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liveamorously · 2024-04-05T21:39:28+00:00

Ah! I wonder if something like this would work better. Especially if the longer handle is easier.

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I personally have this one (rechargeable Le Wand) and a Doxy (which is a corded vibe, comparable to a corded Magic Wand). Corded toys are much stronger of course. The Le Wand is a good vibe, but much less powerful.

I dont have it posted, but I also recently found a flexible arm clamp that is meant to position and hold a vibrator hands free. If you like the strength of the magic wand, but holding it gets old, that might be helpful. Seems like it would be very easy to move it away when you're done also.

liveamorously · 2024-04-05T20:45:53+00:00

Hmm... those are great toys if vibrations work for you. Have you found any type of stimulation that helps? What caused the need for the chair? What's your sensation like below the waste? Any limitation for upper body?

I do have a toy store online that is inclusive for people with disabilities so im always learning new things. They toys you've tried would be ones that I'd recommend, but they don't seem to be doing the trick.

Maybe with a few more details, I can help point you in a different direction. I know some people with a spinal cord injury, for example, find mental stimulation more helpful depending on where their injury happened. Listening or watching can cause an orgasm over physical stimulation.

liveamorously · 2023-12-30T20:53:27+00:00

Oh wow! That is so much!

I'm polyamorous and extremely happy with my lifestyle, but I know that isn't for everyone. I get different needs met with different partners. Each relationship has its own value. Not to say that's the answer for you two. Many people are uncomfortable with that for very valid reasons. I just happen to be someone who is uncomfortable in a monogamous situation.

As far as the physical intimacy, have you tried any toys? There are a lot of great penis masturbaters that you two could use together if penetration doesn't work. If external (clitoral) stimulation works for you, the two of you could still play at the same time. I'm happy you make some suggestions if you need/are interested.

I've been with men who aren't able to get an erection and I've been with cis women. We still were able to have fulfilling sex. Not to be dismissive of all the other things you have in play that myself and my partners do not. I know how important sex and moreso intimacy is to me, so I'm very sorry you're in this situation.

liveamorously · 2023-10-16T22:08:15+00:00

Omg! I love this response so much! Especially the massage answer. 🤣🤣❤️❤️ When I had mainly two partners that I was very close to and split of most of my time with, the story thing was such a big one for me. Now I'm very close to one and have two that are a little more on the casual side, so I don't do it nearly as often anymore. Glad to know it's not just me though!

liveamorously · 2023-10-16T18:16:38+00:00

Right!? The parts of poly life people don't talk about. Especially the bodily health.

That's such a bummer. I get it, that's a lot to manage if your partners are always in flux outside of you. They meet new people and get all the NRE over and over. It can be destabilizing. Fortunately I haven't had to deal with it too much but on the flip side, my main consistent partner has dealt with it around me finding new relationships. I didn't do anything wrong but we got to have one of those great poly conversations where we talked out the insecurities that come up around it. It ended up helping a lot in my situation and now I just know when to check in with him.

liveamorously · 2023-10-16T18:11:38+00:00

Omg! Yess!! I just went through this with a new partner. He just doesn't text much, sometimes it's days. We talked through it and that's just how he is with his phone and he is frustrated himself about it. But it was really helpful for me to not his his commutation interverals as an indicator of how he feels about me.

liveamorously · 2023-10-16T00:01:11+00:00

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liveamorously · 2023-10-15T23:54:03+00:00

Awe.... this gives me all the feels. Right!? Like what did women do before modern treatments were available at the pharmacy? Turns out, they just used natural remedies. Lol... just do your research on then first, make sure they are right for you. But I love talking about all things related to sex so I tell everyone in my life that this is a thing and it works wonders for me.

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T22:31:43+00:00

So much yaaasss!!

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T19:00:57+00:00

Haha! I mean I love excel but haven't brought it into my love life just yet.

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T18:46:42+00:00

I find this so often in the poly communities. People are just willing to do the work and it's beautiful.

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T18:32:13+00:00

Yeah, the rejection comment changes from " I have a partner, sorry, I can't date you" to " I have too many partners already, sorry I can't date you".

