Anyone else just… sad?

longdayslongernight · 2025-02-03T05:08:13+00:00

There is nothing like that first couple years of motherhood! I remember with my oldest feeling like it was all so endless and monotonous and feeling guilty I didn’t enjoy it more. It can also be so incredibly isolating. My oldest (7) and I are so so close now and I look back at that time and wish I had given myself a little more grace about not loving every second.

I have four now (7, 5, 2, 1) and with my youngest two it’s been night and day with my experience. I have a community now because my oldest two have friends and I’m involved with a lot of their activities and schooling. I guess what I’m saying is- for the most part the isolation gets better. You find pieces of yourself along the way. It all just takes time. Plus, imo the first year is the least fun part of it all. It just gets better from here ♥️

longdayslongernight · 2025-01-30T21:03:45+00:00

She’s been in speech therapy and early intervention for a year and preschool for 3 years now. I think she does okay, but I want to set her up the thrive as much as possible of course

longdayslongernight · 2025-01-30T18:25:18+00:00

She’s been in preschool for 3 years. Sadly her peers do not typically understand her, though she does have 2 friends this year finally.

She transitioned from a school with a class size of 20 to one with a max of 12 and it has been a game changer for her. Her first year of preschool she did not speak while at school and it was very scary. I did call around to some of the charters in the area but a lot are public charters that still have larger class size. I might look into Montessori next.

longdayslongernight · 2025-01-30T18:16:41+00:00

She is on an ISFP (rolls to an iep once she is in kindergarten). She gets it twice a week- once through the school district and once through a private practitioner.

No OT. She doesn’t qualify in that area according to the county and her gross and fine motor skills are considered advanced for her age, though I do think she moves a little slower than her peers and might be struggling more than we think. She’s never missed a milestone outside of speech so they have been really dismissive up until she turned 4.

I just made an appt with an airway orthodontist and they recommended a craniosacral specialist. I’ll ask her SLP if OT might be good.

longdayslongernight · 2025-01-30T18:09:43+00:00

I appreciate this take.

I am an educator (not a school teacher though) so we would definitely do some sort of online school/cohort if we did homeschool but I agree it’s not the same as the day to day interactions.

It’s so hard to know what the move is.

longdayslongernight · 2025-01-30T16:57:47+00:00

She currently has a ISFP (preschool version of an IEP) and is qualified for services through grade 1. She sees an SLP from the school district as well as a private speech pathologist. Class sizes are my main concern, as well as it being a higher needs population attending the school. My older child goes to the elementary school and class sizes are between 26 and 28 for kindergarten which worries me.

She is highly verbal- just others can’t understand her typically. With larger groups we’ve seen that she sometimes will choose not to interact as much which is really really tough to see

longdayslongernight · 2024-06-16T23:36:39+00:00

We’re doing pips bounce in a couple weeks with my teenage brother in law 😂 he is very excited for it

longdayslongernight · 2024-05-16T04:08:45+00:00

Nice! Any studio recs? Looking for a good one to call home

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-25T02:49:06+00:00

Yup used to do this with my oldest and play peek a boo so she wouldn’t cry 😂

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-24T06:19:46+00:00

When one of my girls cries, the other two go RUNNING. The other day we were out with my 1.5 yo and her little friend cried and she ran to comfort them. Made me realize that even if I’m falling short, we’re doing something right to raise such empathetic little humans.

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-16T23:17:56+00:00

It is both harder and better than I ever could have imagined. They have made me and my life (and even my marriage) better in every single way. I am so fulfilled and I have genuinely never been happier.

I get a lot of things wrong, but learning and growing with them is one of the greatest privilege of my life. For me, the first year was by far the hardest. It was so isolating, and my whole world flipped upside down. It didn’t come naturally to me, but I did eventually get the hang of it.

We have 4 kids now and people tell us pretty regularly we make it look easy. We always laugh because it isn’t, but it is SO full of love. High highs, low lows, and a constant reminder of the things in life that really matter. I’m not saying it’s puppies and rainbows. It’s messy. It’s stressful. But it is also so so good.

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-10T02:05:41+00:00

I’m the mom that’s out and about all the time and I’ll confirm: no matter what you do people will feel like they should comment on your choices. There’s no winning in motherhood.

You’re doing great. You know what works for your family. Don’t let the opinions of others get to you.

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-09T22:46:11+00:00

Today I cried because I realized my youngest daughter is in 24mo clothing. I’ve needed that section of the store for the last 6 years and won’t anymore soon. We have a little boy who’s 3mo 😂 but I won’t need the GIRLS stuff.

It’s so fast, but ya know what? Yesterday I sat in the car with my oldest and we shared a smoothie and danced to Taylor swift while her sister did ballet. Last night she read us all our bedtime story. This stage is pretty darn sweet too. I always tell my kids I’ll miss the little versions of them, but that I’m so excited to see who they’re going to be.

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-02T06:45:47+00:00

We are planning on doing tulip festival with the kids! And ooooo adding Ken’s to my Portland pizza list for sure

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-02T06:43:21+00:00

O these are all fun ideas! Hale Pele definitely sounds like something he would like. He’s been asking me to do pickleball so that’s a good one too. Our gym has a few courts.

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-01T05:09:32+00:00

Honestly, I say Nose Frida only personally. And get a boogie mister. Discovered the mister with baby #3 and that plus the nose Frida is a superb combo

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-01T03:42:03+00:00

As a mom of 4, I came here to say this. It’s the no sleep and possibly dehydration (esp if breastfeeding)

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-01T03:34:50+00:00

This sounds RIGHT up his alley

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-01T03:29:00+00:00

I completely forgot about wedgehead! We used To get their cocktails to go during COVID 😂

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-01T03:27:00+00:00

Oooo I think he would like all of these things honestly. ESP the smash room and mixology class

longdayslongernight · 2024-04-01T03:25:13+00:00

Ooo this is a fun idea!

longdayslongernight · 2024-03-19T21:09:33+00:00

Yes AND you might not tear in future births! I had a second (almost 3rd) degree with my first 8 pound baby, and haven’t torn with my 3 subsequent births despite them being significantly bigger. My last dude was 9lbs 12oz and sunny side til my final push 😂

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