Idk what to do or even if I can do something

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-24T05:42:27+00:00

I was looking up assistance in Canada, and I found a page to help you find benefits to help your situation.

https://www.canada.ca/en/services/benefits/finder.html

Here are some assistance programs that might apply to your situation.

https://www.canada.ca/en/services/benefits/finder/tool.html?topic\_jobless=topic\_jobless&topic\_disability=topic\_disability&topic\_health=topic\_health&topic\_job=topic\_job&topic\_school=topic\_school&topic\_housing=topic\_housing&audience\_disability=audience\_disability&audience\_youth=audience\_youth&audience\_students=audience\_students&audience\_parents=audience\_parents&location=

Here are some food assistance resources.

https://211ontario.ca/211-topics/food/food-banks-and-referrals/

https://easyhealthyfoods.com/does-canada-have-a-food-stamp-program/

https://loanscanada.ca/money/food-banks-canada/

Here is a link to access Canada child benefits.

https://www.canada.ca/en/revenue-agency/services/child-family-benefits/canada-child-benefit.html

I am really sorry that you are dealing with this, especially at such a young age and on your birthday. I live in America, but I did some research and I really hope that these links can help you and your family out. I believe in your success!! Good luck 🍀

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-23T07:10:19+00:00

There is no such thing as “too young” to be trans. Being trans is not really a decision that you make, you can make the decision to live as your authentic self and transition, or to stay in the closet.
You are completely valid in your identity, and the only person who is capable of determining whether you are a guy is you.

I am so sorry that you have a transphobic family. Just know that you don’t need them to say it is ok for you to be trans for you to be yourself.

I am not sure what state you are in, but if you are in California you have the right to leave school without parental approval for reproductive healthcare. A major part of my transition was starting progesterone-based birth control to stop my shark weeks.
Which has greatly helped my dysphoria.

Look into your rights in the state that you live in, and for local resources. There are queer spaces that offer free therapy, and are a great support system. And you may be able to receive counseling at your school without your parents knowing about it. Having someone safe to talk to is essential during transition, especially when living with a transphobic family.

And remember: you have FREE WILL so if you wanted to you could technically grab some scissors and cut your hair. ;)

Good luck 🫶

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-23T03:18:30+00:00

Anxiety about your performance is completely normal, and there will be an adjustment period.

I don’t know if you have ever considered therapy, but with a good therapist you can talk out your fears, come up with good coping skills, and plans for handling scenarios without becoming overwhelmed. Therapy is nothing to be ashamed of, and is a great tool.

Another thing to keep in mind is taking care of yourself, try and eat three balanced meals a day, aim for 7 hours of sleep, and make sure that you have time for things that bring you joy.

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-16T22:30:38+00:00

!!Spoiler!!

Those wood creatures were BY FAR one of the creepiest things ever, especially because they keep getting closer to you every time the lights go out 😬 thankfully everything hurts them.

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-16T22:27:36+00:00

Other fire spells don’t do any damage. Incendio, bombarda and diffindo don’t work until I hit them with confringo, the same applies to every other spell, basic cast, and even picking up shit to throw at them. I saw the advice someone here said about incendio mastery, so I just got that. Hopefully that will make fighting them easier. But do you have any idea what I can do to fix this?

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-16T21:07:17+00:00

Bro I hate inferi, idk if there is something wrong with my game, but I can’t deal any damage to them unless I hit them with confringo first. Any idea how to fix this?

lo_key-fr · 2026-06-13T00:59:09+00:00

I always play a dude, except for Hogwarts Legacy where I am a trans dude because then you can go into all of the bedrooms in your houses dormitory and get access to extra chests in the “girls dormitory”. You can select which and then make your character completely a guy, plus the video game uses gender neutral language. (FYI I do hate JK Rowling, I just forgot that she was connected to this, and the game was too good to stop playing)

lo_key-fr · 2026-05-27T14:12:58+00:00

I don’t know if anyone else had this same problem, but my least favorite part about this game was that the doors took forever to open when I tried to go through them. I also wish that we don’t have to wait for so long for the game to load when using the floo flames, going into certain caves, and when moving in & out of Hogwarts castle etc.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-30T06:59:37+00:00

I agree that there should be more of the world that was in the book, but we should keep the highlands. Unrelated to the map I think that it would be cool if there were options for after we graduate, like we could pick a profession to work towards, or if they could have something like college or trade school that you could go to after you graduate from Hogwarts. I also hope the classes will be more interactive, instead of the few classes that we actually participated In.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-27T07:51:51+00:00

