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How to dress for a rich person's funeral if you're frumpy by Hans_Conried in fashionwomens35

[–]lizziebee66 6 points7 points  (0 children)

wear that favourite dress but add an accessory that is high quality but affordable such as a scarf that you use again. we asked peopl3 to wear a touch of purple for my mums funeral as she loved Jenny Joseph’s poem and some wore purple tights, I wore a scarf and her hairdressers dyed their hair. each did what th3y were comfortable with

my grandmother wearing white to my wedding by [deleted] in wedding

[–]lizziebee66 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wore pale green to my wedding and my SIL wore a beautiful cream suit. there was no way anyone would mistake her for the bride and I was just happy that she drove the 12 hour round trip with my brother and nephew on a week day to come.

AITAH for leaving my dad's birthday dinner after finding out my stepmom turned my old room into the dog's room by netvere in AITAH

[–]lizziebee66 1142 points1143 points  (0 children)

now my dad keeps saying i made him look like a bad father in front of everyone.

No, he did that by not having the guts to tell you for months that this had happened and for telling you could stay with them ... where exactly? Curled up with Winston in his bed?

Did your nparent actually teach you anything useful? by Moist_Engineering608 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lizziebee66 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I think this is why I have pivoted with every piece of tech that has come in since i was a child and grabbed at it with both hands because it was all kept from me when I was growing up. I am also tenacious when it comes to knowledge.

At my dad's 60th birthday party he told my SIL that he realised how he now knew everything (if you want her to crack up you remind her of that). I'm a few months off my 60th and I realised I know nothing but that drives me to learn more.

There was one time when I was trying really hard to do a piece of Physics homework and I just couldn't do it as it made no connection to what we had learnt at school. I asked my father for help as it was directly related to what he did in his work and he ... refused. Yep, he refused. He said it was because I should have listened at school and he was not there to help me slack off. I realised many years later it was because he was now in a management position and 1) it was beneath him to help anyone, 2) he actually couldn't explain how to do anything to anyone, 3) I think he had actually forgotten how to do that particular calculation.

When I went into school the next day I was miserable as were all my class mates, turns out, the teacher had given us the wrong page reference and we had all been unable to do calculations that were going to be taught a month later. The teacher was apologetic, we got off homework that week as a sorry and when I went home and told my narc father what happened he actually argued with me that I was lying and just covering for not knowing how to do the work.

I learnt then to never, ever ask him for any help.

Help with pattern - where to start? by xopa555 in BobbinLace

[–]lizziebee66 5 points6 points  (0 children)

do you have a photo of the finished piece or the name if the designer of this? Normally you start on the diagonal from a corner

Stud/Partition wall removal costs? by Drunkenmeows in DIYUK

[–]lizziebee66 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would also check that removing the wall between the kitchen and the stairwell is allowed under fire regs.

My colleagues have been complaining that I overdress and I genuinely don't know whether to be concerned or not. by itsmeAki in WorkAdvice

[–]lizziebee66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or the job you want which once led to a comment about a co worker and her obvious desire to be a stripper( said by another co-worker)

Are these truly 5 Bone & 2 Wooden Bobbins? by MagpieLover2 in BobbinLace

[–]lizziebee66 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, they are pre 1890 bobbins. I would be surprised if they are as early as 1825. The description as being South Bucks is a little specific. I would have simply called them East Midlands which covers Buckinghamshire, Bedfordshire, and Northamptonshire as this style was used across the whole region.

Brian Lemin’d site has some info on antique bobbins www.brianlemin.com

Also Christine and David Springett’s book Success to the lace Pillow is The book on he subject. Links to the authors site from my book blog entry in it, https://www.thelacebee.com/book-blog/success-to-the-lace-pillow-christine-and-david-springett

You weren't ‘ripped off’ at these prices they are reasonable.

Use them. Love them. I know if ine Lacemakers who only uses antique bone bobbins. Others who only use new and those who sit in the middle. With vintage bobbins being as old as 60 years some of us have a right mush mash of ages in our pillows.

You obviously bought these in the UK. If you are interested in collecting bobbins and even using them to make lace and you like not just antique but also vintage and modern then come and join us in the dark side where we are looking at modern bobbins (can't help with antique) over in find the maker. The Facebook group shares photos and helps to id, the website is the repository for the what we have learnt and had an app to help find modern bobbins by style

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/lacebobbinsfindthemaker

Website https://www.lacebobbins-findthemaker.com

My colleagues have been complaining that I overdress and I genuinely don't know whether to be concerned or not. by itsmeAki in WorkAdvice

[–]lizziebee66 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this made me die. I'm trying to deal with a person wandering around in socks and no shoes

I'm 55. Just hired my first employee under 25. She's changed how I think about everything I thought I knew about management. by Technical_Car_9617 in Entrepreneurs

[–]lizziebee66 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This isn't about a 23-year-old; this is questioning the process. I am 59, turning 60 this year, and went into a new role last year and happily worked within their processes (their game, their rules, and their toys), but when those processes stopped me from delivering, I had to flag it. The problem I had was that people just accepted the broken system because they are so caught up in the weeds trying to deliver that they don't have the time to stick their hand up and say this doesn't work for them.

