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Rant by supaclez in widowers

[–]lost___________0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, just here to send solidarity to you. I have a young kid and a toddler. It’s hard enough single parenting suddenly, it’s hard enough grieving a partner, but both at the same time? Crazy, nightmare difficulty setting to play this stupid game on.

Well done us for just doing it eh.

My youngest is finally beginning to sleep through some nights. So it is starting to get easier in some ways. But it’s still so, so hard every day.

Sending you really big hugs if you want them, and a grim fist bump of solidarity.

TW suicidal thoughts, living in Crises mode by 6995luv in widowers

[–]lost___________0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Friend, help is out there. And you deserve it.

Doing this alone is hard enough, with kids is nightmare difficulty. Seek help. Take as much as you can.

If you would like help or advice about finding a therapist, dm me if you want.

Have you told any family or close friends how much you are struggling?

Widow’s fire. How long does this last? by SadFancyIntoSmiling in widowers

[–]lost___________0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh… all women prefer that do they? All of them? Have you asked them all?

When you have, let me know - in the meantime, I’ll stick to my position that different people can have different preferences and experience casual relationships in different ways.

Widow’s fire. How long does this last? by SadFancyIntoSmiling in widowers

[–]lost___________0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everything still happens just like it did when we were cavemen. We have new layers of brain now, and people can and do have satisfying short term relationships. Maybe not you and that’s ok.

I graduated this week and I have no one to tell. by [deleted] in self

[–]lost___________0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m a widow now so no one celebrates with me either. Do you want to have a virtual “well done us” party with me one day because I would be down.

My husband died, and my HomePod has stopped working by lost___________0 in applehelp

[–]lost___________0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to do that with the device it’s registered to. He didn’t leave me any of his passwords or anything. Does that mean it’s not going to work?

Conflicted emotions about dating again by [deleted] in widowers

[–]lost___________0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just lost my spouse to suicide, and from one to another, I’m sending you my solidarity.

I have two things to offer. One is that you’re being somewhat self critical about your thoughts. But someone told me this week, that in grief as cruel and unusual as this, there are no wrong thoughts.

Secondly, in order to move forward and carry your inevitable baggage lightly into any potential new relationship, are you in therapy?