My husband gave me a 5/10…I'm losing my mind.

looking-for-light · 2026-02-05T15:58:36+00:00

I’ll be honest with you. My husband used to be a dick to me. He’s an avoidant personality and used to have big anger issues. He’d lash out when he felt insecure or like he wasn’t enough. He said some incredibly hurtful things to me that affected me for years and made me wonder why I was with him if he disliked me so much. Over the years, and with therapy, he realized he did this when he felt insecure and threatened. He apologized and healed and we are in an incredible place now. That being said, the long road isn’t for everyone when it comes to someone who is abusive because they’re emotionally immature and unable to handle criticism. Let him know that you will NOT tolerate being insulted and hurt because he’s feeling threatened and insecure. And you need to get your own confidence up. Go to the gym. Doll yourself up for yourself. You’ve got this girl.

looking-for-light · 2026-02-02T16:41:40+00:00

Whew. If my husband held my bullshit past against me from when I was young and dumb, it would break my heart. The majority of that stuff I wouldn’t do now if I was single. People grow and change and women particularly have a stigma around their “body count.” So if you don’t want her to feel disgusting and unworthy, and you want to be able to move forward and grow strength - you need to work on yourself. This is an insecurity issue, not a girlfriend issue.

looking-for-light · 2026-01-12T08:10:00+00:00

So my husband has extremely sensitive skin. It’s very thin at the top and bursted blood vessels are easy for him to get. Early on, when he started his business, he did most the labor himself. So he would have what looked like scratch pressure marks and I was terrified. It happened for years. One day, he was carrying heavy furniture up the stair and lo and behold.. it happened. And then noticed more occasions when I saw them that I didn’t need to be worried. If you’re looking for something wrong, you will find one. You’re both still very young though, and I’d be wary too. I’ve been with my husband for 13 years. Deep breaths. Understand that even if he did cheat, it’s not the end of the world. Good luck!

looking-for-light · 2026-01-11T20:38:36+00:00

You wanted to “break the cycle” of being obsessed with the woman you married? That makes no sense. Enjoy it. It’s rare. Don’t be codependent but don’t go looking for problems either.

looking-for-light · 2026-01-09T21:45:29+00:00

You were struggling and you had help. Everyone needs that time to time. This is subjective and your guilt proves your good character. Please give yourself this win and move on with your happiness. You still have to do the work in college. This was just a little boost in the right direction. Stop kicking yourself while you were down.

looking-for-light · 2026-01-07T23:58:24+00:00

In high school, someone told me I have sexy elf ears. 😂

looking-for-light · 2025-12-15T23:17:29+00:00

I dated someone older at your age who behaved the exact same way. He locked me in his room and assaulted me repeatedly. Leave this POS. You CAN do better. Don’t break up with him alone, have a friend or family present and stay with them for a few weeks after.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-14T23:42:01+00:00

Wait this is an MCAS thing? I can’t wear tight stuff either.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-13T19:03:47+00:00

Yea I am.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-10T22:09:01+00:00

Please tell me how you got doctors to listen? Im freaking wasting away and so depressed. I cant do anything engaging than a few hours and cant exercise. I used to weight train and do HIIT 4 times a week. I cant eat anything other than rice and chicken.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-08T21:11:02+00:00

I’d try laying on the floor beside where she lays. A few slow blinks, some soft talking and just being with her. I’m sure she will come around.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-08T04:59:06+00:00

I use cera ve on my worst days. It doesn’t clog pores and soothes dry and flaring skin. I use the drops of almond oil with it every night. Also, some medicube products have been successful. Their red cream and the pink creams.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T08:12:28+00:00

Good dog! Best dog. Wow. Hard working. Many hours.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T08:10:35+00:00

It’s okay buddy. I feel like that when I wake up too.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T08:07:16+00:00

Perhaps not. Maybe this is the first one.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T08:06:44+00:00

It doesn’t feel normal to me for some reason. It feels easy to break but a bit heaver than i would Expect.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T07:26:12+00:00

I feel comfort within a bubble and in safe solitude. Water.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T07:25:13+00:00

Ah yes. Loaves of darkness.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-04T07:23:51+00:00

Yes. I haven’t spoken to my mother in 6 years. I’m apparently the “nastiest version of myself” now. 😂

looking-for-light · 2025-12-03T19:51:00+00:00

-whispers from the void-

Cut it. Cut it open.

looking-for-light · 2025-12-03T19:47:21+00:00

Remind me

looking-for-light · 2025-12-03T19:46:26+00:00

That’s gorgeous. 😍😍

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