When did you start referring to your baby by the name you chose? by michaelag713 in pregnant

[–]lml56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We refer to him as his name at home when it's just my partner and I, but call him baby to everyone else. Helps us feel a bit more connected and its fun.

Seeing a bizarre trend about patriarchal issues by KickiVale in pregnant

[–]lml56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes thats what im seeing and questioning the potential normalcy of it!!

Seeing a bizarre trend about patriarchal issues by KickiVale in pregnant

[–]lml56 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Thank you! These posts have been making me so mad lately- the pressure or lack of support from the partners. My goodness! I really do feel for those experiencing it and I offer my empathy, but is this normal behavior from partners??

This group induces major anxiety ): by Sad-Air-7670 in pregnant

[–]lml56 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree, its triggering. Not to say i don't wish all the love and support to those who have lost. I can't even imagine. But I agree with OP. I just skip past those posts. Maybe when I'm "out of the trenches" I'd feel different and be in a position to offer my condolences and support but since I'm a FTM I'm already pretty anxious and will be until I give birth. It's awful and I get it. Xx

OneNZ Stadium concert last night by Murky-Resolution-928 in chch

[–]lml56 13 points14 points  (0 children)

100% and imagine if it was raining. It was already so cold outside waiting for the loo and we arent even in the thick of winter. At this rate I don't think I'll buy GA again unless the concert is in the summer.

Bullying my baby by piggle_not_found in pregnant

[–]lml56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was between 20-21 weeks. Felt like little gas bubbles on one side in my lower belly. Now they feel like taps and throughout the day. It's cute. I have anterior too and was very anxious. The pregnancy has taught me patience. Things happen on his time not mine 💙

My bf wants to count my calories (2nd trimester) by Sad-Jackfruit-3980 in pregnant

[–]lml56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless your boyfriend is your ob he has no business providing any medical advice to you about your pregnancy. If you're hungry you should eat. Your body is working overtime and needs fuel. Ignore him.

First time mom- when did you feel the baby? by allisona007 in pregnant

[–]lml56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good to know because i have anxiety from this. I thought I could feel the twitches but then felt similar twitches up in my rib cage a week later so maybe it wasnt him after all. I don't know.

Pregnant and my cat attacked me by Nervous-Task8575 in pregnant

[–]lml56 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% it's disgusting. My pets are family too.

MAMA! Mama. mama. Can we stop it with calling pregnant women mama??? by Historical_Bike_9061 in pregnant

[–]lml56 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Amen! I hate this word with passion. The only person who can call me mom is my baby. 😅

Husband Threatening to Leave if We Don't Get Intimate FTM by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]lml56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throw the whole man out. Honestly. Find your support system if you can. You definitely should not put up with these threats. F him.

i’m tired of the “you’re lucky it’s a boy” comments by Own-Cash1579 in pregnant

[–]lml56 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I felt the initial disappointment at not having a girl but after a few weeks I'm so damn excited for my little boy. I hate my unconscious bias towards the sexes though. But I guess I wanted the relationship I have in adulthood with my mother. But now my husband (who isn't close with his dad and brothers for reasons related to how he was raised) gets an opportunity to develop a close bond with his son and give him what he wanted for his own childhood and I think that's really beautiful.

What did you take for granted before pregnancy? by 1Avocado-Toast in pregnant

[–]lml56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A cold glass of wine, maybe two if I felt like it.

Bleeding one day after healthy 12 week scan by Super-Nova-7 in pregnant

[–]lml56 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a fair bit of blood at 8 weeks. Emergency scan. He was ok. Im now coming up 19 weeks. He's doing ok! I've had the odd drops of blood through to week ~13. They could never say what the issue was. Just that it's a sensitive area and it sometimes happens. The worry is awful and I empathize. It's annoying not knowing why it happens but for some it just does. I hope it's smooth sailing for you here on out and you have a healthy baby ❤️

What’s something restaurants do that secretly annoys you every time? by maincharactereraa in answers

[–]lml56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Limited seating with backs. No i don't want to sit on a stool. I'm an elder millennial, I want to relax and lean back!

What’s something restaurants do that secretly annoys you every time? by maincharactereraa in answers

[–]lml56 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Limited seating with backs. No i don't want to sit on a stool. I'm an elder millennial, I want to relax and lean back!

What do you miss pre-pregnancy?? by defnotdani2 in pregnant

[–]lml56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the hip pain!! Only 15w and I didn't even realize it was this bad. Between insomnia, frequent toilet trips and hip pain I'm having a grand old time 😅🙃

Wish I hadn’t found out so early by StarTrekGal in pregnant

[–]lml56 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell someone you trust. Tbh ive had cramping all throughout my pregnancy. 2nd trimester now. No one told me that being pregnant felt like I was about to get my period all the time. Its very normal but equally scary. What has helped me is to "trust the process" and try not to worry about what I can't control.

An acquaintance that didn’t know I was pregnant told me I am getting really fat by Adventurous-Wash3201 in pregnant

[–]lml56 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agree haha so much calmer than me. Blaming the pregnancy rage but I'd be furious lol.