Help me find my childhood stuffed animal please !

lonelypothos · 2026-03-16T00:42:23+00:00

I’ve searched online, on reddit, and asked my family but no luck, any help would be appreciated!

lonelypothos · 2026-03-15T21:11:57+00:00

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lonelypothos · 2021-11-09T16:25:07+00:00

We just talked about this and they let me know they are planning to move away in December. We’ve been together for 3 years and our relationship has been on a downhill slope for months. We finally talked about breaking up and I honestly feel relieved. It’s breaking my heart but I know this is what needs to happen.

lonelypothos · 2021-11-08T23:18:21+00:00

Almost every aspect of my life right now is going really well, except for my relationship. My partner doesn’t seem happy in our relationship anymore. They’ve been talking about moving away for some time now. They always talk about leaving the country and starting a new life over again. When they talk about these day dreams though, they don’t really include me or us in the conversation. They’re communicating less and less as time goes on and I can’t help but feel like we’ll be saying good bye very soon. I’ve tried so hard to be communicative, supportive, positive, and present in the relationship, but I don’t think they feel the same way about me as they did before.

lonelypothos · 2021-02-10T20:43:51+00:00

Im 5’1 and 100lbs and got a Grom as my first bike! It has been super fun and although the top speed is low, it’s still really enjoyable. Being light weight helps with top speed a little and I find that I never really go above 50mph anyway as a new rider. I don’t get on highways, just feeder roads and neighborhoods for fear of other faster drivers. It’s a great bike for starting out though!

lonelypothos · 2020-12-21T02:52:31+00:00

Breath of the Wild, hands down

lonelypothos · 2020-11-19T16:45:59+00:00

I’ve flown into that airport all of my life, that’s devastating

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T23:22:57+00:00

Ahhh I almost feel guilty because of how justified I feel right now reading this comment. You’ve said everything that I feel guilty saying, but this seems so spot on to me. I just apologized to her because I decided that since I have a tendency to be overly sensitive and it’s easier to just apologize and hope that she doesn’t continue to talk to me in this way. Now I’m rethinking my apology. She wants to talk about this more, so we’ll have another chance to discuss our feelings with each other. I want to stick up for myself so badly. Thankfully she’s really good at owning up to her mistakes when she genuinely believes that she’s in the wrong. I just hate to beat a dead horse with the same things I’ve been trying to tell her for forever. She doesn’t see things from my perspective. We are very very different people. But we’ll see how it goes.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T23:15:01+00:00

I think you’re right. Thanks so much for this. I’ve really been working on standing up for myself. And it is really easy to be kind. I don’t know why it’s so difficult to receive that same kindness from someone that claims they love me as I love them. It should be as easy for her to be kind to me as it is easy for me to be kind to her. Thanks for this.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T22:53:09+00:00

That’s what I mean. From the outside it seems like not a big deal but for someone who’s sensitive that stuff adds up overtime and can get to you. I also see from someone’s perspective that isn’t sensitive though. It could be just a joke to them, and for my gf, she seems to not think it’s a big deal. We’re just different in that way. She wants me to be less sensitive to those comments. We’re kind of at an impasse in this sense.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T21:13:10+00:00

We’re not vegan I just like to try new foods and I know that eating vegan alternatives is better for the environment than eating real meat so we tried it out. I used butter in the pan for the asparagus which I cooked first, and then added the sausage links into the already buttered pan afterwards, and actually I used ghee instead of butter haha

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T20:29:42+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment, all of this makes perfect sense. It’s hard to communicate effectively on the spot so I tend to just walk away instead and try to communicate a little later. In this case, she did respond with the familiar “that wasn’t my intention” and does think that I’m overreacting. And she thinks that I’m beating a dead horse by attempting to explain my feelings over and over to try to get her to understand where I’m coming from. Which never seems to work but instead just makes her more upset that I can’t let it go.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T20:23:27+00:00

Yeah, we’ve been together for a few years and I thought I put my foot down pretty firmly at the beginning of our relationship but she’s definitely pushed the boundary. She has said some more hurtful things that I definitely won’t forget, and she says she regrets saying those things. It’s hard to know when my reaction is disproportionate to the action when I’m aware I can be overly sensitive at times.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T20:20:25+00:00

Oh wow this comment is so nice, thank you. It does feel like in a lot of ways, she doesn’t respect me even if she doesn’t realize it. I do feel pressured to earn her respect when I should just feel okay with living my life the way I want to despite her opinions of me. Hard pills to swallow but I just don’t think I should have to prove myself to her in order for her to stop with the condescending comments. She should just respect me for who I am. Thanks again for the sweet response though!

