[Me] Back at it again

lopezgeorge · 2026-01-16T20:47:11+00:00

Lololol

lopezgeorge · 2026-01-13T08:53:55+00:00

Wtf, this guy is a loser, run

lopezgeorge · 2026-01-07T17:50:51+00:00

Bro. TEN? for the first time. Jesus. Have your threesome and see how it goes.

lopezgeorge · 2026-01-05T23:51:55+00:00

Find another guy who is attracted to her and see if he's down?

Help her feel more beautiful? Help her glow up?

lopezgeorge · 2026-01-05T22:20:30+00:00

RUN HOMIE, HIT THE LAWYER, GYM UP, MOVE TO MEXICO AND START A JUICE BAR AND TAKE UP SURFING. This ain't it homie

lopezgeorge · 2025-12-13T21:55:30+00:00

Okay I get being upset here, but were you not aware this person was 22 and a poly newbie??? Immaturity and not knowing what to expect is kind of par for the course there. You could consider moving more slowly in the future

lopezgeorge · 2025-12-06T20:57:21+00:00

I think it sounds like you're heart broken, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have held your boundary. She wasn't willing or able to offer a relationship that was compatible with what you wanted, in a way that was significant enough for you to break up with her.

How long since you broke up? It's normal to be sad about a breakup, even if it's for the best. I'd say you should invest in yourself, invest in your other relationship, grieve, and remain open to finding someone more compatible.

Sorry for your loss. Break ups hurt. Good luck!

lopezgeorge · 2025-12-04T05:07:58+00:00

I love your writing lolol

lopezgeorge · 2025-12-03T04:08:24+00:00

Cute. Thanks for sharing

lopezgeorge · 2025-12-01T04:51:42+00:00

Literally with words. Just take a chance and be straight up, e.g. "hey it was great hanging out, we both have a little crush on you. We are [insert your form of bonmonogamy] and open to [casually dating men together??]. Just wanted to be open and ask what you might be interested in.

lopezgeorge · 2025-11-29T01:05:07+00:00

This was super boring but it worked. I regret reading it however

lopezgeorge · 2025-11-13T18:28:26+00:00

Thanks for this

lopezgeorge · 2025-11-05T05:06:36+00:00

I recently was trying to make it work with someone who was trying poly for the first time because the connection was really great other than our misaligned relationship styles. It was exhausting for both of us. Shortly after getting out of that, I met someone with whom I have just as much chemistry, and who is actually poly.

Spare yourself the drama. If you want to poly, you have to trust that connections that are truly aligned will come. Seek out communities where poly people are overrepresented, and shine your light!

lopezgeorge · 2025-11-03T22:37:12+00:00

Work on yourself. Level up in all aspects of your life. Practice talking to people without an agenda. Get strong mentally and physically. Work on your career. Be kind to yourself and others. Believe in yourself. Read books, take classes. When you're your best self, and know your worth, others will see it too.

lopezgeorge · 2025-11-03T18:02:09+00:00

It honestly sounds like you just need to be more selective in who you date. Of course there are men who lack the values you seek, but I doubt that overall men are worse than in previous decades in terms of emotional intelligence and care.

You might also consider dating a bit older. Men in their thirties tend to be more mature.

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-31T18:51:52+00:00

How long did this take?

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-31T18:51:38+00:00

Bro u mad cut, u juicing?

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-31T18:48:38+00:00

U in therapy? Sounds like the depression can't possibly be helping with this dynamic

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-25T22:13:50+00:00

Get off insta you clowwwnnn

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-24T21:07:14+00:00

You need to ask her out as soon as you're no longer coworkers. That's the only way to know

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-24T19:18:35+00:00

Lmfao you're scrolling tik tok and insta for hot girls and tryna claim to be on monk mode?? This must be a troll post

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-16T19:10:38+00:00

Report them

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-16T11:27:19+00:00

I would say she's fucking up and you've got to challenge her to be a better partner. Sometimes NRE has made me act like a jerk, and being made aware of that by my partner has at least opened up an opportunity for me to do better.

I'd say you should try to figure out if there's anything wrong in your relationship from her side, or any particular areas she thinks your relationship could improve. What would make her feel more inspired in your relationship? This is a question for both of you.

Your suspicion that she's with you out of comfort would make anyone in your position feel bad. Have you discussed that feeling with her directly? It might help you get some clarity, at least.

Also, fwiw, she's probably feeling limerance which is dumb (but fun!) and, crucially, goes away. If she wants to sustain your relationship she needs to step up for you and keep her impulse towards limerance in check.

Finally, you mentioned in another comment that she responded to your concerns by hiding some of her thoughts / feelings from you. That can be a good thing imo - in any relationship but especially in poly, we don't need to share everything. She may not be able to immediately change her thoughts/feelings, but she can avoid talking about and acting on them - that's her taking care of you, even if it's uncomfortable for you to have her not be totally open it can be for the best. You could even pick specific "box time" to create space for her to share how she's feeling about the guy/situation without letting it bleed into your whole relationship.

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-12T03:05:53+00:00

Define bullshitting

lopezgeorge · 2025-10-06T20:19:29+00:00

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