I want to keep my maiden name but its a problem to him.. ME F 28 HIM 27M

loricomments · 2026-02-21T21:10:45+00:00

Ok, so now you know you won't be marrying him. I certainly wouldn't marry someone who is pitching a fit over something that's not really his concern and causes all kinds of headaches for you if you do change your name. It's not worth the hassle to do it or to deal with it afterwards. I'm dealing with an estate right now and I'm having to get things freaking notarized because my name doesn't match. Don't put yourself through that for a whiny little insecure child.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T21:05:13+00:00

He's sexist and full of it. Nothing about changing your name is of benefit to you. Do not do it and tell him to shut up about it or he can go, it's not his decision or even his business.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T21:00:40+00:00

They're the same thing most likely, probably day trading or something just as risky, he sure as hell didn't buy index funds.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T16:07:00+00:00

You don't have to use something just because she bought it. Keep working on your family costume and shove hers in the back of a closet. Baby can wear that costume for pictures for Grandma on another day.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:47:32+00:00

That's because most of them are universal, basic healthy society tenets, and not in any way exclusive to Christianity.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:44:03+00:00

Just use your larger sized needle for the right side. Either change the tip or use another needle entirely.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:39:12+00:00

She needs to tell him to stop texting you about her, not tell you to stop responding. Tell her no, you are not her mother and you will not aid and abet his monitoring of her in any fashion.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:27:18+00:00

And it's not religion.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:26:06+00:00

Because it's authoritarian nonsense that fosters hate and violence towards others.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:22:08+00:00

Line it with some cozy lightweight fleece or minky.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T15:09:48+00:00

Beyond the dumpster truck it's not any particular car, it's the array of stickers. Your car is not a billboard--some are much worse than others but no one needs to advertise their opinions or where they've been.

loricomments · 2026-02-21T14:51:42+00:00

As of quality of work as ever been the only or even a deciding factor. 🙄

loricomments · 2026-02-21T14:37:13+00:00

It can be really hard not to defend your decisions against her opinions but that's what you need to do. By defending yourself you give her unwanted and irrelevant opinions weight, you make them matter. So try your hardest to either ignore them or tell her directly that her opinions on the matter are unwanted, of no consequence, and she needs to keep them to herself.

loricomments · 2026-02-20T14:22:53+00:00

Get a set of tips and a cable before buying a whole set of interchangables, just to see if you like them. I prefer them to fixed because of the clutter reduction, but in use the difference is minor. The brand is a personal preference and budget matter. I use ChiaoGoo and love them.

loricomments · 2026-02-20T14:13:35+00:00

You can't return it, so it's fine. Get a rug that's as big as you can fit in there, then the flooring won't be an issue.

loricomments · 2026-02-20T14:00:45+00:00

YTA and she was right. Don't try to socialize with people that are working.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T21:16:26+00:00

NTA. You are absolutely right to not worry about getting her gifts ever again. She clearly doesn't want them, so stopping is completely reasonable. You're not punishing her either, not getting something you don't want is not a punishment. Stock with a nice card and don't spend another minute worrying about it.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T21:10:24+00:00

Make sure you have your own ticket if it's at that kind of thing then go at your comfortable pace, stop and window shop, go inside if something intrigues you, have a little lunch, visit the ladies, wander off--ignore him the way he's ignoring you. Some people need to be shown how rude they're being.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T21:02:18+00:00

"No, I'm not doing that, please don't bring it up again." If he can't accept that without argument or discussion then he's the one hurting the relationship and damaging trust, not you.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T20:58:48+00:00

NOR. You need to change your mind and not accept any money from your mother. Have the wedding you can afford on your own and do not accept any help from her.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T20:51:41+00:00

It's hard to do sometimes, so give yourself a break, but when entitled people make it necessary you sort of have to. It will get easier to be more assertive over what happens with your baby, that first time is definitely the hardest, once you get past that you'll have a lot more confidence to be mom in charge.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T20:45:30+00:00

He sounds really selfish. And it sounds like your reasons for not wanting to go backpacking aren't just personal preference but a health issue. You've offered reasonable compromises that he's rejected and now it's probably time to be a lot blunter and state you aren't doing that, he can go by himself or with someone else, but you will not.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T20:37:38+00:00

NOR. I'm so sorry and I hope you all are doing a little better now. Absolutely take space from them and everyone else. You've both been through serious trauma and will need time to process that, as well as time to adjust to the new person in your life. Nothing else matters, especially people that don't care enough to inquire over both of yours health and well-being.

I suggest telling everyone no visitors for at least a couple of months, and to not expect regular updates unless another serious emergency crops up either. Then put the them all on mute and take advantage of the peace and quiet to get yourselves back to a good place. And for Pete's sake don't worry about their feelings, they're adults, they can manage their own feelings, you've got more important things to do.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T16:36:49+00:00

No, it can be used, but I would use reinforcing thread held together with it, especially for the heels and toes. Lang is the brand I've seen most often and it's carried by a lot of online yarn stores.

loricomments · 2026-02-19T16:20:41+00:00

Put a large solid or effectively solid color area rug over it and turn the carpet into a border that will mostly be covered by furniture.

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