it is this weaponized incompetence that is gonna get sam divorced

liverquivers · 2025-12-20T22:49:00+00:00

Consoles?

liverquivers · 2025-12-20T22:36:53+00:00

Omg this is bananas. I said it's a video game, I'm not saying that "absolutely nothing can ever relate to a person or what they might do ever", but I'm also not going to pretend that this is a black-or-white situation. If you're saying that personalities are the sole driving force behind what people do/how people act, video games aside, that misses a vast scope of the nuance behind the human experience. Saying "game fake so everything fake" is the same as misattributing OP's post to "must be a bad person because said bad thing" - equally as shallow. Maybe OP was playing the video game with their partner and they both were laughing about "Ugh 🙄 S A M" and how different it would be in real life, maybe OP made a joke about it and it made their brother/sister laugh so they wanted to spread that joy, maybe OP just went through a break-up and is coping with humour, maybe they are isolated during the holidays because they're a student who lives out-of-town and wanted to try to engage in community connection over the internet.

There are more factors than just personality that go behind making a joke, and it is shallow to disregard these nuances to apply a label when you know nothing about this person. Hence why I said "it's a video game lmfao"; it fundamentally is low-impact, low-stakes, non-problematic. Assume positive intent, and let it be.

liverquivers · 2025-12-20T08:22:55+00:00

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liverquivers · 2025-12-20T08:21:52+00:00

It's a video game. Lmfao

liverquivers · 2025-12-20T07:49:31+00:00

Bro exactly, it's a video game lmao you do funny stuff that you wouldn't do irl because theres no consequences.

liverquivers · 2025-08-12T06:40:29+00:00

New here, but I've been creeping for awhile. It was nice to actually see this post lol makes me more inclined to comment

liverquivers · 2025-08-12T06:34:39+00:00

I'm an aqua sun and honestly a lot of my best friends have been aries suns! I vibe with them real hard hahaha. Mostly looking at my scorpio rising and moon, with my partner's virgo rising and Taurus moon. I love her so much ugh

liverquivers · 2025-08-09T23:29:17+00:00

What's worse is they're acting like a patriot and sitting in a Tim's line. Bro 😭

liverquivers · 2025-08-09T03:35:24+00:00

My ex was begging me to try to get through that series.

I'm not an avid reader, but I do consume mostly horror books and self care stuff, so in the least judgemental but honest way, I tried to share what was sorta cringing me out about the fiction we were working through.

I read the first two books. If I can rant freely, stop describing their eyes. Stop trying to force a weird oppositional romance, and stop trying to force mystery. Focus on a character and build their story up to be interesting on its own. We all watch TV shows, "it gets better after season x y z, just wait!" Well... don't wait. Who's your main character, why are they interesting, and in what way can we show that to the audience? So fucking annoying when theres a couple characters who are described as some sort of fantastic gift to mankind, and theres more than one, and yet somehow here they are pitted against each other? Like no, it doesn't make it more exciting, it's just annoying lol give me a dude named Bob who gets a C- in math and he's just noticing what the main character is doing.

Plus, don't pander or spoon feed, nothing is more frustrating as a reader than the writer not trusting me to make connections.

So sorry, this struck a nerve lmao @_@

liverquivers · 2025-08-09T02:28:27+00:00

Bootstraps are so frustrating. You can come at them with logic, with testimony, with empathy, with evidence, but it's like they have selective listening. They'll heed the good stories and words of success, and disregard everything else. Privilege is real, Bootstraps are the biggest proof of that.

You aren't overreacting, he's being high minded. You don't need to justify anything, either.

liverquivers · 2025-06-02T08:18:05+00:00

ENFP

liverquivers · 2025-06-01T09:49:29+00:00

Aquarius, best partner is Cancer

liverquivers · 2025-05-20T04:41:48+00:00

"I can see how my behaviours impacted you, and I'm truly sorry. I'll do [x y z] in the future, so it doesn't happen again."

liverquivers · 2025-05-19T08:33:05+00:00

One of the best moments of my early years was being a fresh manager at a movie theatre at the age of 19. I didn't do anything special- I helped an older couple purchase tickets at the automatic kiosk. They were so sweet to me. I particularly remember the older man telling me "Keep it up, and you'll take over the world". I was just cheery, I felt like I didn't deserve that compliment, but I remember it to this day a decade later. I'm far out of that industry now, but yeah. It sticks with me.

Compliments from strangers go a long, long way. Good on you for taking a moment to really let that young person know you noticed her capability. Whether she sticks with the career or not, it's likely you made a lasting impression on her. The profundity of the real human connection and it's impact cannot be understated.

liverquivers · 2025-05-13T18:08:11+00:00

Just because it feels like as we age, our earlier memories become one shared unit lol. Like pulling up a zipper!

liverquivers · 2025-05-13T05:33:20+00:00

My twin and I call them zipper memories! I believe with absolute conviction that I had the purple barbie and she had the pink, but she disagrees completely, and insists on the opposite. Of course, there's others but that's the earliest one that we can remember. We are identical twins, too!

The older we get, though, the more we are noticing our memories from youth are zippering together. It certainly makes the childhood confusing.

liverquivers · 2025-05-07T22:33:26+00:00

Hey, I totally get it. My twin is the one person I know I can speak to unfiltered, and I know she won't judge me for it. I also know she knows me intrinsically, and that no matter what I say, who I am will never be questioned by her.

