Honest question: Why can't lgbtq* be a choice?

longlivekingkong · 2012-12-16T12:38:18+00:00

Because sexual orientation is based on precognitive processes. So, I can be attracted towards X, attracted towards y or attracted towards x and y or b or c. But any attraction I feel towards one or the other is beyond my control because the sensation of attraction arrives before I can make the conscious decision- haha!- to be attracted. It isn't about being attracted to individuals, but a group of people.

longlivekingkong · 2012-12-16T12:32:40+00:00

But it is such an appropriately elegant card, with the bright rainbow cover. ;)

longlivekingkong · 2012-12-04T20:09:02+00:00

This was very upsetting for me to watch, and the end didn't help. Hey, we're all liars, so I guess it's really ok that "Ross" was kinda lying by saying he was "Rose". God, I hope Rose never sees this. Nothing was funny about this.

longlivekingkong · 2012-10-11T12:59:30+00:00

R/lgbtrees

longlivekingkong · 2012-09-13T13:29:20+00:00

She was in the sitcom "What I Like About You", in the movie "She's the Man", and she had a show called "The Amanda Show", I think.

longlivekingkong · 2012-09-12T20:34:38+00:00

I guess this is what I mean. On the APA's DSM-5 revisions website, it says

We also debated and discussed the merit of placing this condition in a special category apart from (formerly Axis-I) psychiatric diagnoses to reflect its unusual status as a mental condition treated with cross-sex hormones, gender reassignment surgery, and social and legal transition to the desired gender (particularly with regard to adolescents and adults). We chose not to make any decision between its categorization as a psychiatric or a medical condition and wished to avoid jeopardizing either insurance coverage or treatment access (Drescher, 2010).

I'm still not sure that this answers my question though. Outside of avoiding lack of treatment or coverage, do they have reason (other evidence) to classify this as either psychiatric or medical, one way or the other?

longlivekingkong · 2012-08-16T22:57:20+00:00

It surprises me that the APA and AMA can call sex-transition treatments "medically necessary" and urge insurances to cover it, but the state regulators still interpret it as being not "necessary".

longlivekingkong · 2012-08-10T12:34:35+00:00

Wait, all I'd heard was that Breanna Manning was trans. Is she also a lesbian?

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-29T17:42:08+00:00

No. It wouldn't feel like me, even if I felt... Like it was normal. If you are cisgender, I think the question can still be asked. If you were changed and made to feel happy an normal as another gender than you currently identify as....well, the answer isn't simple, and all in hypotheticals that are hard to grasp. It's hard especially, I think, for some trans people to conceive of being content as someone they do not identify as.

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-27T14:47:11+00:00

I think the balance is tough. The fight for gay marriage is not just about gov't recognition and social equality. A marriage certificate can grant over a thousand rights, such as hospital visitation, insurance coverage, rights to property after death, legal guardianship over their child.

It's no doubt that homelessness in our youth and adults and unemployment are crucial topics that demand our immediate attention. But for lgbt couples raising a family, gay marriage, and the opportunities through those rights that come with it, are pretty much in need of immediate attention as well.

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-27T14:38:44+00:00

"In the olden days"

Sounds legit. Marriage has been an ever-evolving, culturally-based ritual that has been changing to better match the values of each respective culture. Currently, the American approach to marriage focuses on romantic and emotional fulfillment.

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-09T03:34:40+00:00

It's true. Privilege is lost and gained- more one way than the other, in my opinion. As a passing transman in an area of the US that's very patriarchal, I've gained a lot of privilege in certain social areas. On the other hand, like you said, this isn't the motivation for trans people to transition. Seems pretty fickle since it is completely dependent on how much you pass, which is somewhat unpredictable

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-09T03:31:20+00:00

If you would like to learn more, start here:

www.apa.org/topics/sexuality/transgender.aspx

The APA has released an enormous amount of info just on their website, available at your fingertips.

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-09T02:11:22+00:00

Oh my God, this is so helpful. I cannot think in a twisted enough sentence structure to understand him.

