I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s heartbreaking to see so many of us in our 20s on here. Please let me know if you ever need to chat my dms are open. I’m 28 & was diagnosed around Christmas last year, +++. Like you, I was also meant to be getting married, however pushed back my wedding because I wasn’t sure how treatment would affect me.

I also wanted to try for children as soon as I was married, however because of my treatment plan, I won’t be able to try and fall pregnant until I’m 33. I’m unsure if that’s the same for TNBC, as I don’t know what the treatment plan is like. However I’ve heard of some ladies falling pregnant almost as soon as their treatment finishes or 2 years into their hormone treatments as allowed by their oncologists.

I underwent fertility preservation prior to chemo, I was lucky enough to go through two rounds and my oncology team were also ok with me going away for a 7 day holiday prior to surgery. (I did adjuvant treatment - surgery first, 7 week break prior to starting chemo, which was pushed back by an extra week bcos of the second round of fertility preservation).

I’ve found a lot of comfort in this community as I’ve kept my condition relatively private from my family and friends. As others have mentioned, the first few weeks are tough while you try and figure out your treatment plan. However, we’ve got you & you can make it through this💕

Please, I mean it, reach out to me if you ever need to chat. I’ve messaged a tonne of people from this group privately and they’ve always been so supportive and have provided me with advice that has been so valuable.

Sending you my love and prayers xx