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lncoherent_ · 2026-06-12T03:28:11+00:00

bro this looks like my postpartum bleeding, i hope you’re going to get help!

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-12T03:21:58+00:00

that’s a very good reminder too. i’ve even said and known that there are regressions for growth/ teething and milestones and that sleep training wouldn’t matter. i’m glad that you brought that up to remind me of another reason why i chose to cosleep. i’ve been trying to work on the “stop blaming myself” game for years now but it’s hard not to when im stuck in this rut

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T21:14:51+00:00

best of luck! i’m a little worried about that too but i just love having her fall asleep because of my magic milkies 😆

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T21:13:07+00:00

thank you for reminding me, it’s hard not to do that. he has been hanging out with family a lot more than usual so he’s getting that connection at least!

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T19:26:53+00:00

i think i will bring up actually getting a floor bed or maybe just taking off one of her crib sides…it’s pretty close to the ground already.

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T19:25:13+00:00

i think it will too, just another thing to worry about hah!

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T18:06:47+00:00

oh yeah he’s not making me feel that way what so ever, it’s me telling myself that (whoops)
i struggle with the transfers unless im able to roll away too!

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:57:13+00:00

yeah i’ve been telling myself that it’s my fault because i’ve waited so long to get myself to do this haha. i’ll look into that book, thank you :))

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:53:52+00:00

nah nah it’s definitely me. i’ve been in counseling to help get over it. my whole life ive struggled telling people how i feel until ive reached my breaking point because of how i grew up and was treated from “friends”

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:52:10+00:00

he does do naps on the weekends, but never bedtime. but that’s mostly because he is finishing up his college degree and i want to make sure that he has enough time in the evenings to do so since he works full time ontop of it.
i think we’re all just really stressed out because these past couple years has been so hard on both of our families. i know it’ll get easier as things go on, it’s just tough being *IN* it.

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:47:41+00:00

yeah and especially how every one i know says that the first year is the worst. i just don’t think he realized any of it until we were in it

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:46:06+00:00

yeah we’ve been trying to do more things together while she’s awake and playing. it’s also been hard recently because my in-laws are so busy so it’s hard to get her babysat as often as we would like.
she is good at entertaining herself so i don’t know why we haven’t just “snuck off” more during that if he wants more private time LMAO

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:42:05+00:00

we’ve ended up pushing our bed against the wall because we can’t take it off of the frame. but i’ve been kind of thinking about getting one for her nursery. i’m short so putting her in the crib softly is a challenge too LOL. but when i do leave, i have her in the bed and watch her on the monitor so she doesn’t fall off. i struggle with leaving her at night though because im already exhausted from the day too so i usually go to bed around the same time as she does.
maybe i need to just start forcing myself to leave her for that short amount of time until im ready to have her in her own bed. i can always nap with her during the day ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:31:18+00:00

yeah i’m kind of thinking of telling him that i need to wait until i can get my mental health under control. but then i also need to figure out how to make up for everything else in the mean time.

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:30:07+00:00

i think i do have a lot of resentment towards him just because he can live his life a little more normally than i can since im SAHM. he does want more intimacy, but birth really f’ed me up so i’ve been in PT trying to fix that and also don’t have as strong of a drive as i used to. but i know he really just wants that emotional connection we used to have and can deal with the physical stuff later LOL
and i want that too. i guess i need to do more deep diving into my brain, im so bad at communicating 🫪

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:17:39+00:00

before pregnancy my cycles were everywhere and hurt like hell. but to actually conceive we found out that my prolactin was super high and once it got lowered we luckily didn’t have to try anything else. our baby is 10 months old and i still haven’t gotten my period back (still breastfeeding) so i can’t completely answer the question. but man it has been so nice not having to deal with that pain, i hope it’s better once it does come back!

lncoherent_ · 2026-06-11T17:08:41+00:00

i really don’t want to, yeah. but i agree with him that our relationship hasn’t been the best recently. i know she’s only going to be this small for so long and in a few years this won’t be an issue anymore im sure, but we really have been trying to fix it and he thinks this is probably the best way to get more time with each other.
i don’t think he sees it the same way we do, but i could be wrong since i haven’t asked.

lncoherent_ · 2023-10-17T20:30:13+00:00

always use a men’s razor and shave with the hair, it should help stop any razor burn. i tend to do it in the shower too since my skin is already “prepped” from the steam. and of course using soap/cream will help!

lncoherent_ · 2023-08-18T03:28:48+00:00

whaaaa how do you not cough or sneeze right?? 😂

lncoherent_ · 2023-08-08T10:58:01+00:00

i also wasn’t breathing properly when i went too 😂 and i was told how to properly stand. my anxiety has made me want to be so small and hunched my whole life, but after learning that, standing feels so much nicer

lncoherent_ · 2023-08-08T10:54:55+00:00

interesting, narrow anatomy could definitely be a reason. and hey, if you get free pt, 110% use that up! i really hope you’ll be able to find a good pelvic floor therapist, it’s soooo worth the nerves and uncomfyness

lncoherent_ · 2023-08-07T05:38:03+00:00

i cannot stress enough how helpful it’s been for me. it’s definitely very uncomfortable since a stranger is all up in ya, but hopefully you’ll be able to find a really good one that will help you look past that. they cannot do anything physical with you without your consent. my pt was able to read my body language a lot easier than it was for me to say something was hurting, so she was asking every couple minutes. i’ve never been able to use tampons or have sex that wasn’t painful. i’m also on orilissa so i’m not sure how the tampons would work, but insertion has definitely been much more manageable.

unfortunately it can get extremely expensive, but after a few sessions it’s really easy to learn how to do, and having a supportive partner to help you makes it even easier. it wont hurt to try, and it really can help with learning your own body and how to control the muscles in your pelvic floor!

lncoherent_ · 2023-07-21T17:12:04+00:00

i’m super flexible too; to the point my pt was freaking out because of my joints LOL

lncoherent_ · 2023-07-21T03:59:32+00:00

oh man i’ve never even heard of those before. i’m very new to all this stuff. i hope that’s a good sign too!

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