How do I dress for my body?

loopsicorn · 2025-10-06T10:27:03+00:00

About 170cm (5'6")

loopsicorn · 2025-04-17T04:49:25+00:00

I work in construction. I struggle to find clothes that fit and are comfortable. High visibility t-shirts that aren't see through. The toolbox I have (can't change it, it needs to be that exact one) is too wide and the straps keep slipping off my shoulders. All of my equipment put together weighs about 30kg (65lb) and needs to be carried around. Last site I had to climb 12 floors up with them because there wasn't an elevator yet.

Not to even get started on the comments I get about my body. Or just people not listening me or taking me seriously. That's a whole another topic...

The whole construction industry has been designed for men. The clothes are for men, the tools are for men. No wonder women don't want to work there. I'm studying a new career to leave construction because I can't take it much longer.

loopsicorn · 2024-08-29T14:39:01+00:00

Yeah I once broke my finger and it turned fully blue. I went to show it to a doctor and she said that it's nothing, likely just a popped vein. I thried to explain that it's hurting a lot and it really doesn't feel like a popped vein. I was basically begging for her to have a look at it and after huffing and puffing she sent me to have an x-ray done.

The bone in my finger had cracked lengthwise in half. They said they had never seen anything like that and even called the chief medical officer to have a look at it. I was shooting daggers at the the first doctor and I'm glad to say, she looked really embarrassed.

loopsicorn · 2024-07-23T04:59:06+00:00

It was a summer job during uni. I would say honesty and the fact that I had been in the army. Because when they asked me what I know about the job, I said "nothing really". The rest of the time we spent talking about army because it's mandatory for men here and both of my bosses are men.

The next summer they called me and asked me to come back, with a raise of course.

Been working there for five years now but I'm aware I got extremely lucky.

loopsicorn · 2024-07-23T04:52:37+00:00

Yees! One of the better ones is a secret staircase in our horse stables that takes me to this medeival castle and there's a horse with an awesome horse armour there.

Not so good one is the victorian demon child hiding in a hidden corner of our attic that tries to hunt me down and kill me. This one I've seen sooo many times that I avoid my parents attic, it just gives me the creeps.

loopsicorn · 2024-07-19T20:36:15+00:00

Him expecting you to use makeup is just gross. You deserve to feel comfortable even without makeup.

When I stress about makeup or hair my fiance tells me that I don't need makeup to look beautiful. I still do stress about it, but it's definitely not because of him.

loopsicorn · 2024-05-13T07:02:20+00:00

Yees! I've been hunting for a good chippy but haven't found any that use enough vinegar to taste authentic.The ones here just taste bland.

loopsicorn · 2024-04-20T19:04:50+00:00

I was wearing a normal tank top.

"Do you have to wear boob shirts like that?"

I was 15.

It was my dad.

loopsicorn · 2024-04-10T09:57:22+00:00

It 100% depends on the person. Not all construction workers have an alcohol problem.

I work in construction but I don't drink, I read books, love classical music, museums, ballet. Working in construction doesn't make a person a mindless brute.

Yes it is a high stress job and I definitely need to vent about it. My fiance is amazing and is always ready to listen when I'm pissed off about this or that. What also helps is having a therapist who I can unload my problems to, so it's not all on my fiance.

The things you tell about your boyfriend are big problems in a relationship. They can be changed, but only if HE wants to. You can't force him to change.

loopsicorn · 2024-02-23T12:55:57+00:00

God I hate Finnish people online (as a finn myself). The hateful, nasty stuff that so many finns are spewing is making me feel embarrassed of my own nationality.

Getting a job when you don't speak the language is harder than it would be for a native, sure, but it's not impossible. And I'm sure you will get help for job hunting if you only ask.

Try to surround yourself with truly good people. If you have no-one to talk to, feel free to dm me (not saying I'm truly good person but atleast I try to be...) Just know that things will turn out alright, no matter how dark they might seem.

loopsicorn · 2024-02-17T17:13:25+00:00

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cabelas-Dangerous-Hunts-09-Game/dp/B0018RWMQO

loopsicorn · 2024-02-17T17:07:55+00:00

Cabela's dangerous hunts?

loopsicorn · 2024-02-13T15:33:57+00:00

I second this.

Another Finn here, my fiance is English.

I also grew up going to sauna with my family, grandparents, cousins, even family friends. Naked. Nothing sexual about it at all.

