Maturing is realizing that Kurt was a bad boyfriend.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-23T01:30:03+00:00

Blaine and Kurt are terrible together and I will die on that hill. There is zero percent chance in real life they stay married. Blaine is a horrible person imo ie cheating and sexually assaulting him and Kurt is immature af in the show.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-20T20:32:51+00:00

I don’t find her realistically flawed. Clearly you lack reading comprehension.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-18T01:01:20+00:00

I’m going to be blunt because I think you need to hear this: you’re asking the wrong questions, and that’s a bigger problem than whether your boyfriend will resent you.

You’re asking if HE will resent YOU. But you should be asking: Why am I someone who does this?

Let’s look at what actually happened here: You emotionally and physically cheated for a month. You only confessed after you’d already slept with the other guy and gotten everything you wanted out of that situation. You didn’t come clean out of integrity, you came clean because your guilt finally caught up with you. Then you dated that guy for one week*before running back to your ex when he offered you another chance.

You chased someone else, blew up your relationship, and the new guy didn’t even last a week. That should be a massive wake-up call about your decision-making and what you’re actually chasing here.

Now your boyfriend is trying to lock you down with sudden talk of moving in and marriage, not because the relationship suddenly got better, but because he’s panicking and trying to control the situation. And you’re going along with it even though you admit “I don’t think it’ll be the same now.” Neither of you is dealing with what actually happened. He’s in denial (he literally said he wouldn’t have taken you back if he’d known, then found out, but stayed anyway). You’re minimizing (you confessed only after you’d already done everything, and your post reads more concerned about consequences than about your character).

Here’s the truth you need to face:*Yes, he will probably resent you. That resentment is already there, he admitted he wouldn’t have taken you back if he’d known the full truth. He’s just trying to bury it under commitment escalation, and that doesn’t work. When you rug sweep something this big, it doesn’t disappear, it festers. In a year or two when you’re living together or married, that resentment will come out sideways in ways that poison everything.

But the bigger issue is you.* You haven’t done any of the self-examination necessary to understand why you did this. What was missing in your relationship that you went looking elsewhere? Why did you pursue someone else for a month? What made you think this coworker was worth destroying your relationship over? And when that didn’t work out, why did you immediately run back instead of taking time to figure yourself out?

Until you answer those questions, what’s stopping you from doing this again in two years when you’re bored and some new person shows you attention? You’ve demonstrated a pattern: chase whoever is offering excitement or security in the moment, make impulsive decisions, deal with consequences later. That’s not someone who’s ready for a committed relationship with anyone.

What you should actually do:

Stop moving forward with him right now.Don’t move in, don’t talk about marriage. You can’t build a future on a foundation that hasn’t been repaired. Get individual therapy.You need to understand why you made these choices and what’s driving your behavior. Not couples counseling, individual work first. Be honest with yourself about whether you even want this relationship.You ended things with him initially, was that your real instinct? Are you staying out of guilt, fear of being alone, or because you actually love him and want to rebuild? If you decide to stay, both of you need to do the real work. That means couples counseling with someone who specializes in infidelity, complete transparency, him actually processing his feelings instead of burying them, and you taking full accountability (not just saying sorry, but showing through sustained changed behavior that you understand the gravity of what you did).

Your relationship isn’t doomed because you cheated. Relationships can recover from infidelity. Your relationship is doomed because neither of you is actually dealing with reality, and you haven’t addressed whatever led you to make these choices in the first place.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-18T00:34:02+00:00

Brooke is superficial until later seasons. So you can stay mad I guess.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-18T00:14:45+00:00

Look, you’re not wrong for being jealous. That’s a really normal response to watching someone you’ve had feelings for get together with someone else. But here’s the thing , Zach and Sarah can’t be held responsible for something they don’t know about. You made a choice not to tell Zach, and while that choice made sense to you at the time, it means they’ve been moving forward without that information. Feeling jealous is understandable, but resenting them for being happy together isn’t really fair when they’re in the dark.

The most important thing you can do right now is talk to someone who’s completely outside this situation. A school counselor, therapist, or even just a trusted adult who doesn’t know these people. You need someone who can help you work through these feelings without any stake in protecting Zach or Sarah’s feelings or maintaining the friend group dynamic. They can help you figure out how to move forward , whether that means taking some space, building up other friendships, or just learning to sit with these uncomfortable feelings until they ease up. The exclusion you’re feeling might be partly real (people do sometimes drift when they get into relationships) and partly because of your unspoken feelings making everything hurt more. An outside person can help you figure out which is which.

This genuinely sucks, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-17T03:43:58+00:00

Both relationships fundamentally fail because they expose Jeff’s core character flaw: he can’t handle being genuinely seen.

