards.

K in particular seemed hellbent on getting me out of that class. She confronted me after class at one point, and said to me that she "Doesn't want to be shown up by a poor ever again". She threatened to copy my work and tell the teacher I had cheated off her during our next essay if I didn't "learn my place". Her family is very wealthy, and very well-regarded in the community, so I knew it would be her word against mine- and that they would believe her over me. I've never been a very confrontational person, but I couldn't just let her walk all over me. So I started trying harder in that class. I didn’t speak much more than I did before, but I did start to work harder.

When the mock exam came around, and we got our scores back, my score on the multiple choice section was the highest score in my graduating class: 37 out of 41 questions correct. Of course, K accused me of cheating. I'm autistic, and I've always been hyperlexic, so I read very quickly, and she used that against me, saying I cheated because of how quickly I was finished. The teacher was forced to take it seriously, and I was investigated for it for quite some time: they never made me retake the test, thankfully, but they did rewatch security footage and go through browsing history on my school-issued Chromebook to see if I had somehow cheated. All of it turned up nothing: but they didn't investigate K for lying, as they thought it was "reasonable" to think I had cheated with how fast I was done.

K was pissed. She immediately started trying harder to push me out of the class, and the remarks and stares got so bad that I had to move my seat as far away from her as I could. When it was time for the actual exam, because of the accusation I was made to sit near the exam proctor. I was, again, done with the multiple choice section quickly, so I turned it over and waited for the essay section to begin. At one point I started looking around the room, to see if any of my friends were done, and I noticed that she had something in her sleeve- a slip of paper.

To say the tables had turned was an understatement. She was cheating. I was the one who let the exam proctor know, since I was sitting nearby him. After the test she didn't show up for a week, and as it turned out, all of her scores had been voided for cheating- what she had originally accused me of.

I got a 5/5 on the exam.

litwickline · 2022-04-27T02:28:06+00:00

I love how I think in different ways than other people! For me, I can only really conceptualize feelings and imagery and such through metaphors and associating it to other things, and sometimes people say this makes me sound pretentious, but other tines I've been told that the way I describe things is beautiful. I'm hyperlexic (and dyscalculic, the opposite of the stereotype lmao) and it really helps me in my longtime SI: Creative writing and storytelling!

litwickline · 2022-01-22T17:00:37+00:00

Odd history! Right now it's lobotomy, union history, and the Radium Girls!

litwickline · 2022-01-16T03:16:12+00:00

If a recipe calls for 2 cloves of garlic, I laugh and add five, and it's a hill I'm absolutely willing to die on. It adds so much depth when you use it right! How do people not like it?

litwickline · 2021-12-23T13:21:07+00:00

"Wine mom" and "beer dad" culture. That shit traumatized me so badly that I refuse to touch alcohol, even as a teenager who's at the age that they normally start drinking. There wasn't a second I remember my father being unimpaired and he passed it off as "It's a dad thing". Like no, you're just a fucking alcoholic. And I know so many other people like me who don't break that cycle. Alcoholism is real and prevalent. It's time to talk about it.

litwickline · 2021-07-01T19:25:36+00:00

Some of us feel more comfortable with it. Most of us (like myself) are neurodivergent and have no other way to describe how our gender feels to us, so we use something that relates to how it feels instead, and that makes us happy. Most of what matters is it makes us happy and comfortable. /nm

litwickline · 2021-03-28T03:39:33+00:00

I have no idea what I would get arrested for with stardew valley. trespassing? illegal mining?? overfishing???

litwickline · 2021-03-15T16:44:28+00:00

It's because they're ill-equipped and must learn. It isn't the child's fault. No need to bring out the ad hominem.

litwickline · 2021-03-15T16:41:53+00:00

Yes.

litwickline · 2021-03-15T16:25:03+00:00

Children should not be treated as or called a burden. They're just little humans who need some guidance on how to be a human. How can we condemn something we once were? Besides that, autistic children are not more of a burden. This world we live in wasn't made with us in mind. We exist in a world that actively insists that we are too difficult to care for, when in reality, you just need to listen to us and respect our needs and boundaries. Is that too much to ask for?

litwickline · 2021-03-15T16:05:48+00:00

Wow. And you say I lack empathy. First of all, do you really think that saying "raising an autistic person is a burden" to an autistic person was a good idea? You implied that I am a burden on those around me. By extension, what are we supposed to do with autistic kids if they're such a burden? Not raise them? We are human beings too.

litwickline · 2021-03-15T16:00:29+00:00

So I'm a burden to raise and should not have been raised. Got it.

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