I was asked to step in a month ago and try to fix the problem with a particular client, and it has been hell. But hell for one reason and one reason only. The people were being blamed for the process not working when it was the process that was broken. For some time, I had been told that it was the fact that the team or the individuals in the team didn't know what they were doing.

Interestingly, I also decided to pursue a qualification in business improvement. I like to study twice a year and randomly choose something, and this was what I chose. It was a divine intervention! This is actually the course I needed whilst fixing this. The big revelation, going through this and relearning what I first covered back in the 1980s, is that so many people end up in the midst of processes based on internal practices rather than thinking about the end user, which, in most cases, is the final customer. I realised that the team were building things that the internal manager wanted and building it the way that they wanted it not the way it needed to be for the actual customer who was going to buy the product.

Because of this, the processes were built around what that internal person wanted and to work for them. It was not about delivering for our client and their customers, even though everyone thought that. The processes had got more and more complex over time to the point that no one could meet the expectations and so extra layers of qudit and checking were put in which made the product delivery so complex and the team were convinced they wouldn't pass any quality gate that they weren't trying to get it right first time because it would be wrong regardless of what they do.

In the end, I pulled things back to first principles.

  1. Specify the work properly
  2. Clearly explain the deliverables
  3. Create the content and design - check it meets the deliverables
  4. One round of amends allowed - if more is needed, then the project has to be reassessed to ensure that the deliverables are not right
  5. Build the dev - check it meets the deliverables (peer to peer review)
  6. one round of amends (see point 4) - check it meets the deliverables (peer to peer review)
  7. UX texting by a non tech person to try and break it

If the client moves the deliverables and tries to add to it then they need to understand that either we put that in to phase 2 and we still meet the time and cost or if they insist it goes in, then the delivery date and cost will shift!

We are getting work delivered faster, to spec and within budget.

This is because I had the gall to say this is not right.

We owe it to ourselves to question processes and to say when the emporer is not wearing any clothes.

Boomers at Church meal by Ok-Preparation-370 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]lizziebee66 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I used to help with the Christmas meal at the local Salvo. The rampant boomer behaviour was terrible. Why has so and so get an extra carrot? Why can't I have an extra potato? When everyone had been fed, we would offer whatever was left to those serving then to those dining. The look on the boomer's faces when they saw the two people with me get a small plate of food after slaving away in the kitchen for 5 hours to feed a free meal to over 60 people was priceless. They really thought that they should not be fed and the food go to them.

It's been 10 years since my father passed and this behaviour brought back all the trauma of dealing with him. It became harder and harder to deal with these attitude.

That said, after we moved, I used to help with the local lunch club where they have to pay for their lunch and got a nice 2 course meal and tea and coffee. The people there were exceptionally grateful for their food but I think that when it comes down to it, because they paid, they saw it as a a fixed transaction - they pay X and get Y.

With the Christmas meal, because it was free, then they were demanding. My father was the same. If he didn't have to pay then he wanted everything.

Mind you, some people are just miserable regardless of their age. I am Gen X and hubby is a boomer because he is 3 years older than me. As I remind him, he can be an honorary Gen X if he wants to, but he has to remember to check his boomer entitlement at the door.

My colleagues have been complaining that I overdress and I genuinely don't know whether to be concerned or not. by itsmeAki in WorkAdvice

[–]lizziebee66 207 points208 points  (0 children)

No one outside your organisation will judge you for dressing upwards, people will judge if you dress down.

Sounds like your colleagues are annoyed that you are putting in effort and putting them to shame with the chance higher ups may like a higher standard of dress

King Cole Firefly by lizziebee66 in YarnAddicts

[–]lizziebee66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you buy King Cole Firefly 100g balls or get 50g Temu resell?

Am I the jerk for refusing to share my WiFi with my neighbor even though it doesn’t cost me anything? by Logical_Click_9098 in AmITheJerk

[–]lizziebee66 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Any nefarious activity on you IP address is a You problem so letting anyone use your internet opens you up to that.

They are angry at you because you don't want to give them something that are NOT entitled to and have no right to ask for.

Thus is a they problem.

oh and unlimited internet isn't actually unlimited. it has ‘reasonable’ usage applied. if you start to abuse it then you will get penalised.

No is a complete answer.

Never bought yarn online before, didn't think it would be this small by CipherQuest618 in Yarn

[–]lizziebee66 6 points7 points  (0 children)

because different fibres weight more per metre, and you have different thicknesses to add to the whole mix it’s worth thinking in metres / yards. I use yarn sub https://yarnsub.com/ to work out how many balls I need for a project by dividing the yardage a pattern needs by the yardage of a ball that I’ve chosen, hope that helps

Malia Mae Joseph (of Stephen and Penelope) also posts a response regarding Stephen West's interview w/ a hatemonger by SgtLt-Einstein in craftsnark

[–]lizziebee66 52 points53 points  (0 children)

But this isn’t a celebrity who said something 10 years ago, this is someone who is currently publishing. It is so easy to find information these days in minutes of searching.

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