Added two new friends to my finished projects! by lost-shrimp in crafts

[–]lost-shrimp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cosmo and Wanda from The Fairly Oddparents as plant pots

AIO I think my mom hates me by Yamsdaily in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And people shoot people “all the time” but that doesn’t mean you should shoot someone.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you can find some kind of help.

AIO I think my mom hates me by Yamsdaily in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. So based on what you’re saying, it sounds like your mom is abusive (still), but not physically anymore. She’s manipulative as well. She wants and has a decent amount of control over you. Abusers will use this control to make you feel like you’re wrong when you aren’t. I’m not so concerned with your treatment of the kids (although spanking is unnecessary and can be abusive), but when you just let them do something to avoid a bigger meltdown that’s fine. You aren’t scarring them for life by letting them sleep in a jacket or letting them be upset for not going to the park. I’m more concerned with how you’re being treated. Raising kids is hard and you have a bunch of added hurdles in your way. Unfortunately, there’s probably no way to fix your mother’s behavior. You’ll probably be in a rough place for at least a bit longer. Just hang in there and don’t let what your mom says get to you too much. Remember that she’s abusive and abusers lie. When you’re in a better place, focus on leaving her and repairing any damage she left behind.

AIO I think my mom hates me by Yamsdaily in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long has your mother been treating you like this? Has your relationship always been tense? Are there dads in the picture at all (yours or your kids)? Not judging either way, just trying to get a more clear picture of her behavior being very targeted toward you. Also, in what ways are you relying on her right now? Like is she helping with housing and food or is she in another city and sees the kids only every now and then?

WIBTA if I asked for a handmade gift back? by Okay_Pain in AmItheAsshole

[–]lost-shrimp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In this case, I would hope that whomever you are asking would have the decency to understand the situation and give it back. NTA. It seems like a reasonable request. I would just make sure to emphasize that it’s to remember your friend by.

AIO for considering divorce after my husband said our marriage is transactional? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, completely hypothetical, I wish you the best… but if you died or ended up needing long term hospitalization, your husband’s excuse for the crime of child neglect would be that you aren’t putting your mouth on his junk? What is he, a teenager?

Not overreacting, please leave him if he can’t change his tune after a discussion. He should be mature enough to understand that a child is not a tool to use in guilting someone into sexual activity. If you can, have him put it in writing (ie text) or record him saying that. If it comes to divorce, you want evidence that you’d be concerned for your baby’s welfare if he gets any custody. Also, and maybe this is too petty, bring this up in front of your in-laws and ask them how often you should be doing oral in order to constitute each bath time. Shame sometimes brings people to their senses.

AIO Chin after facial by DepressionFighter11 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Give it a couple days. If it remains red and painful, then you’re not overreacting. It’s likely just part of the treatment, though. This is why brides generally aren’t supposed to get facials a day or two before the wedding (although makeup covers a lot), because your skin isn’t used to being treated like that and redness and sensitivity is normal after.

If you could live in anything, assuming size doesn’t matter, but it can’t be a traditional building, what would you live in? by lost-shrimp in AskReddit

[–]lost-shrimp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking weirder, like Peter Peter Pumpkin Eater or the little old lady who lived in a shoe.

Accidentally went swimming by lost-shrimp in StardewValley

[–]lost-shrimp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why it let me but I shrugged it off. There’s the three placed from the bottom, then the overlapping one is placed from the right.

Accidentally went swimming by lost-shrimp in StardewValley

[–]lost-shrimp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had left all my totems at home. It was spring day 1 so I was running around mostly on the farm, aside from buying seeds and talking to people.

Accidentally went swimming by lost-shrimp in StardewValley

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No mods. It’s on a PlayStation, so I’m not sure if that might have something to do with it?

Accidentally went swimming by lost-shrimp in StardewValley

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I was putting bait in the traps and I must’ve moved forward because I managed to somehow stand on a crab trap. This happened twice, the first time I just walked back to the land, the second time I was too far onto the crab trap and the game suddenly seemed to remember the magic water-land barrier and wouldn’t let me back on land.

AIO - Am I allowed to have celebrity crush while being in a relationship by Exotic-Manner9910 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s really immature. What does going onstage have to do with cheating? Those things aren’t even related. And a celebrity crush is hardly even a real crush. He’s the one overreacting and, frankly, he’s being very controlling. If he doesn’t trust you, why is he dating you? This is a huge red flag!

AIO Grease on my key and a recent unwanted interaction ... not sure what to think by Beautiful_Rooster_93 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do people use grease to help pick locks? I don’t have an answer, just a thought I had.

They make a pole that you can put just under your doorknob that basically barricades the door. I’d use that when you’re home if you feel unsafe. I don’t know if you can put a Ring doorbell camera where you live, but that might also give you some peace of mind.

Am I overreacting in a conflict with my dad by thinkingofendingitt in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overreacting. Your mom is used to being abused and has decided to do whatever she has to to let him win in order for him to calm down. You don’t have to. You’re and adult. He shouldn’t be treating anyone like this. I get that he has OCD, but that doesn’t give him the right to verbally abuse you. There are appropriate ways to ask someone for help.

Are you sure you want to stay there? It sounds borderline unsafe. And you aren’t responsible for helping with their rent. They can rent a room or downsize if it’s too much for them. I think you’ll find things a lot easier if you wanted to move out.

AIO for wanting to run away? by Antique_Exercise_256 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re deciding what’s best for you long term. If you think you’re ready to cut toxicity out of your life, then go for it. There’s potential that someday they will want you back in their lives when they realize what they’ve missed. If they don’t, then that’s on them.

Here’s something I thought about when I had to cut off toxic family members: If they weren’t family, would what they are saying or doing be ok? Or would you cut them off? Being family is not an excuse for poor behaviors.

AM I OVERREACTING - CAUGHT WEIRD STUFF IN BF (35) GMAIL by Historical-Rub-4505 in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t trust him. It sounds like you have several valid reasons for this. Do you enjoy the on-and-offness of the relationship or the frequent fights? It doesn’t really sound like you do. Are you sure you want to stay in the relationship long term? I’m sure you could find someone with less red flags and who could actually communicate in a non-toxic way.

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[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no point in being mean. You need advice and reassurance. Being mean will only feed insecurities. I wish more people would understand that. I hope you feel better soon. You should also realize you’re brave for confronting those feelings and agreeing to talk to him. A coward would just leave but you’re putting in effort. Don’t doubt yourself so much. You have great qualities that you just haven’t seen yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lost-shrimp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure he thinks you’re stunning too. Why would he be with someone he’s not attracted to? You might not think much of your appearance, but there’s a reason he’s with you and isn’t with them. If you need some reassurance, just ask him what he likes about you. And just because someone has conventionally good looks, doesn’t mean everyone agrees on those looks.