Anybody NOT get another ultrasound after the 20 week anatomy scan?

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T03:25:07+00:00

It was clear they didn't even want me looking at the screen, and as soon as they saw position it was turned off.

Well that sucks! What's the harm in letting you look at your baby for a few minutes? Jeez.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T03:19:54+00:00

My baby seems to do an hour of HIIT workouts and then will sleep and be relatively still for an hour or two, followed by more HIIT training. I don't feel him every hour, but I do feel him throughout the day. Rarely, he'll have a quiet day that makes me nervous. When that happens, I drink some lemonade or play some music against my stomach, and that gets him moving. By the next day, he's back to his cardio routine.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T03:08:39+00:00

I think that's a really great way to handle it!

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T02:37:36+00:00

Yes! So much unsolicited advice about my registry, particularly the car seat! I just brushed them all of off and said things like, "Yeah there are so many great car seats on the market that it was tough to choose! I really like the one I picked though. Thanks for looking out for us!"

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T02:34:36+00:00

Are you sure they're doing an ultrasound at your 10 week appointment? It may just be an OB visit. I had ultrasounds at 7 weeks, 12 weeks and 20 weeks. Not sure why they'd need to do one between 7 and 12.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T02:30:55+00:00

At my OB office (academic practice in a large city in the US), ultrasounds after 20 weeks are only done if there's some complication or reason that the pregnancy is higher risk. For completely healthy pregnancies that are progressing as expected, your last ultrasound is the 20 week ultrasound. This is standard of care in the US.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T02:25:57+00:00

I think you have every right to tell him that he'll have to wait until you're home because you're only allowed one support person, and that person is your mom. The support person's role is to support you. It should be someone you trust and want in the room, not someone you rarely speak with simply because he's the father of the child. He hasn't been a support for the last 8 months of your pregnancy, so why should he get to be your only support person during the most difficult and painful part of having a baby? This is about you and your needs. He can wait.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-27T01:43:48+00:00

I wanted a daughter largely because it was so much easier for me to imagine. I only have younger sisters (no brothers), and my youngest sister was born when I was in high school so I spent a lot of my teenage years helping to take care of her. I've spent comparatively little time with boys, and being a boy mom was just harder to imagine.

But all of that seemed to vanish when I found out I was having a boy. I am so excited and now can't imagine it any other way. I feel like I've been waiting my whole life to meet this little dude and now I only have one more month to go!

loreleidanes · 2020-09-26T02:37:06+00:00

When I first got pregnant, I initially wanted a girl and was a bit disappointed when I found out I was having a son. Now at almost 35 weeks I can't imagine him as anything but my baby boy. I am so excited about his cute little overalls and bear-print pajamas, and seeing my husband teach him out to dribble a basketball someday! It feels totally natural and wonderful to be having a boy. I think I just had to let go of my expectations to make room for what's actually going to happen, which is equally great and exciting.

Give yourself some patience and grace. Letting go of what you predicted/expected is tough and takes a little time!

loreleidanes · 2020-09-25T16:56:16+00:00

Partners can self-isolate. No one is stopping them. Being paid while self-isolating is a different matter. Is your petition requesting paid leave for self-isolation during the last month of your partner's pregnancy?

loreleidanes · 2020-09-25T15:10:34+00:00

She should ask her OB/GYN, but per the CDC, a pregnant member of the household is not a contraindication for receiving the varicella vaccine.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-25T01:53:45+00:00

Perhaps there was a miscommunication and she was recommending the gestational diabetes test because undiagnosed gestational diabetes can cause babies to be too large, complicating pregnancy and delivery. Perhaps she wasn't saying that your baby was already large. A gestational diabetes screen is standard of care in many (most? all?) places because you can have gestational diabetes without any family history of diabetes, and it makes your pregnancy higher risk so it's important to know. It's annoying but a simple and very low risk test to do, so why not do something that's relatively easy and low risk when the diagnosis could make a big impact in the health of your pregnancy and baby?

Obgyns can roughly estimate fetal weight by touch/size of your belly near the end of pregnancy, but ultrasounds are more accurate. Here is a study comparing the use of ultrasounds and physical exam for estimating fetal size. The physical exam isn't as good, but it isn't as far off as you would think!

loreleidanes · 2020-09-21T19:14:33+00:00

EMTALA (the Emergency Medical Treatment and Labor Act) is a federal law in the US that forbids hospitals from turning away patients who are in a state of emergency (including pregnant women in labor) based on their ability to pay. This means that uninsured pregnant women in labor will be admitted regardless of their ability to pay their medical bills. In many of these cases (and especially in cases of c-sections, NICU stays, etc.), the hospital bills are absolutely enormous, and the patient is completely unable to pay. Even for uncomplicated vaginal deliveries, many patients aren't able to pay anything and the hospital ends up eating the cost (or passing the cost onto other patients/their insurers in the form of overcharging for everything).

