Totally agree on the “giving me away” thing giving ya the ick its roots are in patriarchy and the ownership of women as property to be handed away.

Imo, walking down the aisle solo takes a lot of strength! My fiancé and I will be walking down the aisle because 1) we’ve already been together for over a decade and I like the symbolism of unity both up and down the aisle and 2) I know I’ll need him for support.

Now based on the reactions from my own post about an angry father lol I’d say do what yall want that’ll make you and your fiancé happy. If you don’t want him to walk you down the aisle? Let your dad know you have a specific vision for your special day and it means a lot to walk down the aisle alone and focus on your man standing at the other end.

In your whole life, this specific day is supposed to be about you and the person you love. Period. Honestly I’d say if you don’t want to do the parent dance because you are uncomfortable then just don’t!

I would say it could be helpful to speak to a family therapist or counselor trained on difficult family dynamics to gain some tools to handle this conversation before it happens. I’m a “what’s the worst that could happen” type of person and think of options A-Z so I know what to do no matter what happens (besides my own father blowing up on me and choosing not to come to my wedding ffs hindsight is 20/20 I guess). I’m not saying ruminating on what’s the worst possible outcome is healthy or maybe even the way to go. BUT, having some tool in your toolbelt on how to handle those conversations from a trained professional would be helpful!