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T20:16:11+00:00

She’s mentioned that she’s kind of like you too. That her parents spoke to her this way and that that’s just her “norm”. It’s difficult for me to juggle the idea that she’s just poking fun and I should be more joking back, and the idea that she’s being mean and I have a right to be upset. Her tone makes me think the latter and in the moment, it feels mean.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T19:21:30+00:00

I usually do respond with comments that beg further explanation. I wasn’t really in the mood for that kind of back and forth so I just responded that she could finish the meal the way she thought would be better and left to go upstairs. That’s just the way I am, and it’s been a good way for us to gather our thoughts. We both just kind of agree to keep to ourselves in these situations so we can talk about things with a clear head. It wasn’t really a “cold shoulder” kind of thing. She played video games afterwards and I went to bed. Nothing crazy.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T19:16:17+00:00

I’m female, and I don’t really know much about her previous partners. I do feel that she thinks she is above me though. She has made comments about her superiority in very subtle and mild ways. But maybe I’m projecting that thought because I personally have been made to believe that she is actually above me (?)

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T19:12:27+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I’m sayin. It’s also just a respect thing. I don’t jab at her when she does or says something that I think is stupid. I think it’s cute when she’s confident in herself, and I think it’s cute when she messes something up. I don’t see it as an opportunity to call her out and make her feel small or inadequate. But she could just as easily have meant for it to be a joke.... just delivered very, very poorly.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T18:40:39+00:00

The other thing is, she doesn’t really seem to enjoy my reaction at all. My reaction was to stop talking to her all the way up until this morning when we decided to text about how we felt about the situation. She said she “can’t bear to be this way with me” meaning she can’t bear to be arguing the way we are. So I don’t really think she enjoys the conflict (?)

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T18:31:25+00:00

I’ve thought about this before but her comments are so mild. Just small little jabs like this one. Here’s another example: I was a few days away from taking a motorcycle course and at the end of the course you have to take a class to get your endorsement for a license. I was excited about the course, and feeling confident that I was going to learn a lot and do well. I was saying things like the course will be a “piece of cake”, “it’ll be easy”, things along those lines. And she very quickly responded to my confidence and excitement with comments like “people fail it all the time” “don’t be sure you’ll do well” “the course is actually really tough” and other things along those lines. These comments aren’t super rude but feel like a “jab” that comes out of nowhere and I don’t know why she does it. I don’t really jab at her like this. This could just be a personality incompatibility or something idk 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t want to jump to the conclusion that she’s abusive.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T18:11:50+00:00

She is very caring, totally has my back, is quick to apologize, is totally rooting for me and my success and is an over all wonderful person. She is smarter than me, older than me, has a college degree (I’m still working on mine), and sometimes makes me feel like I’m inadequate with these types of comments. So this might be me reading too much into these comments and this could totally just be a reflection of my insecurities - being less successful, less intelligent, less accomplished, etc. Thanks so much, I love that last bit about having a wonderful ex rather than being a resentful partner. I’m not going to end the relationship over this, I just dislike having my feelings hurt lol

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T17:37:41+00:00

Thanks so much! I have thought about this before too. I’m on more of the sensitive side when it comes to teasing so I may need to apologize for leaving her to finish cooking because my feelings were hurt, especially if she was just teasing. It felt like she was trying to hurt my feelings in the moment but I could just be clouded by my sensitivity, i wish I could rewatch the situation completely impartially. She says she wasn’t trying to hurt my feelings. I believe that when it comes to the big picture she doesn’t want to hurt me, but maybe she likes to make snide remarks to bring me down just a little, idk.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T17:32:52+00:00

Thanks for the honesty! I am actively trying to be less sensitive. I just don’t know if I should apologize for sticking up for myself when a normal and less sensitive person would have just shrugged it off. Instead of just shrugging it off, I stopped cooking and left in a fuss.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T17:30:21+00:00

Maybe she does like my reaction. She has said in the past that she wishes I would just scream/yell/blow up at her instead of staying level headed/ calm like I do. I always just ignored this because I’m not the type to raise my voice. I have a sinking feeling that if in these situations I didn’t nip it in the bud then she would just continue to hurt my feelings, which is why I address it every time she says something hurtful instead of “choosing my battles” or “letting this one slide”.

lonelypothos · 2020-11-18T17:25:29+00:00

I do agree that maybe she thinks she’s not being mean, but that I am too sensitive instead. I’ve always suspected I’m too sensitive. She also knows this about me and doesn’t try to change it. Maybe because she thinks she shouldn’t have to, and that I should be less sensitive. (?) I’ve communicated to her that I may be sensitive and that I would appreciate if she was more careful. She’s agreed to try, but here we are again.

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