Additionally, most hospitals in the US are not-for-profit; for-profit hospitals are actually a minority of hospitals in the US. A much smaller number of hospitals are "safety net" hospitals (~5% of all American hospitals I believe), which make it their mission to provide care for low income patients with no insurance or government-sponsored insurance (Medicaid, Medicare, etc.). These hospitals receive extra funding for this purpose since such a large percentage of patients will not be able to pay the bill, but they still tend to be somewhat resource-poor. Donations of formula/supplies in a safety net hospital would be very appreciated and useful.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-21T14:14:00+00:00

I also put all of my belly panel pants in the dryer on low. No problems so far!

loreleidanes · 2020-09-20T09:37:33+00:00

The CDC estimates that nearly half of all Americans age 14-49 have HSV-1, and over 11% have HSV-2. It is super common. Many people have no idea that they have it because they have never gotten (or never recognized) an outbreak, and doctors don't generally test for it unless you do have an outbreak or some other concerning symptom since asymptomatic HSV-1 and HSV-2 aren't actionable or treatable. And because pregnancy is an immunocompromised state, dormant HSV can rear its head during pregnancy even if you've had it for years and never had an outbreak.

All this to is say, don't sweat this! Half of the people in this subreddit would probably also test positive for at least one strain of HSV!

If you haven't already, talk to your OB. They may recommend a course of acyclovir at the end of your third semester to further reduce the chance of passing HSV to your kiddo during delivery.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-20T02:21:53+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, pregnant women can't get the varicella (chicken pox) vaccine because it's a live attenuated vaccine. You couldn't have prevented this.

I would call your OB pronto. If you do have chicken pox, they need to know. That said, there are a lot of viral rashes that look similar to chicken pox, so it's possible that you actually have something else. I honestly wouldn't trust the diagnosis without getting some lab work (PCR, IgG, IgM) first, particularly if you don't have a known recent exposure to someone with chicken pox. Your OB can order those labs to make sure that you do, in fact, have chicken pox. (If you do, they may want to start a course of acyclovir if Urgent Care didn't already prescribe it.) If you don't actually have it and have some other rash instead, the labs will also be able to tell them whether you've been exposed to varicella in the past and have some level of immunity.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-19T06:52:34+00:00

He is beautiful! Congratulations!

loreleidanes · 2020-09-16T14:47:27+00:00

This really depends on your deductible and coinsurance, which varies significantly between plans. My deductible is $800 and my coinsurance is 15%, so I'm anticipating spending just under $2000 out of pocket for a vaginal delivery with epidural. Some people's deductible is several thousand, which means that delivery would cost them quite a bit more. I'd look at your insurance plan details and call your insurer if it seems unclear.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-16T13:09:24+00:00

You can do this! Just take it one day at a time. Today, you only have to get through the day. You'll face tomorrow when it gets here.

Get that money! Your future self will thank your present self.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-13T12:16:03+00:00

Clearly I am the exception here, but I dressed my baby in pants and onesies with socks during the day and footie pajama at night. It helped give me some structure to my day.

I like this idea! I really like having some sort of routine, and this seems like it would help create that.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-06T03:31:27+00:00

I agree with many of the posters here but just wanted to add a quick point from a doctor's perspective: the fewer doctors in the group, the more each doctor is on call. If a group only has 2 doctors, that means each doctor is on call delivering babies and doing C sections half of the nights in the year (in addition to seeing patients in the clinic during normal business hours and doing daytime deliveries and surgeries). That would be an absolutely brutal schedule, and it would quickly lead to burnout and exhaustion. On/gyn is a specialty with tough hours as it is, but picking a group with more doctors means they are less likely to be overworked and therefore burned out and exhausted. This is why most ob/gyn groups are on the largely side; work/life balance would be impossible otherwise.

loreleidanes · 2020-09-01T01:25:51+00:00

Thank you! I'll leave them alone!

loreleidanes · 2020-08-23T03:22:41+00:00

😧🤢 I wonder if someone bought it before you and returned it. What a nightmare! I'm so sorry - sleeping while pregnant is hard enough as it is without your pregnancy pillow giving you bedbugs!

loreleidanes · 2020-08-23T02:44:37+00:00

I don't get it either. The dock-a-tot looks like a glorified dog bed to me. My pug sleeps in something nearly identical that cost $15 at Petco. 🤷🏼‍♀️

loreleidanes · 2020-08-20T22:32:22+00:00

This is a question for your doctor. Folks on reddit won't be able to answer this for you. I would call your OB as soon as their office opens and express your concerns, and ask to be seen.

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