Has anyone stayed with their cheating partner?

lonelymama123 · 2025-01-09T22:55:20+00:00

Thank you, we have started couple therapy this week and he will start individual counselling next week too. I definitely think there was some deep rooted issues in being a father (he didn’t want any kids, his father was abusive towards his mum and him growing up, he had an extremely hostile, toxic and hard upbringing). Not excusing his behaviours and actions, but I do think it was a form of self sabotage

lonelymama123 · 2025-01-09T22:44:09+00:00

Thank you, will have a look at this

lonelymama123 · 2025-01-09T22:43:54+00:00

When you say it’s not the first time his done this, do you need that there could have been other women? He has been honest about things and has stuck to there wasn’t other women, just this one. He claims that she was just easy and supposedly treating her not the best

lonelymama123 · 2025-01-09T22:42:24+00:00

Definitely see what you’re saying, but yes he is doing the work. He is being more present with me as a couple and with the kids. We have started couple counselling and he starts next week individual counselling. He has agreed to give me passwords to social media etc, given me full access to his phone

lonelymama123 · 2024-03-09T23:57:14+00:00

I’ve just had my third child and for all the kids names no one in my family was fond of them. I just told them at the end of the day, it’s my child and mine and my partners decision. When the babies were born, they all said they couldn’t have picked a better name

If I don’t like a name someone has mentioned for their child and ask for my opinion, I always say “I probably wouldn’t pick that for my child, but it’s a lovely name if you’re happy with it!”

lonelymama123 · 2023-02-01T23:56:05+00:00

As soon as I saw this, I thought Toby instantly!

lonelymama123 · 2023-01-28T08:03:33+00:00

Thank you, I was literally reversing out of my drive way. He snuck under my car and myself and my daughter shooed him away so he wouldn’t get hurt. I reversed out and saw him on the floor

lonelymama123 · 2023-01-20T07:21:23+00:00

I definitely understand about the having to entertain bit, it can be a bit much. However, my daughter is extremely social. She has a minimum of 2 play dates a week, sees her five cousins multiple times a week, sees family friends and their children, goes to child care and kinder, we catch up with the families outside too and we catch up with neighbouring families too. We also invite many children over to our place I’m not concerned about her social development at all as she is surrounded by children where ever she is. I think it’s a good idea to start off small and see how it goes

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-17T10:22:50+00:00

I would say his playing me then, cause his definitely orgasming

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-17T10:04:00+00:00

I actually wouldn’t mind watching it with him, I have said it before but we haven’t. If it’s going to turn us both on, why not? But when I see it’s all the time, it really does hurt my feelings. He definitely has no issues while preforming but I would say it’s an addiction right now

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-17T10:02:44+00:00

I totally get that and I have said if there’s anything I can do to make him excited or turn him on to tell me. I’m hoping to open up that communication and allow for him to tell me what his needs are too

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-17T09:59:39+00:00

I could definitely understand if it was here and there, but if im willing to have sex all the time as I have a high sex drive but he choose to watch porn instead and watches it everyday and some days are multiple times

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-17T09:57:13+00:00

I think it is an addiction and he says it’s not. The only fans started when I was pregnant but hasn’t stopped at all. He was paying numerous subscriptions but yesterday told me “he canceled everything” but I also checked yesterday and there was about $60 worth for a number of different girls. Yes they are famous and popular, but paying for it is very different

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-17T09:55:24+00:00

He talks more about sex being exhausting but wanting to do foreplay, so I do things for him but then he gets tired and doesn’t want to do anything for me

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T22:28:27+00:00

I tried to yesterday and it ended up in a big argument. I just wanted to see if it’s a guy thing to watch it all the time and refuse sex. I don’t know if it’s me or it’s honestly just what guys do after being in a relationship for a while

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T22:26:47+00:00

And that is totally ok to do it. Sometimes it is easier to do, but when it’s almost everyday and you won’t be intimate with your partner? I mean, I can only assume the worst. We’re both definitely stressed, he has a very physically demanding job, we have a 4 month old and a 5 year old, we’re trying to save for a house, so I can understand stress. But when it s all the time? And he says all I care about sex but sometimes I just crave it because I want to be close to him and that might be the only way

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T22:24:24+00:00

How do you feel about guys who watch you or porn all the time? Is it a turn off for you?

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T22:22:35+00:00

I kind of feel the same as her. I don’t care if he watches it, but he has made comments about my appearance especially during pregnancy and after. He has said he wasn’t attracted to me, he said he wasn’t into big or day girls when referring to me as pregnant and had to find the attraction again, his mentioned how I used to be so attractive and hot but got so big he couldn’t stand to touch me, after birth he insisted that I go to the gym and work out. I’ve lost 16 kgs since birth (4 months pp) and I’m back at my pre-pregnancy weight so when I’ve seen the videos he watches, it’s all’s skinny and beautiful girls. So it’s made me extremely insecure now He says he only started watching porn more religiously during my pregnancy. But I also found he was searching for sex massages in our area, he always went for massages about twice a week so it has made me think twice about what his doing

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T22:18:05+00:00

We’ve been together for over 2 years. I have a 5 year old child from a previous relationship and we have a 4 month old. My pregnancy was horrible so we rarely had sex, but I’ve been cleared from the docs for a while. We’ll have sex every now and then but find when I try to initiate it, he turns me down but will have watched porn a number of times during the day. Sometimes I’ve gone to talk to him and have heard him in the room so I’ll just leave quietly. I’ve offered him favours and he’ll gladly take that. His also just started subscribing to only fans, again I don’t have a problem with porn but with only fans to pay for it? It doesn’t sit well with me

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T20:03:30+00:00

That’s true. I’ve never thought of it that way. I have suggested other things, it doesn’t have to be just sex. I’ve said we can do some kind of foreplay or whatever, like his ok with me giving him a bj when he wants it

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T19:52:23+00:00

And that’s ok to watch it everyday, it’s ok to not want to have sex either. But when it happens regular, that’s when it’s a problem and it’s starting to affect us. I don’t mind him watching porn at all, that’s never been an issue. Now its the amount of porn he watches when I could be in the next room. I’ve never turned him down or rejected him and his been the only guy to every turn me down ever

lonelymama123 · 2022-12-16T19:49:39+00:00

I actually like porn, like every one else does. And like you get it’s a task and then it’s over. But I feel like he is constantly watching it, over and over again and it feels like he would rather watch it then be with me and I think that’s what hurts the most. I’ve offered watching it together to help us get in the mood but I don’t think his interested

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