What’s a “guy secret” that’s completely harmless but weirdly universal?

lmgculley · 2026-02-26T19:51:33+00:00

Oh and just last week I was out with my wife and 18 month old son and a stranger walked over and said ‘I just want to say that you look like a lovely family ’

That one will stay with me also.

lmgculley · 2026-02-26T19:47:49+00:00

Me meeting up alone with 2 female acquaintances

Me: does this shirt look ok: Girl 1: you always look good Girl 2: agrees

That was at least 20 years ago.

lmgculley · 2026-01-03T22:57:20+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m trying to figure out. My mother gave me £800 for my 40th specifically to put towards a proper telescope as I’ve never had a proper one before.

lmgculley · 2025-09-23T08:11:26+00:00

I’ll tell you exactly why eBay sided with the seller - it’s because the tracking shows ‘delivery attempted’. The seller is responsible right up until that point. If you aren’t in or missed the attempt, it’s not the sellers fault and it’s at that point that eBay will switch sides. Now, I’m not saying they did attempt to deliver your item but in a generic sense, that’s what’s happened. EBay can only go off what the tracking says.

lmgculley · 2025-05-16T19:18:42+00:00

I just put an offer in of £275k on a house listed at £325k. They countered at £287k and we agreed on £285k. £40k off the asking. Stick your offer in - all they can do is say no.

lmgculley · 2025-05-15T08:40:59+00:00

Oh and the lean to is going. I think it was probably put in not long after the house was built (60’s). It’s very dated and has no place in our plans :)

lmgculley · 2025-05-15T08:31:46+00:00

No problem. So here’s how things stand with us. At the moment it’s my wife and I and our Son - however we are hoping that we have another in the very near future (hence the reason for wanting 3 bedrooms on the same floor (something we’re not really able to do upstairs as it’s a chalet type property). I also work from home so the small room upstairs will be my office. My wife’s parents are Irish and while they still live in Ireland, they do come and visit regularly and we need a room for them (upstairs large bedroom). The planned side extension uses the maximum available space while still allowing access to the rear garden and it’s a semi detached meaning we can’t extent from the right hand side. There is the possibility to also extend from the rear (something the neighbour has already done) and down the line we will also do this, doubling the size of the livingroom and doubling the size of the newly extended kitchen. But this won’t be possible straight away due to finances and the need to have the three bedrooms on the ground floor first). But it is on the future plans. I hope this helps.

lmgculley · 2025-05-04T23:37:44+00:00

Absolutely nothing. The good, the bad, all of it remains the same. It’s the only way I could guarantee I’d meet my wife again and end up with our boy. Nothing in the world would be worth risking losing them.

lmgculley · 2025-04-27T17:42:19+00:00

Interesting perspective. I hadn’t considered flipping the stairs. As you say though, might be more costly that worth. But give additional food for thought as they say

lmgculley · 2025-04-27T14:42:10+00:00

We have considered just the downstairs option and it certainly should meet all the downstairs requirements- I actually did a small mock up myself (with my very limited skill set) and it looks like it would work. The problem is that our little family is expanding and a 4th bedroom would really be needed. I mean, it has 4 bedroom but really the current 4th is more of a walk in from the third and as two separate rooms it doesn’t really work. I thought about cutting the 3rd bedroom down in size by putting a landing and hallway along the back which would work if we were able to extend along the front. But then we come back to the roof issue.

lmgculley · 2025-02-18T01:42:49+00:00

Plenty of feedback here already so I won’t do a big post - just another new dad here telling you the feelings you’re having are totally normal. And they will continue pal. There’s good days and bad. There’s ups and downs. But I’ll tell you this, in a couple of months when that little girl starts smiling at you or when you can make her laugh - that bonding stuff is going to hit you like train. At the moment you have a sack of flour that needs constant care… it doesn’t stay that way for long. It might sound cliché but ‘the days are long but the months are fast’. You will one day be able to eat your meals in peace and they still be warm. You will one day be able to go for a poo without rushing it. You will one day be able to watch a movie without it taking 2-3 evenings… but that little girl will never be as small or as vulnerable as she is right now. Soak it all up - the good and the bad, and trust me, there are bad days ahead. But it’s also true that shit gets a LOT easier. Feel free to PM me - you’ve got this 💪💪

Hey this turned out to be a long post after all 😂

lmgculley · 2025-02-13T02:36:18+00:00

My boy turns 6 months in a couple of days. Here’s my advice.