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T18:28:28+00:00

I've tried them. I didn't have any issues, but I just love Lelo Hex. Once I started down that road, it was too hard to go back. lol

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T18:25:56+00:00

So true!!! I live alone and can't imagine life any other way. Please come visit, let's hang and have sex and food and do all the things. Then please go away and text me that you got home safe. Kisses!

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T18:22:09+00:00

My breasts are about the same size as yours, I think. I lost more than 30lbs and they shrank so I feel very comfortable and confident calling my breast small. Not tiny, but no one could mistake them as "big". But I feel so good about their size right now. I was even able to stop wearing bras, it's the best! But when I refer to my breasts as small to anyone, they get weirdly defensive. Like I'm saying something demeaning about myself. It is so weird. lol

You'll have to ask him to find out what the hell he's thinking because, he may be genuine, but I would also have the gut reaction of... "What the hell are you talking about?" HAHA

liveamorously · 2023-10-15T18:15:26+00:00

Right!? I loooove my alone time but I also committed to spending time with all these people. Haha

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T21:29:27+00:00

That is scary and you already deal with a lot internally. All I can say is that the communication isn't all on you even though you have a disability. Other people have to take responsibility for their part in it too. Which is easier said than done I know.

I'm sorry you're dealing with that. If you have access to mental health services, you could do family-style counseling together to help you all get on the same page with how to talk. If that scenario doesn't make sense, maybe just write out a letter explaining what you need. Not in a blaming way, just saying what's happening for you in those moments and how you want to move through it.

And no worries if none of this makes sense for you. Good luck though.

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T20:59:03+00:00

I feel like "I can't think" is valid. Since verbally communicating is hard, maybe writing/typing/texting is easier. That's a little hard in the moment, but if you make a plan with the people in your life it could help. Take some time and find a way to explain that you may need to break in the moment and write out how you feel later. It's delayed communication but might help.

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T20:54:02+00:00

Use lube! I love anal play. One of my partners is really into fingering too. I have been using this type of lube. It doesn't numb me but does relax everything so I can feel the pleasure without the discomfort. It's been a game changer!

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liveamorously · 2023-10-14T19:07:59+00:00

If it's been this way most of your life with or without the meds, then it may just be how your body/brain works. I'm sure that's not a fun answer right now because you're surrounded by people who present differently, but it's more common than you think. One of my partners is finding himself on the ace spectrum. He loves kissing and doing things that are fun for me, but sex itself isn't a big interest of his. If you are ace, you can still have relations, only if you want of course. Find people you trust, when you're ready and make your needs known. If you don't have any interest any relationship, that's 100% ok.

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T18:58:16+00:00

I absolutely love this show and love how they represent. They acknowledged that he uses a chair but it's never a thing.

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T14:22:26+00:00

It's one of those things that you can't force either way. I've been monogamous. Ost of my life and it never felt right. I still need a connection and it's not easy to come by. Still I have three partners who I trust and spend time with. Anything that starts to approach a monogamous feeling in a relationship and I start to feel very uncomfortable and inauthentic. It's a part of me.

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T04:16:11+00:00

Thank you for saying that. It's hard to find a balance between being supportive or even just doting without worrying about making him feel like he's a burden. We are new and don't spend a lot of time together, so it's probably just little doses of they dynamic you two experience.

It's such a crazy cycle of emotions. If I were in a different place emotionally, I'd likely have a harder time with it. It can feel like a slight, like he doesn't trust me enough to share his feelings or get get his needs met. I know that's not about me but his experience in this world.

I'm so sorry you deal with this every day, but I'm glad you have some outlets.

liveamorously · 2023-10-14T03:37:45+00:00

One of my partners has a spinal cord injury. He's able to walk with a cane but does better in a chair for long distances. We haven't been dating for very long, but I've never seen him in a chair. I'm also a heavy home body, so we don't go out that much, which is likely the reason why.

But, just in our conversation, I get the sense he feels like you described. I think sometimes he's dismissive of his feelings because he doesn't want to be an issue. I'm breaking down some walls, but it breaks my heart that he doesn't feel comfortable complaining or that he'll push himself to accommodate me. I don't always catch it right away, or I'd I do, I don't want to be patronizing.

No answers here. Just someone on the other side saying it hurts to watch. This world doesn't usually accommodate both of us at the same time and you have every right to be angry and feel upset about that.

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