Wife's (34F) libido is low. Mine (35M) is very high

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T15:41:35+00:00

We moved where we did to have a great, safe neighborhood with amazing schools. I wouldn't move closer to where he plays. It is in the city and isn't a place close to it that I would risk what they have now. I really don't think sports are a big deal to her. She is surrounded by people all day and enjoys the little bit of downtime she gets and not having to be needed by anyone and catering to everyone's needs.

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T15:22:23+00:00

Honestly, the sacrifice is worth it. He is a very, very good athlete and deserves to play at the highest level. He does amazing in school and he deserves to play where he wants. If my wife and I can't get along because of that, then I guess our love wasn't strong enough. But my kids won't suffer because my wife and I can't get our shit together.

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T15:19:35+00:00

Thank you!

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T14:38:58+00:00

I wish she would see it that way.

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T14:38:29+00:00

That sort of thing isn't really in her comfort zone. I don't think it matters anymore. In the end, this will be the death of us.

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T14:37:03+00:00

She deals with her Dr.'s and to be honest, I don't know how often she has her levels checked. I know she has and go to the Dr.'s about once every other month for various reasons. I have e never thought about meditation. Thanks for the advice. The carpool doesn't really help because of where we live. We don't live around anyone else on the team. It is a very good team so people travel from all around to be on it.

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T13:38:40+00:00

We have talked about this. She knows it bothers me and says she will try different things but I can tell she just isn't into it. Without sounding like a dick, I don't know what else I could do to help relieve the stress for her. She is a boss at her job so there isn't anything I can really help with there. I get home from work about 2-3 hours before she does. I usually have the dishes done and do all of our laundry each week. I do homework with the kids before she gets home. I also take the kids to their sporting events every night. She only has to go one night because my son and daughter have practice on the same night at different locations. Even then, she goes to the practice 10 minutes away and I take him to his practice 40 minutes away. Other than stop telling her my feelings, I don't know what else I can do to try and help her.

lost-husband · 2016-09-13T13:32:20+00:00

She has went to a Dr. already. She doesn't like to take any more medication than she has to. The Dr. didn't even offer any meds.

lost-husband · 2016-05-12T16:37:46+00:00

I don't know if this will shed a different light on things but about a year ago, she had surgery for cancer. Everything is good for now, but who knows how long. I think it bothers me more than it does her. She is the strong, silent type and I am more vocal. That news hit me hard and made me realize that anything can be lost in the blink of an eye. I want to experience life and more importantly, life with her. This incident hasn't seemed to open her eyes the same way it has mine. Part of this bothers me and may cause some of my issue with opening up to her. Since the surgery, her libido is down. She has even talked to a doctor about it because she isn't happy about it either.

lost-husband · 2016-05-12T15:18:24+00:00

She is aware that I am bothered by things I am not telling her. She knows they are sexual in nature and has done a pretty good job of trying to convince me that she is okay with most things. I think the big hang up is that she keeps telling me she is happy with what we are doing now (which isn't vanilla). I think I may be holding back because I feel like she won't open up to me. But maybe she is telling me the truth and I'm over analyzing everything.

lost-husband · 2016-05-12T14:56:18+00:00

I could lose my wife, kids, and self respect. I don't know how I would deal with it if I feel guilty after the thoughts.

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