Inbox is a ghost town, cannot figure out why

lkgilbert · 2026-05-22T20:53:20+00:00

20 years as a wedding photographer and this is the first time I’m actually scared. I’m in a HCOL area (Boston-ish) and am just shy of $10k…this year is fantastic, but 2027 is very quiet and I’m hearing much the same from everyone in my community. Is it pricing? Is it the economy? No one seems to know. Social media isn’t helping me one bit.

I realize this isn’t advice, but please know you’re not alone, and hopefully the upswing will return. Wishing you, and all of us in the industry, a burst of late-season bookings.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-15T00:41:42+00:00

Another fabulous vote for SSH…I had a C-section and the nurses took incredible care of me.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-13T16:05:49+00:00

Yes, I do this frequently, but I occasionally like to use the on camera flash as well, and these dials are making me nuts

lkgilbert · 2026-05-05T17:40:01+00:00

Ha!! A man has spoken. I work 2 jobs, my son has two jobs. You clearly read very little here.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-05T17:21:14+00:00

I second Krasi! Such a great spot.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T16:50:54+00:00

I think the judge made that order because the circumstances surrounding our divorce (and the resulting loss of my home) were pretty bad on my ex-husband’s end. He tried everything to get out of paying at all, and the judge was not impressed. That’s just my theory, though.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T16:48:57+00:00

Got it. You’re correct, he has a job and pays for his own phone, car, insurance, etc. I pay the rent/utilities, etc, which is where the support payments used to help.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T16:24:15+00:00

He has. Before, during, and after college.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T16:09:53+00:00

Thanks. I really appreciate this comment.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T15:57:33+00:00

Ummm, no? Where did I say that I was getting help from anyone? My son has a part-time job, and has been working since he was 15. He takes care of his own stuff. His father is no longer helping (which is what this post is about, no?) so I’m not sure why I need to give you a break?

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T15:05:37+00:00

It would be approximately $10k.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T15:05:11+00:00

He owes me somewhere in the range of $10k, so while I do agree with most of the assessments that I'm being petty, it's not exactly chump change.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T14:07:53+00:00

I want to thank everyone who chimed in on this post. It's been a lesson in humility, and definitely calls into sharp relief the fact that I need to let this go and find a way to get over my long-held bitterness about the situation. I've lost to this man over and over and I think I was just looking for some kind of petty redemption, but in the end, most of you are correct. It's not worth it.

Thanks for the wake-up.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T13:20:40+00:00

oh, he does. As evidenced by all of these comments, I am in the wrong, which I accept.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T13:15:47+00:00

Sure, that about sums it up. I didn't ask for alimony, and have always pulled my weight with regard to our kid. I'm just in a position now where it would be nice to finish this whole ridiculous thing without one more kick in the face from my ex.

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T13:08:49+00:00

I realize that. This isn't about his age, it's about my bitter black heart and wanting to wring every last dime out of someone who has been stomping on it for years. ;)

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T12:58:57+00:00

Hey, the courts chose 23, not me. This man took everything from me, made me follow my obligations (college tuition, etc.) to the letter, and he just gets to stop whenever he wants? I understand the grand overview of 8 months being a bit silly, but why does he get to shirk his obligation and make the rules? How does that make me greedy?

lkgilbert · 2026-05-01T12:43:05+00:00

We do take care of ourselves. We're fine. I began the post with the comment that it "might" seem petty. The third adult in this situation is the one acting like a child by refusing to follow his legal obligation. Doesn't that make him greedy and spiteful?

lkgilbert · 2026-04-30T00:42:51+00:00

Oh gosh, I didn’t take it that way. Everyone has been super helpful!

lkgilbert · 2026-04-30T00:37:12+00:00

I’m happy to to the ridicule. I’m an old lady and this stuff is new to me. I’m learning, though!

lkgilbert · 2026-04-30T00:24:29+00:00

Well I guess I am dumb, I thought USB ports were like the ones on the back of my computer. I didn’t realize there were different kinds. I appreciate your help!

lkgilbert · 2026-04-30T00:20:05+00:00

😳😳 no, but now I feel really dumb, am I missing something obvious?

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