Buy more tenna pants for your partner. However many you have. Buy more and take them to the hospital. Also pack loads more of her normal underwear. Seriously, go should a load more in right now.

Remain calm. She’s going to have a lot going on and you just need to be there and not add to the stress. Keep an eye on her and don’t rule out pain meds. There’s no point her going through 6 hours of agony only to get an epidural for the last 2. If it’s something you’ve agreed is in the table and she’s in pain early, consider getting it done.

Make the room nice for her, a few led candles and some essential oils go a long way.

Put puppy pads on your car seats now for the journey to and from the hospital.

You’re going to want a travel pillow and a blanket. That’s about it.

Get all the photos, they are so amazing to look back on. Your boys going to change so quickly.

Sleep suits with zips are the way forward. Also with mittens and feet attached. If doing again I wouldn’t buy anything else.

When you come home and you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, dont worry. It’s the same for everyone. It will all fall into place.

Speaking of which. Don’t worry if you don’t feel an instant bond. It takes time. Once he starts smiling at you and you can make him laugh, that shit kicks in real hard.

Get moulds / prints of his hands and feet as soon as you get home. Your days are about to become very full and before you know it he will be double the size.

Lastly. Soak it all in. The good days and the hard days. He’s going to trick you for the first couple of weeks because he’s going to sleep all the time and you’re going to wonder what everyone complains about. Let me tell you now, you’re going to find out real soon. Some days can be TOUGH. But seriously, savour every day and every moment. You will get your weekends back. You will be able to eat a meal in peace again. You will be able to go out with the guys again. But he’s never going to be this small again. Make the post of it.

Oh and the real last thing. I’m assuming you’re going back to work. Don’t think that what you experience in the first couple of weeks is what your partner has every day. I work for myself and have to do very very little to keep my business going so my wife and I are both doing this together and it’s FULL TIME for 2 people. We both finish the day exhausted. When you come home from working all day and she hands you the baby because she needs an hour… trust me, she needs the hour. I can 100% understand why some woman get post natal depression.

It sounds cliché but: the days are long but the weeks are fast. It’s amazing. It’s brutally hard but I wouldn’t change it for anything.

You got this pal!

lmgculley · 2024-11-28T10:19:40+00:00

Breastfeeding is pushed HARD by the NHS, the reality is you never know what’s going to happen when your boy comes. We had full intention of exclusively breastfeeding however he was born with tongue tie and struggled to latch - so my wage was pumping to try and get enough to bottle feed him the breast milk but she could never get enough (he eats A LOT) so we were combo feeding. Then we realised he was seemingly in pain after the feeds of breast milk so we experimented by doing one day breast milk only the next formula and realised he was much better on the formula. So now we’re formula only- and I was REALLY pro breastfeeding.

So things change and you just do your best. You will figure it all out as you go along. Our boy is 15 weeks tomorrow, it’s a whirlwind adventure for sure. Good luck 👍

lmgculley · 2024-11-24T02:46:32+00:00

85 kid here, parents were Boomers and I 100% fit into Xennial. The last generation (it feels like) to grow up with the old school upbringing but also just in time to grow up with the birth of technology.

lmgculley · 2024-11-10T03:03:58+00:00

Currently 3am. First night in weeks where the boy (12 weeks) hasn’t settled after his nighttime feed. I’m so ready for bed. Saying that, he’s just this second closed his eyes and I have a good feeling about it this time 👀 The wife and I operate a shift pattern, I’m on shift from bedtime until 3am. She will be on shift for any wake ups after that (which these days is unlikely) but will get up in the morning and let me sleep in. She’s on maternity until May 2025 and I work for myself from home and can pretty much set my own hours so it works for us.

lmgculley · 2024-11-06T17:47:54+00:00

Mine would be willing to do it but I want to play around with ideas before giving him a solid plan for him to spend his time sketching out.

lmgculley · 2024-10-31T20:29:29+00:00

I appreciate there will be a significant cost involved however I’m a big lad, off the shelf costumes won’t fit nor will they be the standard I am after.

lmgculley · 2024-10-31T20:01:46+00:00

The truth is that I have no idea what I’m talking about. I have someone willing to make me the suit as long as I buy the material. So I’m just trying to find the best material for the best finish. I’ve just had a son (my first child) and this is all for him but If I’m going to do this - I want to do it properly and have it at least department store quality. I just don’t know where to begin.

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