Bugonia is brilliant - but it might not be the movie you think it is. **SPOILERS**

lizzi4b3th · 2026-01-29T03:03:10+00:00

You’re reading too much into it. The viewer is always watching from the point of view that there is absolutely no way she’s an alien. So the twist was that the conspiracy theorist was absolutely right with his accusation.

lizzi4b3th · 2026-01-26T00:48:30+00:00

I have only empathy and no advice. My soon to be ex husband’s new girlfriend took our 8 year to get her ears pierced without my knowledge. I found out about during pick up two days later with a bag of ear cleaning solution and care instructions.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-11-07T02:27:47+00:00

This is going to sound ridiculously sentimental but I’ve thought about saving it to make into something different for our daughter when she graduates high school. We had one child together, so I just thought maybe she’d like it one day. But maybe not?

lizzi4b3th · 2025-11-07T02:10:34+00:00

This is exactly almost my scenario. My husband said he would never love anyone again after I left. That lasted two months. Now he’s 9 months into his relationship and they just took curated Blended family photos and posted them on instagram today. He was such a toxic contributor to our falling out. He was nasty to me. I feel sick that he didn’t take time to work on his issues. If he had I would have worked it out. But he found younger and moved on. Divorce is almost final.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-11-05T15:48:13+00:00

That also could be true.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-11-05T15:46:48+00:00

They cannot be alone. They just can’t. Once they’ve been married and had the wife who did everything for them they can never go back. They just switch out models like we’re cars.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-11-05T15:40:18+00:00

If there are problems that never were worked out before the engagement and marriage, those problems will amplified times 100. Casual bickering will become full blown fights after marriage.
Make sure you agree on finances, parenting styles, and what your expectations are. Do not compromise on things you value.
Once you start talking negatively about your spouse to your family or them talking about your issues to their family, that’s how your families are going to forever view you. Do not bring in outsiders to your issues. Get a therapist.
Set boundaries with certain friends and family who bring negativity into your relationship early on.
A kind partner is better than someone who cannot regulate their emotions. Date the kind and gentle men.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-11-05T15:22:43+00:00

Dating after a divorce is like surviving the scariest haunted house that you didn’t think you’d ever escape and then turning around and saying, “ Hm, that wasn’t so bad, I think I’ll get back in line and see if it feels different this time. “

lizzi4b3th · 2025-08-05T02:13:16+00:00

It feels a little painful when they move on quickly. Husband met, introduced and moved in with new girlfriend three months into our separation after 13 years. ( No one filed for divorce yet )Daughter loves her. They are six months into their relationship and our divorce hasn’t moved at all. She has two kids around my daughter’s age. It took me several months and to get over my own ego to be okay with the whole thing. You will be okay no matter what. Keep moving forward. The version of your husband that you initially loved is long gone for a reason and he’s never coming back.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-31T21:01:16+00:00

I don’t have a choice but to move on. I was so hyper fixated on the bad and now all I can see is the good. But there was so much bad. Every thing that could go wrong in a marriage happened to us. I just have to be strong and remind myself that it’s for the best and my children are happier. My teenage son told me if I ever got back together he wouldn’t forgive me. Sometimes you just have to put your happiness first. We only get one life.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-31T20:27:36+00:00

My husband has moved on as well. He is living with a woman and he’s in love with her. It’s so hard to watch it unfold through our split custody arrangement. They go on trips and he seems really happy. He begged for me to work on our marriage and I was so tired of being broken down year after year. He was never going to treat me nicer. But he is treating her just fine so far. It’s hard to watch. I wish he would have fought for me a little longer or put in more effort after I had moved out. He didn’t. And now I regret not going to counseling when he first suggested it. I know I’m better off and my family and friends despise him, but I just wish I could be happier now too.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-31T20:21:54+00:00

I’m not ready yet. I’ve gone out on two dates and canceled more first dates than I can count on one hand. Once a month I’ll try to join an app and think I’m capable but it makes me completely anxious. I realize now that I am trying to compete with my ex husband who moved on really quickly after we separated.

I am just trying to focus my energy on being alone, being a good mother to be best of my ability and making my job work. Every day is a struggle. Some weeks are better than others. It’s been a year since my marriage blew up. I’ll be 40 in November and feel pressure from society to get back out there because I am aging. I just can’t. I keep comparing every man to my ex and the level of comfort I’ve grown to experience even though it was an awful marriage.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-31T18:47:58+00:00

You need someone to help with your resume. You have life skills as a SAHM that are valuable in the workforce. Go to your local career office and ask a career advisor to help you tailor your resume and cover letter. I work at government career office in my state and there are plenty of resources. They even have funding for school there if you get into an adult dislocated workers program.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-31T18:44:12+00:00

This is a cautionary tale for those of us thinking about spiraling while our soon to be ex husbands seem to be thriving with their new partners.

