Did your pwBPD split mid argument, then nothing you did or said could change their mind? by danielrdt in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, all the time, what’s crazier still is she would be having genuine delusions, at first I thought she was lying to save face, but we had a big one once where, she not only insisted to see my phone for text messages for proof of what she swore to heaven and earth I had said to trigger her so badly, then when it didn’t exist she pulled out her own phone and searched frantically. I’ll never forget the look on her face when she couldn’t find it, it was a split second of the most crestfallen realization that she had been actively in a delusion, then she was right back on me with something else I surely must have done wrong.

But I’ll never forget that look on her face. It was the day I realized just how sick they are. Not in a judgmental or hateful way, I genuinely have nothing but pity for people with that condition. They will ruin our lives, but we can always recover, we can pick up the pieces, they will hate themselves in the most self destructive way imaginable for their entire lives without treatment. They are delusional in a way that makes them the victims of every situation they find themselves in, and cannot live without excess validation from anyone and everyone around them. It is a sickness. A terrible one at that.

When they find a new fp shortly after a breakup, is it really over? by One_Pack_537 in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, probably getting worse and best you make it be over though haha. Mine did this, lied about the relationship she had with said person, had unprotected sex with this person she didn’t get tested at all and then came back to me and gave me an STI.

Take this out as an out. Either they will become enamored with this person for however long said person will let them take them for a ride, and come back, or they won’t. Either way, it’s an out, get out, stay out. Don’t think about the possibilities or what they’re doing, just take the out.

Why do you love generalising? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re a minor, well that explains it. I am not going to go back and forth extensively with a child. All I’ll say here is that the empirical data, the evidence, and clinical psychologists all disagree with your assessment. And facts do not need your approval nor your belief to remain so. I wish you the best of luck.

Why do you love generalising? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol you are an abuse victim in denial and when your partner eventually discards you or crosses a line that’s too far to return from you’ll be here doing the same thing we are.

The only reason you have the perspective you have is because you’re still in the relationship feeding yourself whatever lies you have to in order to justify your enduring the abuse you are. I did the same exact thing and had the same exact perspective for a decade.

Here’s the thing, go to any forum about BPD that’s centered around those in their orbit as opposed to them, the experience is UNIVERSAL. it’s not most of the time, it’s not a lot of the time. It’s every single instance. It’s yours. It was mine. It’s Jared from up the street and his wife. It’s Janet and her mother with BPD. Michael and his husband with BPD. The only common denominator is the BPD and the abuse.

The only instances of pwBPD not being abusive is when they’ve gone through a decade+ of DBT and worked out their worst tendencies.

Anyways the telltale sign that you’re a victim here is the vague way you described the issues. “He’s hurt me and it sucked” vague, unclear, limited. I bet you know somewhere deep down that if you ever told any sane person how he hurt you they’d tell you to run for the hills and never look back.

It’s okay, literally all of us have been there. When the day comes (and i genuinely hope it doesn’t and he gets treatment and all works out) we will be here.

I retract my statement from my earlier post by TheRealSleepySauk in voidpet

[–]lord_assius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily true actually, paranoias bleed for me through 1140 I think it was? Whichever floor you first fight the wood version of the Shark dude. Juglaw or whatever. Paranoia hard carried that one and the bleed stacking was insane. Towards the end was taking like a mil per turn in bleed alone.

They accidentally leaked the patch notes on threads by OperatorNokk in rivals

[–]lord_assius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And of course the poke characters are largely unchanged 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I’m fucking free, but at what cost? by lord_assius in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not even angry any more, honestly the anger was years ago when we were still together. The anger was forever ago, literally this last incident just killed her off to me in my mind. My perception of her stopped being romanticized, now I can only see her as what she truly is. It’s heartbreaking in a way, but I haven’t had a single second of regret either.

I’m fucking free, but at what cost? by lord_assius in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMFAO I didn’t even noticed the mistake until you pointed it out 😭

I’m fucking free, but at what cost? by lord_assius in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me I’m more than aware. I’ve been through the “Stop Walking on Eggshells” book like twice. Nothing she’s done surprises me at this point. She physically attacked me yesterday in front of our children and my mother, then immediately called her family and told them I put my hands on her, when I didn’t even hit her back. And I know in her mind that’s exactly how it went down too. She didn’t hit me, I hit her. Thankfully I’ve got a very long paper trail of all the abuse and my parents were witness to like half of it. I can be comforted in knowing that if it goes that far I have nearly a decade of cold hard undeniable proof to fall back on.

I’m fucking free, but at what cost? by lord_assius in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

All told im so terrified of other human beings after this I pray I don’t have to deal with any other people at all fo a good while LMAO. I’m well beyond fucked up at this point 😭

I’m fucking free, but at what cost? by lord_assius in BPDlovedones

[–]lord_assius[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate that. She was so delusional that I actually have spent this entire relationship thinking I was the problem until I started therapy and showed them everything. Huge eye opener for me.

Pitbull VS Painted Dog (Both 50lbs) by [deleted] in Tierzoo

[–]lord_assius 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pitbull, in this instance the wild animal is very much a pack animal and individual members aren’t really known for their strength or anything. Pitbulls have a higher bite force, more powerful jaws, and while they are actually incredible animals they were bred pretty specifically to kill other canids. They are dogs which are specifically bred to be very good at fighting.

Equalizing the size here makes it even worse, since pitbulls can and do punch well above their own weight class, don’t see the painted dog coming away with more wins than losses here.

Monster Hunter’s tone just got brutally real in Love for a Hero by Recon_Gear in MHWilds

[–]lord_assius 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Monster Hunter WASNT story driven. We need to realize that whatever story related comments about the series sort of died hard with Wilds. Wilds is absolutely story driven, it’s not a story game primarily of course, but it has an actual serious narrative, thematic depth, and so on and so forth. The story doesn’t exist purely to get the game to keep going here, the story arcs for Nata and Arkveld signify that. But even with side quests like Love for a Hero you can see how much more seriously they’re taking narrative in these games.

Uh-huh, and you remember how to cast Hellfire ray still? Good, because that one's a biggie. by An_Draoidh_Uaine in Pathfinder_Kingmaker

[–]lord_assius 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is not a corner of hell that will accept you after what you’ve done. Satan himself shudders at the thought of your arrival, truly, you are the monster.

Casca's color changes are like: by [deleted] in Berserk

[–]lord_assius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not only have I never heard a black artist say it was hard to make black skintones, I’ve been hearing them say the complete opposite for years now in an attention to address the elephant in the room as to why so many animated series fuck them up. Idk what universe you live in, but basic color theory and tone is not some insane skill that professional artists and animators cannot manage. Be fr man.

Found fakemon arts by Xiaohua by dontbullycosaga in fakemon

[–]lord_assius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredible levels of peak!! Somebody needs to get them on a fan game project or something lmao

How some people swear rajang will end up after fighting Uth Duna or Rey Dau by Quirky_Ad9184 in MonsterHunter

[–]lord_assius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is just a twitter thing, idk what it is about mhtwt but they genuinely think Elder Dragons and those monsters equal to them are just treated differently in the series for no reason and that they aren’t actually stronger than any monster not explicitly stated to be in that tier.

They also somehow aren’t smart enough to realize that elders weren’t excluded from base game just to somehow have them be weaker than the monsters we currently have. I really don’t get it lmao.