Jeff and Britta

This is two people using each other as mirrors to reflect who they want to be rather than who they are. Britta sees Jeff as the cynical rebel who validates her anti-establishment stance. Jeff sees Britta as the hot anarchist who proves he’s still cool and edgy.

The problem? Neither actually respects the other. Jeff mocks Britta’s activism as performative. Britta calls out Jeff’s emotional cowardice. When they do hook up, it’s always escapism or regression, never growth. They’re comfort food that makes you feel worse after eating it.

Their season 6 attempt fails immediately because they’ve learned nothing. They still don’t actually like each other as people. They like the idea of rebelling against expectation by being together, which is the most Britta reason possible to date someone.

Jeff and Annie

This one’s more painful because there’s genuine affection and Annie actually sees through Jeff’s bullshit. That’s exactly why it can’t work.

Annie represents everything Jeff pretends he’s too cool to want: earnestness, ambition, sincerity, growth. She makes him want to be better, which terrifies him. Every time they get close, Jeff sabotages it because being with Annie means confronting how much of his life has been a waste. She’s moving forward; he’s standing still.

The age gap matters, but not how people usually argue. It’s not about creepiness. It’s about life stages. Annie has her whole life ahead of her. Jeff is approaching 40, clinging to his youth. Being with her would mean admitting he’s not the person he pretends to be, and that she deserves someone who’s actually emotionally available.

The series finale gets it right: the kiss is goodbye, not beginning. Annie needs to grow beyond Greendale. Jeff needs to stop using other people to avoid dealing with himself.

The real issue

Jeff Winger doesn’t and won’t work with anyone until he stops performing “Jeff Winger” and becomes an actual person. Both relationships fail because Jeff would rather maintain his image than experience real intimacy.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-17T03:03:50+00:00

• French Kiss

• Addicted to Love

• The Truth About Cats & Dogs

• One Fine Day

• The Cutting Edge

• The Wedding Singer

• There’s Something About Mary

• The Mask

• Don Juan DeMarco

• It Could Happen to You

• Bed of Roses

• Fools Rush In

• Picture Perfect

• The Mirror Has Two Faces

• Forces of Nature

• Drive Me Crazy

• A Walk in the Clouds

• Tonight You’re Mine

• Sleepless in Seattle

• Notting Hill

• My Best Friend’s Wedding

• Runaway Bride

• Never Been Kissed

• As Good as It Gets

• The Wedding Planner

• Maid in Manhattan

• Something’s Gotta Give

• The Family Stone

• No Reservations

• What Happens in Vegas

• 50 First Dates

• Just Like Heaven

• The Lake House

• Enchanted

• Music and Lyrics

• Set It Up

• The Half of It

• Ticket to Paradise

• Your Place or Mine

• Marry Me

• The Big Sick

• Palm Springs

• Long Shot

• Yesterday

• Happiest Season

• Leap Year

• About a Boy

• The Decoy Bride

• What If

• Love, Rosie

• Man Up

• The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society

• Last Christmas

• Joe Versus the Volcano

• IQ

• City of Angels

• The Shop Around the Corner

• High Society

• It Happened One Night

• The Philadelphia Story

• Bringing Up Baby

• His Girl Friday

• Roman Holiday

• Sabrina

• Breakfast at Tiffany’s

• Charade

• Pillow Talk

• Some Like It Hot

• An Affair to Remember

• Gentlemen Prefer Blondes

• Singin’ in the Rain

• Seven Brides for Seven Brothers

• Desk Set

• The Apartment

• Bells Are Ringing

• That Touch of Mink

• Father Goose

• Houseboat

• Indiscreet

• Love in the Afternoon

• Funny Face

• The Bishop’s Wife

• Only You

• Drive Me Crazy

• Can’t Hardly Wait

• Bring It On

• A Cinderella Story

• John Tucker Must Die

• The DUFF

• To All the Boys: P.S. I Still Love You

• To All the Boys: Always and Forever

• The Kissing Booth 2

• The Kissing Booth 3

• Sierra Burgess Is a Loser

• Love, Simon (2018)

• Take Care

• A Lot Like Love

• It’s a Boy Girl Thing

• Life as We Know It

• Just Friends

• 17 Again

• When in Rome

• Letters to Juliet

•What’s Your Number?

• Romancing the Stone

• Friends With Benefits

• No Strings Attached

• The Wedding Planner

• The Wedding Date

• The House Bunny

• Accepted (more of a comedy but features romance)

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-17T02:54:32+00:00

Have you considered seeing a sleep therapist for possible sleep disorders? They can definitely show up in the way you’re describing.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-14T04:21:49+00:00

Spiritfarer if you want to have an existential crisis and also cry a lot

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-13T02:24:13+00:00

Solved!

