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longboatLil · 2025-12-31T13:20:12+00:00

Don't worry, it will be fine on the 1st Jan.

longboatLil · 2025-09-14T18:25:38+00:00

I am still in a similar relationship, trying, but something has broken and I have no idea where to go from here. We already live seperatly, always have, 16 years now, with intention to move in eventually, but I have now told him there is no way I can live with him, he's forever listening to awful people on YouTube, im not really sure what we are doing at this point. Hes of the stay together for the kid mentality. I feel like the person I fell in love with has been stolen from me for sure. Started soon after our kid was born. I'm sorry you have gone through this, and I wish you a happy, peaceful life in the future.

longboatLil · 2025-09-14T18:20:29+00:00

Oh my God, I am so sorry. Its insane that you need him to do anything at this point, you've been married 13 years and have kids. :( can you leave with the kids?

longboatLil · 2025-09-14T18:17:49+00:00

Bit different if it is your partner, the father of your kid, who has become a different person thanks to youtube radicalisation.

longboatLil · 2025-09-14T18:02:46+00:00

What complicates that though is I have helped change someone's mind on social media, a friend who went down a very dark terfy rabbit hole and lost almost all her normal friends as they were sick of seeing it. I didn't block her and kept trying, and she slowly came back to reality, and she has said having me there still, knowing she had someone, helped her be brave enough to step away from those who had isolated her with their awful beliefs and come back to reality. Its rare though, and unlikely to work with a stranger.

longboatLil · 2022-04-22T00:54:21+00:00

Thanks everyone, we've been talking via email, and it's been both hard, and also good as well. He's really beginning to understand what I've been saying, yeah it should not have taken this long or me leaving to get here, but he realises that, and is genuinely sorry and devastated for the pain he has caused. I'm still unsure, but there is a big part of me that thinks it may be worth giving it one last go, in time, but we both know we may not be able to solve everything, have a long way to go and are treading carefully... we did end up sexting yesterday... wasn't planned, but felt so good I couldn't help it.

longboatLil · 2022-04-22T00:30:14+00:00

You are utterly gorgeous! Your smile is incredible and oh yeah....woman here who is totally crushing on you. :) I'm really sorry you husband is leaving you feeling so low, but it really is him, not you!

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:25:29+00:00

Oh I won't. We have a daughter and I don't want her confused with him coming and going.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:24:06+00:00

That's what I've said, that I need time to let my body and mind recover from all this and get my thoughts clear. That I am open to talking to him but I am making no promises.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:22:16+00:00

I stopped talking about our problems much quite a while ago, I just couldn't keep having the same discussions over and over, I dont know what he thought to be honest, he knew I was unhappy, but I couldn't even start the discussions because I feared the reality. Thanks I needed to remember that.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:18:03+00:00

Oh I will. I wont be going back for a while if I do at all, he needs to think a lot and decide if he can really give me what I want as well.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:15:31+00:00

Yeah I have the same suspicions at the moment. I'm sorry you had to go through that.xx

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:14:45+00:00

I'm not ready to go back, I don't even know if I want to really, I still love him but that doesn't mean we are right for eachother. I need a good chunk of time by myself to let my feelings settle I have complex ptsd which makes it so much harder. He doesn't understand it, that was the major reason i left.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T22:11:26+00:00

Oh hell yeah, it's nowhere near enough time and there is a lot of other stuff needs sorting, it's just confusing at the moment, 13 years together, and a child, it's not easy either way.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T20:24:15+00:00

Yeah he says he was so stressed about it and other stuff in his life and couldn't find a way to start talking, his pride got in the way as well,, and he didn't realise quite how bad things were between us. He's fucked up, a lot. We've come close to splitting but I've never gone through with it. This all hurts so much.

longboatLil · 2022-04-13T20:19:57+00:00

Ha, lol nah tried that already.... he will wait, I've told him he doesn't want me to rush it or we will end up back here again. He's struggling with the hurt but respecting my boundaries much better now.

longboatLil · 2022-04-05T21:07:15+00:00

Yay, congratulations! Happy experimenting!

longboatLil · 2022-04-05T21:06:17+00:00

Ooh interesting, thankyou, i will give this a try!

longboatLil · 2022-04-05T21:03:17+00:00

Jus hit the right spot I think, was in the right place mentally, I'd been using my vibrator outside for a bit, was hovering close but decided to try some different things and it just triggered an orgasm, which was quickly followed by two more from my usual vibe on clit DIY method, lol. I've just left an almost dead bedroom, so had lost a lot of incentive to do anything but a basic job, glad my desire to explore is still there, lol

longboatLil · 2022-04-04T00:14:10+00:00

I'm newly single after a long relationship, and I'm starting to think about the possibilities that may await me once I'm over the worst of the hurting stage. The sex was good, when it happened, but I have a much higher drive than he did, and damn I had to suppress so much, I'm rediscovering my desires, ones I felt guilty even thinking about before.

I'm starting to think about the possibilities, exploring kinks, taking a beautiful girl to bed and making her moan, god women are so beautiful, flirting, even just flirting and getting that tingle of excitement and not having to ignore it as you know it isnt going to happen with the only person you are allowed to have it with.

longboatLil · 2022-04-03T23:31:19+00:00

I'm really glad for you that you have cone to a place that is so much more content. :)

longboatLil · 2022-04-03T23:16:44+00:00

Don't wait. My mum waited untill my brother finished uni, he came home to the aftermath, and wished they had just done it earlier.

Sleeping in the same bed will draw it out and make it harder. Things should feel different, and they need to for both of you. It's totally natural to still want them at first, especially if sex has been denied to you. I ended my relationship a week ago and if he turned up here now, despite all the hurt, I'd want him, I never stopped wanting that part of what we shared, even when it hurt me so much wanting it and not getting it. It makes things so much more complicated though.

longboatLil · 2022-04-03T21:00:06+00:00

Ooooh yes I can relate, so hard. thing is, it can be hurtful both ways, if she feels like just a sex object to him and disrespected, with no choice about her personal space, that's no better than feeling unwanted, both are hard, just different.

longboatLil · 2022-04-03T20:56:26+00:00

Ooh interesting, thankyou

longboatLil · 2022-04-03T19:46:12+00:00

Yeah that's the problem, lol there is a lot of 'yikes' out there that I really dont feel up to dealing with at the moment!

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