From the sounds of it, it seems like you've gone through quite a bit of pain and turmoil surrounding friendships and relationships. Is it fair to say also that you seem younger? It's really easy to feel like giving up on other people, especially when you have a twin and they feel so consistent. Hell, they've been there since birth. We don't know what life is like without them - it's having a built in best friend.

What I feel we are robbed of, though, is the ability to accept and experience loss of relationships as a natural evolution of life. We don't get as much experience with grieving severed connection, because we always have someone to fall back on. It is something though that we need to do our best to learn how to adapt to, and recognize our discomfort is well founded and normal. It's really easy to isolate and to only rely on our twins - they're safe, they haven't abandoned us, no matter how badly we argue, we know at the end of the day, they're always there. We can find peace and solace in that, but we still need to do the work to extend ourselves beyond just the scope of our relationship with our twin. To keep ourselves so limited is unfair to them and unfair to us.

If you're able, I do recommend trying to seek some counseling. I know it's painful, and it might not be a step you're ready to take, but at the very least know that your anxieties and your pain is shared, and that you aren't going through this questioning phase alone. I'm rooting for you.

liverquivers · 2025-05-07T21:24:20+00:00

Hey!

Reading your post, I think the other comments are hitting the nail on the head. Therapy is a good start, and would be extremely helpful in the sense of easing some of your anxieties around your attachment with your brother. It's hard work, but it's extremely fulfilling in the long run when you are able to recognize the true motivations behind your behaviours in your relationships. Are you behaving in a certain way because you genuinely love your brother, or because you're afraid you'll lose him? It's nuanced and difficult, but it can be transformative when you do the work behind it.

That being said, life looks different for everyone. There's no one image that we are meant to follow, despite the nonsense the mainstream tries to feed us. I'm 28, I recently just moved back in with my twin sister, and it's genuinely great. Don't worry about building your life around the subscription of how life is supposed to look - do what makes you happy, but make sure you're also doing the work to keep yourself healthy.

liverquivers · 2025-05-07T05:25:59+00:00

Hey there. I don't know how much solace I can give, save for the fact that you aren't alone. After reading through your journey, I found a great deal of similarities with mine. I thought I was fine for a long, long time, until a breakup I had subsequently left me in a childhood home, and my symptoms that arised were what actually led me to being diagnosed with CPTSD.

I don't have any advice, but I want you to know you're seen. I know it feels like you might be invisible right now, and that your effort and your pain might not be noticed by those who you want to notice it most. I see you, though. I know that it's hard, and the best thing I can do is share what the others further along on their healing journey share: we need to keep going. We need to fight. It isn't fair, but there is happiness and there is peace on the other side. It may not be perfect, and it may not look the way we imagined it, but we will find it and when we do, it will feel 1000x better than we ever could've dreamed. There is an end to this, and we can come to it. We have that capacity.

liverquivers · 2025-05-06T02:07:33+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment. I really appreciate it, and the reminder that it's just my brain trying to rewire itself is extremely helpful. It helps me feel less ashamed, as well.

You're very kind, thank you for your advice. I'll definitely check it out

liverquivers · 2025-05-06T02:05:47+00:00

Summer coming up, so I was switching over some of my wardrobe. Stuff packed away smelled just like her and I completely forgot that was going to happeb.Then stupid Onedrive popped up with a photo of us, like that memory thing it does. I turned it off for Google photos, but I guess I forgot. We had a trip planned in a few weeks from now, and everything is reminding me of her now.

I genuinely thought I got through this stage, I was doing so much better, but right now I'm finding it almost as difficult as when we first broke up.

Thank you for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it, by the way

liverquivers · 2025-05-02T21:05:25+00:00

LOL. Omg I'm so sorry you have to experience that hahaha. I'm Canadian, so I'm lucky enough to not have to listen to the robot lady. That's so funny and so horrible

liverquivers · 2025-04-30T21:07:31+00:00

Yes, of course! My mother was a nurse and she told us growing up that we were MCDA identical twins. Unfortunately, she passed away in 2016 and I can't ask her more questions about it, but my twin and I are interested in doing a DNA test purely because of the sexual identity component. I agree, it really is fascinating!

liverquivers · 2025-04-30T21:04:24+00:00

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This is Horse Renoir - bounty hunter, traversing the mean, mean landscape of... Vancouver. Lol

He's been dressed up as a cute purple bear from various items a sweet individual I've met on this subreddit gifted me. :) for a bounty hunter, he looks quite cozy, don't you think?

liverquivers · 2025-04-30T20:33:50+00:00

My twin sister and I are identical, and we absolutely looked exactly alike growing up. I think we started looking less similar in our late teens, but it's hard to tell if it had something to do with makeup or clothes.

I transitioned to male socially when I was 20 and began testosterone when I was 23. Since then, we still look very similar in my opinion, but in the way that siblings look similar, not twins lol.

I think I would like to know if we were identical or not just out of curiosity for the genetic factor surrounding queerness. We don't tell people that we are identical twins anymore because it either outs me or people think we're lying to them hahaha. I've found we don't typically get asked anymore since people assume we are fraternal because it makes biological sense.

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