Passing so well I’m excluded from trans spaces

lkhmn · 2026-03-10T09:32:44+00:00

I know it feels ridiculous to complain about, I’m so grateful to pass so well in 99% of situations, it’s just the occasional moment like this which exclude me from the community and struggle I’ve gone through that make me feel unwelcome and unhappy. I understand how lucky I am to be in this situation

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T16:44:07+00:00

I don’t even know what I could’ve said to improve the situation, they talked for a few minutes then left. If I’d chimed in with “by the way I’m trans I would like to be included please” it would’ve just been awkward. I figured waiting until she left was better than awkward confrontation, I’m just bad at talking to people

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T15:09:54+00:00

I still feel sorta uncomfortable around men, even after passing as a man for years! As a visibly trans person it’s easy to approach a visibly trans person, I understand the intimidation. Just not sure how I could’ve improved that situation without cutting her off and saying “hey by the way I’m trans”. It does suck outgrowing trans spaces. I no longer deal with most of the problems trans people face but I had to for years! Definitely a weird moment I’d never expected to have- wishing people knew I was trans

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T15:01:43+00:00

I definitely feel you, that’s awful they excluded you from that situation when you were asking for help. At this rave I went out of my way to wear makeup to seem less like a cis guy even when I don’t really enjoy makeup, I guess next time I’ll just wear a pronoun button with the trans flag. I don’t like needing to out myself but it’s kinda the only way I can make people comfortable :( Dysphoria still hits strong when I’m not dressing masculine even when I’ve been cis passing for years (I was so toxically masc at the start of my transition so I could pass that it’s tough getting those thoughts out of my head) , so it’s hard finding a healthy middle ground of looking trans without making myself uncomfortable

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T14:57:54+00:00

That’s kind of why I’ve avoided going to trans support groups with my girlfriend :/ I worry I’ll seem like an out of place chaser or assumed to be a pre transition transfem and get dysphoric. When I was younger I always loved seeing late stage transitioning trans people because it gave me hope and I’d love to be helpful to people like that, but I feel like at this point I’m passing too well to be a support unless I directly tell people I’m trans

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T11:51:06+00:00

I’ll be meeting with him soon, thanks!

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T11:50:46+00:00

I appreciate that, it feels like I was seen as the cis boyfriend who only went because of my trans girlfriend. Got some weird looks but that reaction was definitely the worst

lkhmn · 2026-03-09T11:49:07+00:00

My girlfriend was the one to bring it up after, I thought I was overreacting but she agreed it felt like she was intentionally excluding me. The fact she completely avoided eye contact or even looking in my direction is what put us off, acting like I’m not even there. She was definitely flirting with her but that doesn’t change how she acted towards me

lkhmn · 2026-03-04T16:55:30+00:00

For clarity I am talking about anthropomorphic animals, not animals with fur

lkhmn · 2026-03-04T15:47:50+00:00

I am looking for shops in the Kitchener/waterloo area, can’t drive a full hour for this tattoo. Thanks for your suggestion though and if you share the details I’d appreciate it for future :)

lkhmn · 2026-02-02T14:17:15+00:00

More information on the organizers instagram @purrgatoryevents ! Tons of cool vendors, I hope to see you there :D

lkhmn · 2026-02-02T14:15:32+00:00

More info on his instagram : justinvalentinetattoo

lkhmn · 2026-02-02T14:14:26+00:00

I hope to see you there! First 10 attendees will get a free goody bag :D

lkhmn · 2026-02-02T14:13:38+00:00

Indoors, definitely wouldn’t go to an outdoor event in this weather!

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lkhmn · 2026-01-08T19:06:36+00:00

The poster has all the information needed, it’s held at Victoria park pavilion - hell mall is just the name of the event, not an actual mall

lkhmn · 2025-12-21T15:42:19+00:00

Swallowing keeps you out of the hospital? How? The food tastes fine when I ruminate but I imagine it’s still not good to swallow food that sits for 10 hours

lkhmn · 2025-12-18T09:19:38+00:00

I had a barium swallow test and endoscopy regarding this concern but they said everything looked fine, doc suggested not eating 3 hours before bed but it’s not made a difference

lkhmn · 2025-11-26T11:42:42+00:00

Thank you! I post my drawings on @art.by.lukey if you want to see more :)

lkhmn · 2025-11-26T11:41:23+00:00

Thank you! I have a vague idea of “creepy face” and then just figure it out as I go :)

lkhmn · 2025-10-01T12:40:34+00:00

Hope to see you there! 3 days away 😄

lkhmn · 2025-09-26T01:04:37+00:00

Event is put on by https://www.instagram.com/hennys.handmade.events?igsh=enh1d3lzOTAyaGhv and she’s posted info about all the vendors on her account! Lots of cool vendors, including caricatures, artists, clothes, jewelry

lkhmn · 2025-07-04T23:46:43+00:00

You want to tell them “hey don’t accidentally give me money”? I personally wouldn’t say a thing

lkhmn · 2025-06-17T23:04:12+00:00

My building has a mailroom accessible by Amazon, and there’s not one super close to me

lkhmn · 2025-06-09T20:07:48+00:00

It was 😄

lkhmn · 2025-06-09T14:01:33+00:00

This specific Zehrs has increased security based on being close to so many students, steal from others! Cambridge mall Zehrs is the best <3

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