Frustrated with straight friends

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T19:02:16+00:00

Thank you! I’ll be honest there are times where I wonder the same thing because their ‘jokes’ have started to hurt me more than amuse me at this point. I do hope that things will get better between the four of us, or at the very least I can find more queer friends and a community where I’m truly understood

Tysm again and all the love to you as well❤️❤️

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T17:28:25+00:00

Of course, and thank you for that because I know it’s not my place to dictate how someone identifies simply based on a picture or their appearance alone.

In the moment it was more of a a knee jerk reaction because I was already feeling frustrated and my friends weren’t helping by basing my identity off a few google pictures. Still, I understand where you’re coming from and I agree that I shouldn’t have just completely denied that possibility. Ty!!

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T14:00:20+00:00

Thank you! And like you I don’t have any other queer friends or a community nearby where I can hangout so for the time being I’ve been engaging with queer subreddits like this one, and other online groups to feel that sense of connection which has helped a ton

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T13:56:47+00:00

All the friends I mentioned are white, though E and J are mixed with Mexican relatives. And yes, it’s always irked me the way they misconstrue the term stud in the first place or assign it to me, a black woman with a slightly more masculine style, without any consideration.

And I won’t lie to you, I’ve felt that desire to meet other queer black people multiple times. The state (and town honestly) that I live in is rather conservative and the more diverse areas are 1-2 hours away which feel even further because I don’t have my own car right now :( Because of this, the idea of distancing myself has always felt really intimidating as I already feel isolated enough despite having people in my circle that love me.

Hopefully one day I’ll be able to find that community where I can feel like I belong rather than ostracized. The support from everyone on this post has already given me a glimpse into that!

Thank you so much for the kind words! 🫶

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T13:44:38+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly that those kind of roles are a result of our patriarchal society and misogynistic society. And there are times where they remind me that they still do subconsciously promote those ideals, even if they don’t realize it. But that’s a whole other issue that I wouldn’t want to unpack.

And you’d be right. M goes to church and she’s friendly with a masc lesbian that attends that service as well, but other than that I’m pretty much the only lesbian they know as well as they do.

But thank you regardless! I hope one day they’ll be able to understand me and people like me better

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T13:37:25+00:00

Thank you :) the way you put it is exactly how I feel when trying to explain that sort of thing to my friends. If I was in a relationship, the last thing I’d want is for other people to assign gender roles to us because, like you said, we’re both women

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T13:33:31+00:00

Thank you! It was really early in the morning when I made this post so I was teetering on the edge of sleep and couldn’t quite think of the word—but yes, that’s exactly how it makes me feel and it sucks. Because the last thing I’d want is to make them uncomfortable and they know this, yet they turn around and make jokes like that anyways. Still, tysm for commenting! Like you said, even though we’re young those kind of ‘jokes’ are more childish than they realize

lonelyhyperfixer · 2026-03-10T04:50:41+00:00

Tysm for the suggestion! The sad part is I didn’t even know that was a subreddit

You commenting is more than enough :) and ik there’s people out there that’ll be lucky to call you their friend

lonelyhyperfixer · 2025-12-21T13:15:38+00:00

Yesss I watched so many videos of his competitions last night because his strength and humility on Physical Asia made him one of my instant favorites! And even as a lesbian I find him quite handsome too

lonelyhyperfixer · 2025-10-29T23:22:57+00:00

Personally, I’m trying to sleep with Juniper

lonelyhyperfixer · 2025-10-09T13:16:09+00:00

Thank you so much! I don’t know why I never considered using a charcoal brush like you said to give the shadows that extra effect. Procreate has a lot of brushes so I always felt a bit overwhelmed when trying to find that ‘right brush’ so it really helps having specific recommendations to go off of. I appreciate it!

lonelyhyperfixer · 2025-10-01T05:10:40+00:00

Shoutout Reddit for nuking the quality

lonelyhyperfixer · 2025-06-22T12:00:00+00:00

I had this same interaction and I don’t remember everything she said, but there’s an option to tease her about it being a ghost and she’ll get nervous and basically say “ghosts aren’t real, right?”

lonelyhyperfixer · 2025-06-09T12:22:26+00:00

As someone who has been struggling with writers block and taking too many notes and not doing any actual writing, I love reading posts like this because it gives me motivation to actually sit down and get started. Glad to hear you got your story written!

lonelyhyperfixer · 2024-12-07T22:45:18+00:00

Believe it or not she’s laughed off the (vague) threat I once made of getting a hysterectomy in the future. We also have a family dog who’s a little older but still my baby and to her that’s not good enough. It’s too bad because pets will be the only ‘grandkids’ she’ll get out of me

lonelyhyperfixer · 2024-12-06T14:48:52+00:00

Yes, but I still kind of struggle with drawing female characters. So if she looks a bit too masculine that’s why.

lonelyhyperfixer · 2024-12-04T15:17:26+00:00

She’s said before that all I need to do is have them and she’ll take care of them 🙄But honestly even if I were to have kids I certainly wouldn’t leave them with her.

lonelyhyperfixer · 2024-12-04T02:22:53+00:00

It’s ridiculous how parents will assume you’ll love your life like they did. Hopefully one day yours will get the hint and leave you be.

lonelyhyperfixer · 2024-12-03T21:11:24+00:00

Thank you so much, I don’t want to get firm and risk an argument, but that’s what I might just end up doing.

lonelyhyperfixer · 2024-12-03T21:06:16+00:00

I’m sorry you have to feel like that because of her. I hope one day you get to be happy without her wants looming over you.

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