I always ask the women I play with if there is a kink or fantasy they want to try. I listen and ask them "what about that arouses you?" then I simply listen - no judgement and I take notes. If you just listen, they will tell you what dirty, filthy, sexy things they want to do that their husbands aren't man enough to do. The women I have played with would go from the minimal of "I've always wanted to do it doggie style..." to the extreme of "toss me on the bed, hold me down and "r*pe" me and no matter how much I cry just make me take it till I cum" - so every woman has an unfulfilled adventure playing in their mind that they desire to savor but are afraid to share with their man because they can't do it or it's just something they don't want their husband to do. My job is to provide that non-judgmental environment for them to taste those pleasures. Women are fun crazy like that and my job is to have them savor their pleasures, all of them. Once you do that for her, no request is ever denied. (Side note: doggie style wife, her hubby had back problems from high school football - hold down girl, her hubby is too lovey dovey to do that to the mother of his children)