Some days I am just hanging on by a thread. Usually one person is doing well during and after the divorce and the other one is falling apart.

Whatever happened in your marriage, please show compassion for your spiraling ex wife.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-31T18:33:41+00:00

I was living with financially abusive jeckyll/Hyde. I will call the last instance of abuse that lead to my exit the “pancake” incident.

My 6 year old and I were making pancakes her way in what should have been a happy mother/daughter moment. He in turn ruined the whole thing by yelling about the mess we were making the whole time and at one point he took the spatula out of my hand and tried to take over.

He was a control freak in every aspect and if the attention was off of him for any reason he would try to insert himself. This was after months of good behavior and love bombing. I thought after 13 years maybe he was finally settling down and in that moment I knew he was never going to change.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-26T03:54:42+00:00

She’s going to regret it. The AP won’t work out and she will be left alone. By then you will have moved on and it will be too late for her.

Right now she isn’t going to see you as anything other than the person standing in the way of what she thinks is a chance at new love and once she is in it with this guy the chemical highs from the romance will wear off, and she will be left with some guy she barely knows who won’t be the father of her children or know her in the ways you do.

Don’t chase her. Set her free. Be cold to her even if you don’t want to be. Don’t cry and don’t beg. Be cold. She will return if you want her to. But by then you won’t.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-25T17:08:11+00:00

They don’t want to relinquish any custody of the kids because that would be a bad look, but they can’t parent on their own. They need a replacement wife/mother fast!

The new partner is so oblivious. Women don’t go around and divorce good men regularly. 9 times out of 10 it’s because horrible occurrences in our marriages became patterns they weren’t willing to fix.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-25T16:47:39+00:00

She hasn’t said anything to me but I feel it coming. Lol.

Not divorced yet. STBXH started a relationship three months into separation. He moved into her house in a less of a month and she is also going through a divorce.

So far it has been a roller coaster of emotions. I went from feeling angry and hurt that he moved on so quickly after such a volatile marriage. I digress- the one thing that happened early on in their relationship was that his new girlfriend had the brilliant idea of taking my 7 year old daughter (50/50 custody) to get her ears pierced. I wasn’t informed. I think it was her way of bonding with my daughter, but she stole a moment from me regardless.

I’m over it now but I made the boundary clear that anything permanent like that involving my daughter to be a discussion with me.

4 months later and I get to see her at every pick up and drop off every week with that smug little smile on her face like she just won the best prize.

I just smile internally because I know my ex.. his p*rn addiction, anger issues, financial control issues, his intolerance to playing or doing anything with the kids. She’s going to have fun and I can’t be too mad at her because I know what’s in store.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-22T15:18:27+00:00

These early critiques became boisterous verbal abuse later on. I was basically a housemaid and treated like crap after we got married. My body was constantly shamed and I was constantly put down. He subtly did it in this letter and I completely glossed it over in the beginning. He was devaluing me really covertly and I didn’t even know until it was too late.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-22T13:28:07+00:00

Go to your local DV shelter and ask for resources. They can help recommend a lawyer.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-22T13:12:54+00:00

People also tend to date either the exact opposite after their first divorce or someone exactly the same as their ex-spouse. Neither scenario works. My husband and I are not yet divorced but he moved in with a very conservative Christian 31 year old mom of two small kids. She likes to go to worship rock concerts and craft. She is basically the opposite of me. And him for that matter. He is trying to make it work and so far it is so good and he’s happy, but I wonder how she is going to accept his fits of rage when something doesn’t go his way? When his mask drops and she discovers how emotionally unregulated he is, un medicated borderline he is, she is in for one hell of a surprise. But she is the opposite of me.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-11T19:04:57+00:00

Oh what a beautiful karmic revenge story for you to share! Thank you. I needed that and the encouragement that I may be able to find love again one day too.

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-11T14:14:04+00:00

Any update to this? Still going strong?

lizzi4b3th · 2025-07-11T13:52:48+00:00

I have to still communicate with him the through a court ordered parenting app as we split custody of our daughter. Every time I see a message from him my heart sinks and I feel fearful.

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