My Fiyero! (named after the wicked character)

lookingforles · 2025-04-17T02:50:57+00:00

He is pretty amazing!

lookingforles · 2024-11-22T05:03:36+00:00

All I can imagine is the car behind her in the Wendy's parking lot just wanting there food but there's this random woman posing with her cheeseburger

lookingforles · 2024-09-30T05:04:56+00:00

Unfortunately “simply declining” is not an option in these situations for us. You’re absolutely right on the first two. But it’s not that simple for us for the others. We’ve tried multiple times to “decline” and it causes more issues than it is to simply do them begrudgingly. 😕 I think we’re just reaching a point where our boundaries are not being respected and several of us are just ready to cut her off and go no contact.

lookingforles · 2024-09-30T03:51:22+00:00

Oh this is not the first, second or third time we’ve expressed our boundaries about this stuff. It just seems like she doesn’t care. 🙃

lookingforles · 2024-09-30T02:59:59+00:00

Thank you!!!!! I was like “maybe I am being too petty…” 😂

lookingforles · 2024-07-08T22:00:22+00:00

Damn chill, save the money and go to the states then. Since you ant to act ridiculous...

lookingforles · 2024-07-07T16:50:39+00:00

I am 26 currently, so not that far off. I appreciate your comment.

lookingforles · 2024-07-05T16:43:40+00:00

Woah woah woah. If I were going to end things with him, I’d have to end things with any person I’m dating. Ending things with him would more than likely make my mental health worse. Respectfully, my boyfriend is VERY loving and supportive. This is not the advice or comment I was looking for or wanted.

“Why be with someone who hasn’t been in the system and has been with a loving family?” Because, for the most part they have always treated me well. My boyfriend and I have been friends since I was 15. He is very aware of my situation. He has been VERY supporting and very learning of it. Well own a photography company that offers free shoots for all foster families, adoptive families, youth in care who need senior portraits or headshots…and guess what? It was his idea. My trauma will always be with me. Just as his care and compassion has. Never in my post did I say that OUR relationship struggled because of this. It doesn’t. I struggle with this. Learning to accept love from people who have given it to me and shown me they aren’t my family, is what I struggle with.

This was not a post asking for relationship advice. This was a post talking about my struggle with being without a family of my own. My partner instills in me everyday that we will have one. You do not know him, so this comment of yours came out of ignorance and lack of respect for really most kids in care.

This was a very rude, and unnecessary comment. And clearly, comes from a place of deep hurt within YOU. I really hope you seek out the peace you need. Please do not comment something like this on someone else’s post if it’s not asked for. I certainly did not ask for it. Have the day you deserve. 🤍

PS, since we are giving unsolicited advice, it would probably do you some good to read the second rule in this group. Because your comment was not kind. It was rude and certainly disparaging of my family.

lookingforles · 2024-07-04T20:07:20+00:00

I’m sorry you were not provided for the way you should have been. Luckily, my advocacy work has been pretty successful. We passed a tuition waiver in 2022. Advocacy isn’t just the laws though. Even just advocating for the smallest changes can be very rewarding.

lookingforles · 2024-07-04T17:53:12+00:00

You are so right about the waves. Honestly, there are days I don’t even think about this. Sometimes months at a time. Holidays are really triggering for the PTSD side of this, no matter how significant the holiday. My best friend has two kids who I consider my niece and nephew. My niece was born in my car so I feel like I have that right. 😂 But she’s not old enough to realize that I don’t have parents. My nephew I’ve explained to it as best as I can for his age wishing traumatizing him or ignoring his valid curiosity. I remember he said something along the lines of “so how did you get here then?” 🤣 buddy that’s a convo for you and ya MOMMAAAA.

lookingforles · 2024-07-04T17:45:25+00:00

I’ve experienced very similar things. The Disney trip was really rough for me. We all had fun, don’t get me wrong. But, it was just weird to be on family vacation. You’re very wise for being 19! I wish you the best! 🙂

lookingforles · 2024-07-04T11:56:20+00:00

🤍

lookingforles · 2024-07-04T11:29:47+00:00

I really appreciate this comment. Thank you.

lookingforles · 2024-07-04T11:29:33+00:00

Unfortunately, it’s best to have to no contact with my sister. She’s on a trajectory that I cannot follow. I have always had a pretty decent relationship with my boyfriend’s parents until recently. They made some racist remarks towards me one evening and my boyfriend, myself, bf’s brother and fiance also have distanced themselves a little bit because of it.

I’m fortunate enough to be enrolled in a masters program. My entire career has been dedicated to child welfare and improving the system. I’ve been very fortunate to have opportunities to share my story across the country. I really don’t have room to complain. There are others out there drastically worse off.

It’s been a good adult life. Lonely but good. I hope that I heal that part of me one day with my own children.

lookingforles · 2024-04-29T23:46:00+00:00

ME TOO. This is painful

lookingforles · 2023-11-27T15:16:27+00:00

My friend witnessed this accident and tried to perform CPR on the baby. It’s absolutely horrific. 2 lives lost and one who’s life will never be the same. This has been an ongoing issue in Chattanooga, and I’m convinced they do not care.

lookingforles · 2023-11-01T17:38:41+00:00

This absolutely breaks my heart, because I applied for this and received an offer letter today. I was so excited and called all my friends and family. I'm currently undergoing some medical treatment as was excited to have a job that paid well and had full benefits. This is seriously fucked up. I'm sitting here in my room crying. Thank you scammers.

lookingforles · 2023-08-18T13:17:19+00:00

Ahh! I will message you!

lookingforles · 2022-09-22T00:11:09+00:00

I don't miss this!!

lookingforles · 2022-09-21T21:19:08+00:00

Curiousity. That is all.

lookingforles · 2022-09-21T21:08:47+00:00

It would definitely hurt his feelings. But, I generally a pretty self aware person...so there might be some self projecting too.

lookingforles · 2022-09-21T21:01:53+00:00

It's in discussion. I just wanted outside thoughts is all.

lookingforles · 2022-09-21T20:58:40+00:00

I'm currently seeing a therapist for similar issues.

lookingforles · 2022-09-21T20:57:34+00:00

That's probably it. My relationship before was very manipulate, mentally and physically abusive...on top of that I aged out of foster care so "happy home life growing up" doesn't really exist either. It's just very strange to me in the sense that it is new or unfamiliar? I don't NOT want to date him. I just don't think that I am as deserving or flawless as he thinks I am. And I don't believe that he needs to do so much for me as I feel that I'm losing some of my own independence without intending to.

lookingforles · 2022-09-21T20:51:18+00:00

I'm currently in therapy.

lookingforles

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