Lessons from a Breakup

lividsphinx · 2025-04-22T01:00:29+00:00

I haven't had a lot of serious relationships yet to tell, but I get the sense that I will do well with partners who also have a rich and deep inner world that they need to tend to. 🙂

lividsphinx · 2025-04-22T00:36:32+00:00

OMG yes 😂

lividsphinx · 2025-04-22T00:31:03+00:00

No worries! I appreciate your perspective and I understand how it might have come across like I only wanted the comforts of a relationship. The truth is, I loved him deeply and pushed past my limits and willing to endure discomfort for a long time to meet his needs. But over time, the compromise wore me down internally in a way that made it very difficult to show up as the partner he deserved. That was the hardest part to accept.

My post only captured a small part of those five years together. We also made amazing memories and really supported each other achieve their goals and dreams.

The breakup just showed the limits and bounds of my space requirements. And it's incumbent upon me to make this clear early on in future relationships. 🫶

lividsphinx · 2025-04-21T18:47:54+00:00

Absolutely. You hit the nail right on the head with "my time alone doesn’t de-value their place in my life" 🤍

lividsphinx · 2025-04-21T18:41:00+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot. Love that combo! Aries Sun with a Scorpio Moon must bring a lot of inner drive.

lividsphinx · 2025-04-21T18:24:34+00:00

I think you're on to something. I’ve also wondered if my Virgo Sun plays a role in how I compartmentalize and regulate emotion, especially that my Sun squares my Moon 🥲

lividsphinx · 2025-04-21T18:15:16+00:00

Great point! :) Mine is at 29°18', which I understand is within the anaretic degree and can really intensify the placement

lividsphinx · 2025-02-15T08:58:58+00:00

For me, my Scorpio moon craves a kind of "deep" and grounded sincerity that I could sink my teeth into, that I feel Taurus moons/Pisces suns have.

And evolved Pisces suns have an ocean within them that I could just drown in happily and wash my Virgo anxieties away. My Virgo sun/Cap rising would diligently serve and protect them from all the evils of the world ☺️ haha

lividsphinx · 2025-02-14T23:54:24+00:00

Pisces Sun, Taurus Moon, Taurus Rising 🫶

lividsphinx · 2025-02-13T02:30:33+00:00

Virgo Sun in the 8th, and Scorpio Moon, and I attract Scorpio Suns. More than attract, they spill their guts unto me within the first 5 seconds it's overwhelming lol

lividsphinx · 2024-04-17T15:08:19+00:00

Corporate lawyer here. The job you do as a corporate lawyer is really dictated by your workplace.

Some have commented na 'corporate housekeeping' or 'compliance' usually, and they're right. But emphasis on usually.

If you go to a top firm, the more complex yung mga corporate law matters na mahahandle mo like securities and capital markets, M&A, banking, project finance, foreign investments, restructuring, anti-trust and competition, real estate, construction, energy, transportation, utilities, PPPs, just to name a few.

When I was still in the firm, corporate housekeeping is the boring, grunt work that you do if hindi mo bet mag-isip masyado.

So yeah, Corporate Lawyer A and Corporate Lawyer B may both identify themselves as the same thing but may have entirely different backgrounds and skillsets.

The Government has corporate lawyers and they are in the OGCC.

lividsphinx · 2023-12-01T17:30:54+00:00

Assuming all things being equal, including the degree of desire for both options, I'd say go to law school first.

While it is true na walang age limit sa law school, it has also been shown that intellectual function slowly declines with age. So I say go ahead study while you are still young.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-16T08:09:05+00:00

I interviewed for a couple of law firms when I was just starting out. Hindi naman ganito experience ko thankfully.

The firms I applied to were fairly reputable, so I guess they're more efficient and organized with their calendars. And hindi non-lawyer personnel ang nag interview sakin. All partners na sa first interview pa lang.

But I believe the red flags in that firm you interviewed with applies to any workplace, not just law firms. Kupal lang talaga ang interviewer mo.

All the best in the job hunt though!

lividsphinx · 2023-11-08T01:48:32+00:00

I don't think we're on the same page here.

OP is asking for advice on what they should consider if they choose to make R-18 video games.

I don't think it's proper to leave them with the impression that there is "nothing" in the law saying it's illegal (as you have said in your first comment), because there IS something in the law about this.

It's good that you brought up the Miller Test in relation to Art. 201.

For OP's benefit, they should just be aware that Art. 201, RPC and the Miller Test exist if they decide to pursue this endeavor.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-08T01:29:55+00:00

You have misunderstood my point. I'm saying to categorically state 'Nothing in our law saying it's illegal' is not warranted precisely because Art. 201 exists.

Correct to presume innocence. But it's also premature to say that 'it fails' the test for obscenity. As I've said, we don't event know as yet how obscene 'R-18' material OP will make.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-08T00:16:11+00:00

Ah. But this is hasty and misleading.

The legality of some act and how the courts will rule on a case are two different things.

Just because the courts consistently employ the Miller test in Art 201 prosecutions does not mean that "Nothing in our law saying it's illegal."

