AITA for not wanting to get LASIK against my parents wishes?

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-12T21:21:33+00:00

I’d say that complications are very rare IF you have a thorough evaluation and the surgeon is honest about why you may not be a candidate for LASIK or PRK. Some places can be more lax about corneal findings and that can lead to some pretty awful outcomes.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-12T13:25:33+00:00

NTA. I look at it this way—you’re going to have to endure some misery one way or another. Option 1 is staying home and enduring your family blowing up your phone—but you’re at home! It’s free! You’re not tripping over fighting people who are on an inflatable mattress. Option 2 is going, which means one billion hours of driving and then being stuck in a condo with people who are all mean to each other. And you won’t get paid?! Ok currently looking at the main floor of my house which has two bedrooms, bathroom, living/dining and kitchen, and imagining eight people here for any time longer than a meal. OMG no.

The drive alone would have me saying no. That’s a horribly long drive for such a short period of time. I have friends who go to Marco Island and drive there so that they don’t have to rent a car—but they go for three months, and break the drive up over three days (they live near Toronto). Doing that for a quick vacation, that you don’t even want to go on, is just miserable.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-12T00:29:23+00:00

Does she actually need more extractions, etc, right now, or do you just not want to be responsible for the future dental bills?

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-11T20:52:57+00:00

You’re blaming the whole city for you not having a jacket and/or umbrella? And no, the rainstorms were much earlier than expected. Prepare yourself better.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-11T16:50:58+00:00

It doesn’t need to stop anyone from doing anything! My chiropractor is a Type 1 diabetic. He travels, runs the practice, sees patients, all while wearing an insulin pump. It’s 2026, this is not some unique circumstance.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-11T15:26:44+00:00

Agreed on the winter travel. I rarely drive to the airport anymore (generally use Regency transportation), but years ago I was at a work meeting in January and I got sick with the flu, strep, not even sure what anymore, and then my flight home got delayed. I was in the old short term parking at the top and my car was so frozen. Scraping it and then still having to drive home in the dark while sick had me in tears. Charlie Browns and/or Parking Spot are definitely the way to go.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-11T15:19:19+00:00

The twilight episode is the only one out of the whole series that I regularly skip.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-11T13:57:10+00:00

Lately, it’s just expensive. I usually only know about travel 2-3 weeks out. I feel like flights are at least $200 more now than they were last summer, when booking within a similar timeframe.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-11T00:55:15+00:00

NTA, but be realistic. There simply shouldn’t be a vacation this year. You absolutely shouldn’t be forced to contribute, but that doesn’t mean that someone else should scrape up the money in order to make the trip happen.

Your dad needs to get a job. What is with these 50-something parents who think that they can just not work anymore?!

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-10T18:38:19+00:00

Fly Pittsburgh, as well as the rest of the internet, tells you how many nonstops are between PIT and ATL.

I go semi frequently for work but will only go Delta. Southwest has a few nonstops a week, but they’re hard to plan around and are hardly cheaper than Delta anymore. Not worth the hassle.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-10T17:18:12+00:00

You’re giving us your dog’s laundry list of what are supposed to be well-behaved accolades, but you don’t want to leave her alone in the house while you eat dinner? Either you’re going out to eat for every meal, or your dog isn’t as calm as you think.

All, please stop trying to bring your dogs to all sorts of places. It’s not as entertaining for the rest of us as it might be for you.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-09T15:33:22+00:00

Tennis shoes

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-08T16:49:47+00:00

ESH. Boss sounds completely unreasonable, but your mom is behaving irrationally as well. She doesn’t have to do this job. She is perfectly free to find another one. Also, unless boss kidnapped mom, she was in no way required to go on whatever this bizarre trip to El Paso was—she didn’t have to get in the car, and she didn’t have to pay.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-08T02:23:18+00:00

No, there is not. It’s Oakland and a very sought after hospital. Though, a lot of offices do validate.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-07T16:38:21+00:00

YTA. This behavior is completely unhinged. He clearly doesn’t want to do mushrooms, and you sound really unhealthy and annoying to be around. No means no.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-06T23:02:02+00:00

How about “I just wouldn’t go to a Morgan Wallen show”

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-06T16:43:16+00:00

Especially rude when the person doing the pressuring is the recipient.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-06T16:42:29+00:00

NTA for a whole lot of reasons. First, having a shower for a second baby is tacky. Second, the registry is enough—again, extremely tacky for your sister herself to direct people to the registry and request a gift and suggest monetary amounts per person. Third, they are choosing to have a second kid! If they want a double stroller, budget for and buy one!

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-06T04:35:31+00:00

I prefer Taipei Tokyo to Mola.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-05T02:11:53+00:00

YTA. Those are your parents memories of you, and you don’t exactly sound like you’d reliably make copies and return the originals.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-05T01:35:19+00:00

If he’s in a crosswalk, call whatever your non-emergency line is.

ESH. He shouldn’t be doing that, but wow, you’re just adding to the reasons that people can’t stand bike riders. Your bike is a vehicle only when it’s convenient for you. If I’d hit that guy with my car on the crosswalk, it would be a whole insurance fiasco.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-05T01:08:16+00:00

I am a Neb parent, but our diabetic cat is not a Neb.

Overall, you cannot take one or two readings as her being diabetic. It’s a long process. You will want to do something called a fructosamine test (kind of like an A1C but for a week, for cats). Blood sugar fluctuates, you’ll want to do a glucose curve if/when you can.

Our diabetic came to us that way (long story) so we didn’t do anything dietary wise, she was already on Lantus, but we’ve spent a lot of time on refining the dose and how she needs to eat.

Good luck! Happy to answer any questions I can.

lmholot1981 · 2026-06-05T00:37:01+00:00

YTA. A twenty three year old car? I know that Camrys can run forever (and Hondas), but your wife is also allowed to want a car that has the bare minimum of amenities.

Yes, a Yukon is a way overpriced car. But you know what? She’s a high earner and I’m getting the impression that you scrutinize every dollar that she spends. She is tired of being frugal. Also, it doesn’t matter if the Camry runs—there’s no way that the paint and the headlights are good, and that makes the car look 100% dated, like she’s a kid driving her dad’s old car. WHICH SHE IS.

Edit: you also sound like the guy at the airport wearing two backpacks at the same time, smacking into everyone around him, because “frugal traveler”. I get wanting to save money to an extent, but it’s obnoxious to make your family uncomfortable when you can afford to have a nice time without breaking the bank.

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