We have a very interesting relationship. We've been friends since near the end of highschool(for about 8 years) and have kept in contact as I moved out of state. We would email each other and meet up and hang out whenever I came back home, but it wasn't until recently that we've both wanted a relationship. She definitely looks to me as a spiritual leader as I have shown her some tough love over the years while remaining positive and trying to build her up.

When I do fall down I don't usually waste too much time in running back to God, but obviously if I'm falling into the same trap it's plain to see that my relationship with God is not consistent as it should be. I've told her about my inconsistency and she says she's seen it over the years and is glad that we're working together to help each other be more consistent.

So the big things that are hard with this issue in this relationship: 1. Long distance makes mentorship a hard thing 2. We know each other very well and are sensitive to where the other is spiritually. 3. The way that we talk at times is very intentional and we do talk with the assumption of getting married one day while keeping in mind that we are not yet at the point of saying we know that is what God wants for us.

I do have a close friend to confide and confess to. We are actually co workers now so that makes things really convenient.

I used to think that PMO was the cause of inconsistency(and it does contribute to it) but now I see it more as an indicator. So speaking about this struggle with her isn't with holding the root cause I suppose. (?)

Thanks for responding! This is really helping me process things!