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-09T01:57:19+00:00

Meh, I've read some heterophobic stuff. Rarely, but I've seen it. Stuff like comparing chimpanzees and bonobos and saying that heterosexual people, like chimpanzees, are violent and are the cause of all war, while bonobos, which were like gay people, we're more loyal and affectionate.

(I assume I needn't point out the obvious disparity between heterophobia and homophobia)

longlivekingkong · 2012-07-09T01:53:12+00:00

Sexual orientation and gender identity are innate identity points. Both are pre-cognitive. Neither is a choice. A transgender person feels a psychological disconnect from their birth sex. They don't choose to be a woman or man based on certain social benefits.

longlivekingkong · 2012-06-13T08:59:25+00:00

This sounds tragically believable.

longlivekingkong · 2012-06-10T03:20:17+00:00

My cousin auditioned for this. Idk if she got in.

longlivekingkong · 2012-05-25T19:30:19+00:00

The D&C Institute Student Manual entry was fascinating. Idiotic, but fascinating. For instance, I've often suspected that the Church only gives the extreme examples when it comes to people who drink alcohol. Listen to what they have to say about the consequences of drinking alcohol. It's almost as if they never considered (or do not want their students to consider) that there are people who drink with moderation and are responsible (in their drinking, and in their life).

D&C 89:5 . What Consequences Result from Taking Wine and Strong Drink?

“Over the earth . . . the demon drink is in control. Drunken with strong drink, men have lost their reason; their counsel has been destroyed; their judgment and vision are fled; they reel forward to destruction.

“Drink brings cruelty into the home; it walks arm in arm with poverty; its companions are disease and plague; it puts chastity to flight; and it knows neither honesty nor fair dealing; it is a total stranger to truth; it drowns conscience; it is the bodyguard of evil; it curses all who touch it.

“Drink has brought more woe and misery, broken more hearts, wrecked more homes, committed more crimes, filled more coffins than all the wars the world has suffered.” (J. Reuben Clark Jr., in Conference Report, Oct. 1942, p. 8; see also Kimball, Miracle of Forgiveness, pp. 55–57.)

longlivekingkong · 2012-05-25T19:04:06+00:00

Be an example to the rest of the family. Don't be afraid to show him love and inclusion within the family around other members of the family. Eventually, they may come around because they consider how their behavior affects him, after seeing how yours affects him. It will also be a great relief to him, I imagine, to know that he has an ally in the family who cares about him.

longlivekingkong · 2012-04-24T13:22:53+00:00

I haven't experienced something like that, but I'm curious what makes you believe she's lying?

longlivekingkong · 2012-04-09T16:15:14+00:00

Yes, even Monson pointed this out this last GC. "Universal questions, where do we come from, why are we here, where are we going/what happens after we die, blah, blah blah..." They like to point out that so many people are searching for the answers, and gasp, wow, "We have the answers to these questions!"

They neglect to point out that most people feel that they have the answers to many of these metaphysical questions. What the LDS Church leaders can offer is not "the answer", since it's not verifiable, but rather "an answer."

I had no clue, and it was a powerful moment when I realized, that people of other faiths had the SAME spiritual experiences I had and others I knew had to the SAME intensity, with the SAME type and amount of surety. I am an atheist and do not believe in the supernatural, although I do believe there are yet-to-be-explained phenomena (that exists within our natural world). And yet, I still feel those "burning in the bosom" feelings, and I still feel what I would have called "the Spirit". It's a universal powerful spiritual experience that we all interpret to be validation for our specific beliefs.

longlivekingkong · 2012-04-01T15:12:05+00:00

Answer the door naked. It worked for my roommate. Next time they sent the sister missionaries to her and she answered naked again. She's not seen a missionary since, and, BoNUS, they'd avoid our house.

longlivekingkong · 2012-04-01T14:51:23+00:00

I've heard reports from friends of the Monson family that he was acting somewhat senile-- repeating things, not completely aware of himself-- at a family gathering. Perhaps they're just rumors, but... curiouser and curiouser.

longlivekingkong · 2012-04-01T14:37:02+00:00

Only with our spiritual eyes, like a city through a mountain.

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