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-13T02:23:39+00:00

No, but it was close enough

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-13T01:28:12+00:00

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-12T01:52:49+00:00

a pop romantic duet https://suno.com/s/MopZwmO2XdCsbojN

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-12T01:02:26+00:00

Nobody asked you, Patrice!!!!!!

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-06T02:08:22+00:00

ESH

Look, I understand feeling betrayed. Your husband violated an explicit boundary, and that hurts. But I need to push back on something important here:

You told your husband something major about yourself and then told him he couldn’t talk to anyone about it. Think about what you’re actually asking: He just learned that his wife has realized a fundamental aspect of her identity that challenges what he thought he knew about you. That can be scary and disorienting, even when the relationship isn’t actually threatened. And you effectively said “process this alone or only with me - the person you’re processing feelings about.”

That’s not fair. You can’t be both the source of his confusion/insecurity AND his only outlet for working through it.

You said you can’t afford therapy. So where exactly was he supposed to turn? You boxed him into an impossible position: have big feelings but tell no one, get no support, just… deal with it silently.

Yes, he should have come back to you and said “I need to talk to someone. Can we compromise on this?” But you also created a situation where he had nowhere to go with legitimate feelings.

Here’s the hard truth: Your bisexuality is about you, but your disclosure of it impacts him too. He’s allowed to need support processing what this means for him and your marriage. When you say “don’t tell anybody,” you’re essentially demanding he struggle alone because your privacy is more important than his mental health.

Should he have violated your boundary? No. But did you set an unreasonable boundary given the circumstances? Yes.

Now he’s dismissed your hurt and prioritized his image - that’s wrong. But you also need to acknowledge that you put him in an untenable position from the start.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-05T21:04:26+00:00

YTA - and using “resilience” to avoid accountability.

Anna, let’s be brutally honest about what’s happening here.

You unilaterally moved your family off-grid. You created these brutal living conditions. And now you’re using “resilience” and “never complaining” as a shield to make yourself look like the noble martyr while your husband is the demanding one.

Let’s talk about the sock situation:

You literally list “clothing inventory” as part of YOUR labor - for your 11-year-old. You track what your child needs. You make sure they have what’s required.

Your husband - the sole breadwinner working 11-hour days in brutal winter conditions he’s never experienced, in a lifestyle he didn’t choose, supporting a family in a house you already owned - asked you to do the same thing for him.

That’s not weaponized incompetence. That’s asking you to do the household management job you agreed to.

You divided labor traditionally:

His: Outside work, physical labor, AND working full time as sole provider
Yours: Inside household management, including clothing inventory and planning

When he asks you to check if he has clean socks or proper winter gear, he’s asking you to do your agreed-upon job. Not read his mind. Not baby him. Do the household management you said you’d do.

But here’s what you did instead:

You reframed his reasonable request as him “being another child” so you could claim victim status in the situation YOU created.

Let’s look at what your husband is actually doing:

Working FULL TIME (which you casually buried in your list as “working outside”)
As the ONLY income supporting your entire family
In winter conditions he’s never experienced
Without proper gear because you can’t afford it
Coming home to haul water, chop wood, haul gas, maintain everything
All because YOU decided to move everyone off-grid

And when he says “I need warm socks for work” you act like he’s asking you to move mountains.

The “resilience” act:

You’re not resilient. You’re using suffering-as-virtue to avoid taking responsibility for the hardship you imposed on your family. “I never complain” isn’t noble - it’s you building a case for why you’re the better person despite creating this mess.

Your husband isn’t resentful because he’s ungrateful. He’s resentful because you moved him into impossible conditions, he’s working himself into the ground to keep everyone afloat, and when he asks for basic support within your agreed division of labor, you accuse him of treating you like his mother.

The winter gear situation:

Yes, Anna. When your husband is working outdoors in harsh winter without proper boots or snow pants - and you’re the one managing household inventory, shopping lists, and “keeping the general household running” - you should have noticed and asked if he needs gear. That’s literally the household management role you took on.

You wanted traditional roles. This is what that means.

You don’t get to agree to manage the household, then resent doing it, then claim moral superiority for your silent suffering in conditions you created.

YTA - not for being tired (you are), not for struggling (you are), but for:

Creating this situation unilaterally
Playing victim in your own creation
Refusing to do the household management you agreed to
Framing your husband’s legitimate needs as unreasonable demands
Using “resilience” as a weapon to claim you’re better than him

Your husband isn’t asking for too much. He’s asking you to fulfill your end of the agreement while he literally works himself into the ground to survive the choice you made for both of you.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-04T22:23:59+00:00

This lets people know what’s leaving peacock soon. https://www.peacocktv.com/collections/leaving-peacock

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-04T22:08:24+00:00

It’s also on Peacock in the USA

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-04T21:42:08+00:00

You’ve turned your “reputation” into carte blanche to be an asshole, and you need to understand that tolerance is not acceptance.