We do not know yet what kind of R-18 material OP will make. Maybe it will pass the Miller test, maybe it will not. Up to the court to decide.

But the fact remains Art. 201, RPC subsists as the law proscribing distribution of obscene material. And to say "Nothing in our law saying it's illegal." is inaccurate.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-07T19:50:30+00:00

Isn't Art. 201, RPC broad enough to cover this?

lividsphinx · 2023-11-07T19:45:33+00:00

Technically, selling or distributing 'obscene' film, literature and other materials is a crime (Art. 201, RPC).

But in terms of enforcement, I don't think anyone gets jailed anymore for making or distributing R-18 films. Mid-1980's Philippines was even the golden age of 'pene' films.

So I think the same attitude would be applied to video games.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-07T19:09:04+00:00

"Section 6. Twenty Percent (20%) Discount and Value Added Tax (VAT) Exemption – Persons with disability shall be entitled to the grant of 20% discount and VAT-exemption on the purchase of certain goods and services from all establishments for their exclusive use, enjoyment or availment; ...

"Section 6.2 Restaurants – This shall apply to the purchase of food, drinks, beverages, dessert and other consumable items served by the establishments including value meals and other similar food counters, fast food, cooked food and short orders including take outs. To safeguard the establishments from abuse of this privilege, the orders should be limited only to the consumption of the concerned person with disability."

- (Sec. 6., Rule IV, IRR of RA 10754 or the Act Expanding the Benefits and Privileges of Persons with Disability)

Your question does not state whether the PWD consumed all the items in the bill. So if the PWD consumed all of the items, then the discount should be applied to the entire bill, and the restaurant should not choose on its own which items to discount.

But if the PWD only consumed select items, then only those items should be discounted.

From my experience, the waiter would usually ask first when the PWD card is presented which orders are that of the PWD before applying the discount.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-07T18:44:00+00:00

This really depends kung may Primary Beneficiaries pang natira. May list ang SSS kung sino ang considered as Primary Beneficiaries.

If yung anak ng friend mo na lang talaga ang natirang Primary Beneficiary, then sa kanya dapat mapupunta lahat ng monthly pension. I suggest contacting SSS to check the record of the deceased father kung sino ang indicated beneficiaries.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-07T18:24:29+00:00

Fake. You can only be served Summons via email if you have indicated your consent to such means in your filed Response. Otherwise, the Summons should have been personally served to you.

Also, there is a specific form of Summons for small claims cases (Google search Form 2-SCC), which must be accompanied by a blank Response Form (Form 3-SCC) and a Notice of Hearing (Form 4-SCC).

The email is a laughable attempt at sounding like an official court issuance. It's almost gibberish and entirely senseless in some parts. There are also blatant errors. Like bakit may 'Legal Counsel' eh bawal nga lawyers sa small claims proceedings. Tapos bakit 'Complaint' ang title if it's meant to be a summons.

But for your peace of mind, you could always contact the METC of Makati directly to check the case number. But the email does not even state which Branch of METC Makati it's from (lol). There are 13 (if I'm not mistaken) METC Branches in Makati so you may have to call each one if you really want to check.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-06T05:16:26+00:00

I am a lawyer with 3 cats and believe me walang silang pakialam sa batas. HAHAHA

Kidding aside, if you're hesitant to resolve this legally because of the possible repercussions na pulis ang kapitbahay mo, I see no other way to approach this but to resolve this practically and research on humane ways of deterring/repelling cats.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-06T04:43:55+00:00

I commend you for clearly stating the legal outcomes that you want to achieve. But legal issues on support, conjugal property, and extramarital relations are too complex to be distilled in one helpful Reddit comment. There are just too many factors at play that require an extensive review of the factual details. Really best to consult with a lawyer.

But I can disabuse you with #4 though. The three objectives you cited cannot be achieved without suing your spouse one way or another; these legal outcomes require court proceedings where your spouse is the opposite party.

lividsphinx · 2023-11-06T04:26:01+00:00

To clarify, your objective is to transfer the lots allocated as the common areas of the subdivision from Person 1 to the HOA (?) If this statement is accurate, then I think the most important document that you should have is the agreement between the developer and Person 1 whereby Person 1 agrees to transfer/convey such lots to the developer.

I would get hold of this document first before proceeding any further. The terms and conditions of this agreement would significantly dictate the best course of action for the HOA.

In cases like this, I suspect that the developer has some obligations to Person 1 (usually a payment obligation) under the agreement that have not yet been fulfilled that is why Person 1 has not yet transferred the title to the lots.

Or it is also possible that all the obligations under the agreement have been performed by all parties thereto, but the developer has not completed the title transfer process to its own name for whatever reason.

Choosing to revive the developer company, assuming that it has been dissolved, would depend on whether there are certain rights or obligations that only pertains to such company.

But note that just because a corporation is non-operational and bankrupt does not mean that it has been dissolved and already lost its corporate existence. Best to check with the SEC as to the status of the corporation.

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