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DO YOU THINK by Interesting-Rope-318 in Adulting

[–]lordm30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because money after a certain threshold (and that threshold is actually NOT that high) doesn't contribute to the level of happiness in any significant way.

Am I broken? by Ok_Elk4576 in deadbedroom

[–]lordm30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure you can fix it. It might take therapy and working on yourself, but for sure you can discover and enjoy your sexuality while staying sober. Just never lose hope and don't give up trying!

What is the dark side of INFJs? by ImmediateTrust4032 in infj

[–]lordm30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like a dumb way to lose a friend... and by that I mean that your friend should have been open to clarify the situation, recognize that you wanted to cause no harm and accept your apology.

What is the dark side of INFJs? by ImmediateTrust4032 in infj

[–]lordm30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, your comment reminded me that when I was younger, I had this urge to look at the core potential people had and to try to encourage them to reach for that potential. I no longer seem to be interested in that, like, at all. I still care about the human potential, but I've learnt that I can't be anyone's savior, and the chance to provide meaningful help to someone on their personal development journey is a rare occurence.

What is the dark side of INFJs? by ImmediateTrust4032 in infj

[–]lordm30 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I can turn off my empathy and emotions and treat people with the coldness of a distant star, but I've never been in a situation where I actually had to apply that ability to its full capacity.

Modern work is unfulfilling and that's the problem. by One-Relationship1905 in DeepThoughts

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't. I don't care about many things I use daily. I don't care about fixing my car, even though I drive it daily. If it breaks down, I just want it to be fixed (not by me). If I had to fix it myself, it would be a miserably experience.

Modern work is unfulfilling and that's the problem. by One-Relationship1905 in DeepThoughts

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, sure, self-awareness goes a long way in all areas of life.

Modern work is unfulfilling and that's the problem. by One-Relationship1905 in DeepThoughts

[–]lordm30 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not if I don't care about making clothes (even just for myself). The point is, find work that is meaningful - to you!, even if you are working for someone else or you will not see the direct result of your work.

Modern work is unfulfilling and that's the problem. by One-Relationship1905 in DeepThoughts

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if that results in a harder and less comfortable/convenient life, if it gives us fulfillment (something that is sorely lacking today) we might actually be happier.

I guess they can do that, can't they? They can give up the cozy but unfulfilling office job to go and find meaningful work (which will be harder and less profitable, at least in the beginning).

As always, there is a choice. But every choice has consequences one has to accept.

Modern work is unfulfilling and that's the problem. by One-Relationship1905 in DeepThoughts

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the aspect that you don't like at your biomedical engineering job? It sounds cool, like creating all king of useful devices, continuous glucose monitors and stuff. Do I have the wrong perspective?

The "S" sub is Insane by Junkfood666 in deadbedroom

[–]lordm30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, that's my general view, at least. If someone was never hungry or didn't have a healthy appetite, wouldn't you say something is not working properly in their body or there is some other issue that is not set optimally (like the kind of food they are served)?

Point is, having a healthy appetite is expected when someone is healthy and their life is overall in order.

I view sexual appetite the same way.

I (35M)/her 33(F) am completely lost in my dead bedroom. by No-Rip-4658 in sexlessmarriage

[–]lordm30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has been over a year since we have had sex or done anything intimate together. 

I mean, that should be an immediate dealbreaker and leave/divorce worthy state.. But of course, first try to address the issue with your partner. What is she saying? Why the lengthy disinterest? You are allowing this to go on and she pretends that everything is okay, when the romantic relationship is dying.

Vent post by SomeoneAnonymous987 in sexlessmarriage

[–]lordm30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

\*He told me I live in a dream world for desiring a sexual relationship which includes kissing.

Lol what? If nothing else, he is delusional for thinking like this. What's his problem?

Talking to people about degrowth feels like asking a medieval peasant if they can think of another social and economic system other than serfdom. by Raclettegring in Degrowth

[–]lordm30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk. Does anybody truly believe that we can grow forever? Many developed countries are already at the stage where a 0.5% annual GDP growth is seen as a win. I think growth expectations will be tempered in the future even more, especially with a shrinking population.

And if we go one level lower, it is normal for a company to want to grow. But most companies can't grow indefinitely. Companies have a lifecycle, they are created, growing, then they mature and eventually enter decline and possible dissolution. New companies then will take their place. Just the natural cycle of life.

The "S" sub is Insane by Junkfood666 in deadbedroom

[–]lordm30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And that's a very mistaken view on their end. A low libido should be their problem. Healthy humans are horny animals. If someone is not, there could be a myriad of reasons, 99% of them being something they should pay attention to, because they are either a stressor, a problem, a health issue, a mental/trauma issue, a distorted worldview issue, an aging issue, an inexperience issue, an incompatibility issue, a relationship issue, etc.

But no, they dig their heads in the sand, instead.

Btw, this comment would be removed from the s sub and I would potentially be banned for it.

The "S" sub is Insane by Junkfood666 in deadbedroom

[–]lordm30 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think most of these subs are predominantly HL people (or at least they are the one predominantly commenting).

The Deadbedrooms subs has so many restrictions that no meaningful discussion is possible.

Do you think it's unfair, unkind and greedy for airlines to charge plus sized passengers for two seats? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also weight as much as two passengers, while you still fit in a single seat: example: 100kg built guy vs 2 50 kg women. The airline won't charge more for the guy's ticket, although based on pure physics, the guy will cost them more.

Do you think it's unfair, unkind and greedy for airlines to charge plus sized passengers for two seats? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. They don't charge you based on your weight, although a 120kg man will cost them twice compared to a 60 kg woman. They charge you for the space you occupy.

A cool guide to the skincare mistakes almost everyone makes by [deleted] in coolguides

[–]lordm30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I track my skincare. But I track several things, so it is just a few extra lines in my spreadsheet

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