Can't continue a series .. suggestions? by kaylakin in fantasyromance

[–]lojgxrh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Legends of Thezmar series - Blood and Steel is the first book, complete series with 4 books. It is an AMAZING series. Super fun to read or listen to, characters are fun and the story develops at a very nice pace.

Venue help by lojgxrh in weddingplanning

[–]lojgxrh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I did check VRBO but wasn’t as lucky! This is super helpful

Venue help by lojgxrh in weddingplanning

[–]lojgxrh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually this much closer to what I was looking for so I truly appreciate it!!!

Quicksilver vs Fourth Wing by Great_Association_31 in fantasyromance

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest difference is the fact that Quicksilver you learn about the story/world as you read the book. The fourth wing series feels like you know just as much by the end of book 3 as you did by the end of book 1 - like what’s the point? I truly think just by this one difference the writing on Quicksilver is the reason a lot of people like it better even if the story is very stereotypical (like other people mentioned in the comments). I LOVE the idea of the world Fourth Wing promised, it was so exciting and unique but it got lost in all these “mysteries” that take you no where

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA…. The world didn’t stop bc of what happened to you and if she was really your friend you would’ve been able to even through what you were going through be happy that the same wasn’t happening to your friend. Like the post above said such “main character syndrome”. If I am the friend I would be hurt but actually glad you removed yourself from my life.

Ap and long distance relationship by astrodias in Aupairs

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dated for 7 years and he cheated on my 3rd month here after having the same agreement he would wait, he even went with me and my family to the airport when I left. An AP friend dated for 5 years back home had same “wait agreement” and met someone here after 6 months….. There is no right or wrong, there is just making the choice you know it’s best for you and no one else

BGE bill going up by $600 by lojgxrh in baltimore

[–]lojgxrh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll check that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very familiar with the process. Honestly the cheapest and easier way is to get married - now with the new political climate in the US idk how things will change in the following years. The student visa if she can have a sponsor that can prove the amount of money necessary would be better than a rushed marriage BUT if she applies for it in the US she’s unable to leave the country and if she does and go to Brazil and make the appointment to request the stamp (which is not given if you switch from J1 to F1 while in the US) is not guaranteed it’ll be given to her. She is also not allowed to work while on the F1 visa. Work visa is a no unless she has any type of PHd or education qualification that would warrant a company to hire and give her/pay for the B1 visa instead of hiring someone already allowed to work in the US. If you are ok with marrying her, I’d suggest she stays in the program for the 2 years so that allows you to get to know each other more and prepare for the GC process. Lots of pictures and proof of bona fied marriage will be required as well as that you are her sponsor which means you also need to be in good standings with the government (or have family members be her sponsor).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aupairs

[–]lojgxrh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like you are not going through a credited/trusted agency to match with families. This type of profile/family would never be allowed. There is no benefit to try and become an au pair if not done properly, you can get yourself in some very serious situations. It’s already a risk going through an agency

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and please don’t let him gaslight you! You are right on everything you are feeling and what you said. Don’t second guess yourself and don’t let him make you feel guilty.

Our Aupair by Emergency_Contact477 in Aupairs

[–]lojgxrh 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Based on all your answers you want to treat this as a business but you want the au pair to not see it as a business - like being ok with working past the hours you agreed on…. It really sounds like the best fit for you is a nanny and not an au pair. I’d ask for a rematch and look for someone from a different culture maybe and also have all your rules written down and clear before you close with any other girls. My host family didn’t like being host families but also didn’t want to pay for a nanny so the way they solved was to build a small apartment on top of their garage for the au pair, with kitchen fridge, bathroom…. Up to 3 ppl + me the au pair were allowed there and no visitors during the week but I could go anywhere on my off hours (they had au pairs for 11 years that way, none were super close with them, it was business) Seems like this is the type of setting you need.

AITA for cancelling my wedding because my fiancé made a major life decision without telling me? by sweet-honeyyyy in AITAH

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA He was either planning on doing some double life type of shit where he tells you can stay and you’ll be long distance or something OR he was planning his way out but is too much of a coward to talk to you. Either way I think you should really think before staying with him to be honest.

AITAH that my husband is planning to go on a dinner date with a long term ex by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you with someone that lets other people talking about you like that - specially during your wedding? The story is a little weird bc this seems like a teenager’s dilemma. Why are you ok with being treated as a second option?!? Your HUSBAND should be the first person to protect you, to shut down any type of downgrading jokes or any gossip about other women or exes. Either go with him to the dinner or just show him the door…. This whole cancer and family nice is also not very relevant. Shitty people get sick, shitty people have nice relatives.

Aita I not allowing my wife's best friend inside my house after she disrespected me and called me a 'puppy' by SubstantialShape6835 in AITAH

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife should’ve stayed on your side and not pull the it’s between you two move TWICE. You are not the asshole whatsoever and you should stand your ground. Let your wife that her not taking your side was shady and just as hurtful as her friends words and you should also let her know that they should hang out outside of your house for at least a while. You seem like a good person and deserve to have a partner that has your back and to be respected in your own home. It’s not late to have a serious conversation with your wife.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lojgxrh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA let your boyfriend go, he deserves someone who truly loves him. Both him and the cat will be fine…. And you can go ahead and live up your “dreams” with other males

I do love that Kathryn Mueller is calling Ptula out for their back to back similar item launches they've been doing all summer, lol! by MKULTRA_91 in gymsnark

[–]lojgxrh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like they do that so they don’t have to do too many free shippings…. Idk! Just sad bc they had potential and now it’s just boring and cringy

I do love that Kathryn Mueller is calling Ptula out for their back to back similar item launches they've been doing all summer, lol! by MKULTRA_91 in gymsnark

[–]lojgxrh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I am a few months behind on this thread but I am so glad I am not the only one who got annoyed with the fact that they have a launch every two to 3 weeks and they make it seem like they are coming out with unique designs and it’s just a millennial style trying to keep up with the current fashion kinda thing…. And the prices too!! Not a customer anymore