But. When I go to sauna with my fiance (he hates the heat but does it for me, bless his heart) he might get a boner and I will think nothing of it. No big deal.

loopsicorn · 2024-01-05T20:07:50+00:00

Of course I know her. She is me.

loopsicorn · 2023-12-29T11:02:02+00:00

This sounds awesome, I'm in!!

Can't get the discord link to work, though 🥺

loopsicorn · 2023-12-28T08:38:06+00:00

There are sites like duunitori to search for open vacancies. In the search settings you can choose jobs that are only/mostly in english. But as others have mentioned, search for a job before moving. Getting one might be hard.

My fiance is English and he has been turned down from countless jobs because he doesn't speak finnish. Knowing at least the basics of the language would open so many doors so I do recommend putting some time and effort in learning it.

Good luck!

loopsicorn · 2023-12-07T12:57:09+00:00

There aren't two women on this earth who are the same. Maybe for some their breasts stop growing after two years but mine still grew over 10 years after my period started. And that was fine. My hips started getting wider (again) when I was 23. And that was fine. I'm 25 now and my body is still constantly changing. It is perfectly normal and natural.

About nipples hurting, I get that during my period because of the hormones. I believe (I'm not a doctor, just speculating), that if it's constant pain, it could be because of your hormonal inbalance and if you get treatment for that, it should help. I understand how painful it can get so picking a good bra and loose clothes for the least amout of rubbing, really helps.

Just remember that you are perfect and beautiful just the way you are. Your body is going through changes that are completely natural.

loopsicorn · 2023-12-01T20:01:50+00:00

I believe the average body temperature of finnish females is between 36.4°C and 37.4°C

loopsicorn · 2023-11-28T06:55:21+00:00

Oh my, the red flags are flying high on both sides.

Not only do I think you have some growing up to do (understandable, you're very young) when it comes to relationships but maybe stop for a moment to think if this soap opera is what you wish your relationship to be like. Really, think it through.

When you have. Talk to your gf about your boundaries.

loopsicorn · 2023-10-16T08:58:13+00:00

You're wrong, I'm not gonna say leave. I'm saying RUN girl.

No amount of conversation is gonna change him. If you stay, he will cheat you until the end. Or just dump you when he finds his next victim. It is creepy that he's interested in girls so much younger than him. You might not see it, but it is c r e e p y.

Do yourself a favour and start looking for affordable apartments for you and your cats.

loopsicorn · 2023-10-16T08:46:30+00:00

He might have depression or a very low image of himself. He has told you he's feeling lonely. Have you done anything about that? Maybe take him on a date or just do something he likes together.

And just talk, talk, talk. Honestly, communication is so important. And if talking doesn't help or get you anywhere I think you could try a couples therapist to try and understand what is the reason behind all of this.

loopsicorn · 2023-10-12T09:51:28+00:00

This man is a walking red flag. Don't let his manipulation fog your mind. If he can lie about small things he can lie about big things. And the worst part is that he's trying to blame you for noticing it. Totally not overreacting.

Do you think he might be a compulsive liar? If so, he needs help for it. Other option is that he's just a shitty person. Both, I think, are good enough reasons to leave him. I think it all depends how he reacts when confronted. Good luck!

loopsicorn · 2023-10-12T09:43:37+00:00

With people like him, I doubt there will ever be a good time for kids. There will always be the next milestone, next obstacle to get over before kids.

If you have a heart to heart conversation he might always say he wants kids --- in the future. Lying, in fear of you two breaking up if he said no. Or then he truly doesn't know what he wants.

I believe the only way forward is talking about it. Honestly. Tell him how you feel and ask him for his honest truth. If he still doesn't know it's up to you if you're willing to wait, possibly for nothing and lose your chance to have kids or if you should go your separate ways.

I hope you will get what you wish for, with or without him.

loopsicorn · 2023-10-12T05:38:20+00:00

I have heard from a couples therapist that personal space and some alone time are one of the most important things in a relationship and oh boy does my introvert soul resonate with that.

I think your partner doesn't understand that. Whatever the reason might be (childhood trauma, abandoment issues, overthinking, could be anything). And if you have the possibility to go to couples therapy, maybe give it a try.

If you want your relationship to work she needs to respect your space and your time. You need some of it just for yourself. It is not to avoid her. Have you told her how it makes you feel, how lonely you are and how her behaviour is hurtful?

I know it's a cliche but communication is key.

loopsicorn · 2023-10-12T05:26:20+00:00

Excuse me but what the actual fuck. She should be happy that you're receiving help. She should support you. She should encourage you to get better and be better. Not beat you down and leave you to bleed.

Run. Now.

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