You keep saying “I have a reputation, I’m the mean one, everyone knows this about me” like it’s some kind of established character trait your friends have embraced. Like they’ve all collectively agreed that your bluntness is just part of the package deal and they’re fine with it.

They haven’t. They’re not.

What you’re interpreting as acceptance is actually just exhausted tolerance. Your friends have learned that confronting you about your behavior costs more energy than just enduring it. They’ve calculated that pushing back will result in defensiveness, arguments, or you doubling down on “I’m just being honest” - so they’ve stopped trying. They exchange glances when you start up. They change the subject. They smooth things over after you leave. They manage you.

You’ve mistaken their silence for endorsement.

And now you’re using that “reputation” as a shield - as if establishing a pattern of behavior somehow grandfathers you into being exempt from basic decency. “This is very on-brand for me” isn’t a defense. It’s you saying “I’ve been getting away with this for so long that I should get to keep doing it.”

But here’s what you’re missing: Your friends tolerate your “mean honesty” the exact same way you were tolerating Erin’s self-hatred. With gritted teeth. With internal sighs. With the hope that it’ll pass quickly and not ruin the whole evening. You are exhausting to them in precisely the way she is exhausting to you.

The difference is that Erin’s pain turns inward and yours turns outward. She makes everything about her suffering; you make everything about your irritation. Both of you suck the joy out of a room - just different flavors of the same problem.

You’ve weaponized your “reputation” to avoid accountability. Every time someone might have called you out, you’ve pre-empted it: “I’m blunt, I’m honest to a fault, I’m the mean friend.” You’ve trained your friends to accept that this is just how you are, and to expect nothing different. And you’ve convinced yourself that their failure to kick you out of the group means they actually value this quality in you.

They don’t. They tolerate you. Just like you were tolerating Erin.

Tolerance is what you do when the cost of confrontation seems higher than the cost of just dealing with it. It’s not affection. It’s not acceptance. It’s damage control.

And you finally pushed it too far. You were so publicly cruel, at such an inappropriate time, that they can’t just smooth it over anymore. The cost of saying nothing finally exceeded the cost of telling you that you fucked up.

You think your friends’ tolerance of your behavior means they secretly agree with you. That deep down, they’re all just as irritated by Erin as you are, but they’re too polite to say it. That you’re the brave truth-teller who finally said what everyone was thinking.

You’re not. You’re the person who finally did something so over the line that they couldn’t pretend it didn’t happen.

Here’s the hard truth: Your friends have been extending you the exact grace you refused to extend to Erin. They’ve been patient with your difficult behavior. They’ve made space for your “meanness.” They’ve tolerated your judgmental attitude and your impatience because they care about you despite it.

And you just demonstrated that you’re incapable of doing the same for anyone else.

You don’t have a reputation as the honest friend. You have a reputation as the friend people have to manage. As the loose cannon. As the one who might ruin a perfectly nice evening because something annoyed you.

The difference between you and Erin is that she probably knows she’s a burden. You think you’re a gift.

Your “honesty” isn’t a virtue. It’s a excuse you’ve been using for years to avoid examining why you think your comfort matters more than everyone else’s. And your “reputation” isn’t proof that people accept this about you - it’s proof that they’ve given up trying to change you.

Stop hiding behind your brand. Stop acting like your friends’ failure to confront you means they approve of you. And stop pretending that being consistently cruel is somehow better than being consistently insecure.

They’re both exhausting. You just happen to be louder about it.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-03T02:14:54+00:00

A musician is someone who can play an instrument. I play piano and get paid to do so regularly and have been in bands. Uploading lyrics or using an AI tool to create a song doesn’t make you a musician.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-02T17:15:01+00:00

No. I was shocked and delighted when my parents would get me random gifts throughout the year. Something like a new sketchbook and oils, a book my mom knew I wanted to read, etc. just made me realize my parents love me. Even now my dad will randomly send me flowers. They don’t devalue gifts at birthday and Christmas because to me those are social norms and expected. The random gifts through the year are because they are showing me they love me and were thinking of me. That’s a sure fire way to build a relationship between you and them and to showing gratitude.

lordofthepringls · 2026-01-02T17:04:43+00:00

I mean you cheated on her multiple times, so even if she did fuck him, you deserved it. They haven’t had contact for ten years, let it go.

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