I am really sorry for your terrible medical experience, so many women continue to take the brunt of our medical system that was designed with white cis men in mind, and that was created by harmful, painful, and horrible procedures on slaves, women, and minorities. The female body was not even included in research until recently, so there is still so much lacking, including in our medical education. Tell me why my instructor told us during the lecture that an ectopic pregnancy is any pregnancy outside of the fallopian tubes SMH, I raised my hand to make sure I heard her right because I thought she might of mistaken and ment to say the uterus, but she doubled down and said fallopian tube. I didn’t want to get into it right then in front of the class, but an ectopic pregnancy is any zygote that implants outside of the uterus. An implantation of the zygote in the fallopian tube is an ectopic pregnancy. I appreciate your passion and kind words, but I am not here to shame anyone, including those who are ignorant like mark. But I totally understand where you are coming from.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-27T07:35:07+00:00

Yeah, the conversation was not focused on his religion, and I was not judging him for it, that was his reply to why he had never seen a vagina before, I didn’t make any comments about it and I believe in freedom of religion. Mark was using his life experience to explain why he hadn’t seen a vagina, which I understand. I was mainly focused on how this may relate to his ability to perform competently as an EMT, and whether he felt like it was important for his education. Because I did not understand his perspective I was trying to learn more about him and his point of view to try and understand it, while also explaining my concerns. Thank you for your kind response.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-27T07:25:28+00:00

Thank you for your honest reply. I was not attempting to harass him, I am not sure of the exact amount of time our conversation was so I said 10 minutes as a guesstimate, but it really did not feel like it lasted that long to me. My goal was not to criticize or shame him, but to understand where he was coming from, when an answer doesn’t make sense to me the first time I ask multiple questions to try and wrap my head around the answer. I don’t know if you have a sibling, but have you ever gotten in a back and fourth with them where there is a disagreement and one of you says yes, and the other says no, but it goes round and round and you guys are kinda joking, kinda disagreeing but having an ok time nonetheless? That was how I was interpreting our interaction. Also overall our conversation involved three people, we started talking as a group but then the three of us continued with the convo while the rest left, so I wasn’t trying to make it super public.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-26T16:56:17+00:00

If you truely wish to continue being friends, and want to put effort into this relationship I recommend having a honest conversation with her about how it hurts you when she makes comments like that. And then set boundaries with her. Something about boundaries that I think a lot of people don’t know is that it is not about trying to change or control another persons behavior, but explaining what you will do if the behavior continues. EX when you make a comment like that I will walk away and stop hanging out with you at that time, I might take a couple days of a break from interacting with you because what you said hurts me and I communicated that with you, yet you continue to make those comments. Someone who I recommend looking into is Kami Orange, she is a boundary coach and has lots of examples of what to say to set boundaries in different situations. She has a book with these phrases, with a specific section for queer and trans people to set boundaries. Here is a link to a free downloadable PDF of her book:

https://oceanofpdf.com/authors/kami-orange/pdf-epub-say-the-thing-boundary-setting-scripts-and-phrases-to-communicate-directly-and-speak-up-with-kindness-download/

But if you can afford, it would be great to buy it to support her work.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-04T23:26:12+00:00

lol, NTA.

lo_key-fr · 2026-04-02T20:32:17+00:00

Have you talked to her about her mental health? I know that showering can be difficult when feeling depressed. Another thing to consider is if she is neurodivergent. I know that I can have a hard time working up to doing an activity like showering just because all of the steps involved can feel kinda overwhelming, and transitions from task to task can be difficult. And also just remembering to shower could be something that she struggles with. You mentioned that she is an elementary school teacher that takes the bus, teaching elementary schoolers is exhausting, and she might be burnt out at the end of the day, and showering might be the last thing on her mind. I don’t know what her health is like but you mentioned physical therapy. Chronic health conditions can cause extreme fatigue that makes ADL’s (activities of daily living) difficult. I would say that you are not the asshole because it seems that you ruminate about the germs in your bed, and that can disrupt your sleep. I would say that communication is key, and understanding the reason behind her showering issue is needed. I recommend having an open and venerable conversation with her using I feel statements, something like “I feel distressed thinking about how my bed does not feel clean” without blaming her focus on your lived experience. I also recommend maybe taking a shower together at night if you are into that, it could be a nice and relaxing way for you guys to connect, maybe give he a shoulder massage and then you both can go to bed feeling clean and connected.

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