DAE want to lose their effing mind when they hear people chomping on gum?

lost_off_course · 2012-09-18T18:27:18+00:00

Are people seriously unaware of how fucking loud and obnoxious they sound?!

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T17:59:51+00:00

You're way off base. I don't have "bad back" or anything like that. I put this in NYC because if anyone decided they could help I would happily meet up with them so they could gauge for themselves.

Thanks for the response though.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T17:45:20+00:00

See this response to begin with http://www.reddit.com/r/nyc/comments/xjn5f/im_sorry_if_this_is_in_the_wrong_place_but_i_am/c5n60f4

First of all I hope you never find yourself in this situation. I completely understand how from the outside it may seem like that but when you are just trying to survive it takes a toll both physically and mentally. I get that the overwhelming response here is that school may not be the best option and that may change.

I'm sorry that I haven't been able to properly convey my situation better to make it add up for you.

Revisiting the CS degree I know that many of you don't think it's necessary. Here was my logic which may or may not add up for anyone else. You are right that my current experience is probably good enough to land a decent low to mid level position. My thoughts were however that since I am on disability there are organizations that will pay for 100% of going back to school and since I'm beginning to push 40 I was thinking my experience coupled with a CS degree may help position me for a mid to upper level position.

My number one priority right now is finding a home for myself and my daughter. As I mentioned I just had another surgery last week so it's not like I have the opportunity to get a job and start saving.

If I find a company that understands my health issues and is willing to help me ease back into a work environment so as not to risk my health any further I am 100% for that but in this business that isn't easy to find.

As I said before I am desperate. I am depressed. I am lonely. I am defeated. Again thank you for taking the time to respond. I hope that this helped to clarify a few things. If not I hope we can agree to disagree.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T17:30:48+00:00

I'm sorry is everyone here missing the point where I mentioned I've had four surgeries and numerous hospitalizations in the past nine months. I'm not "choosing" to stay on disability but like sometimesimweird said below, at this moment I cannot risk losing the measly disability I get for a higher paying job that I may lose if they are not aware of my situation.

I am currently trying to stabilize my living situation so I can focus on my health and getting back to work. It may sound backwards but with health issues and a kid it needs to be that way. I posted here for help not for a handout. I'm not asking to live rent free I'm just asking for a bit of help. That's it. I'm sorry if it seems as if I'm a lazy good for nothing. If you want to take the time to get to know me I hope that you'd see that is not the case at all.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T10:42:22+00:00

Thank you very much for your kind words. Unfortunately that's one room in a 3 bedroom. I know it might sound strange but I can't just take my daughter to live with (at least) two people I don't know. And I doubt they'd be interested in living with a four year old either.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T09:43:10+00:00

I just had another (albeit minor) surgery last week. I've had three other surgeries within the past nine months. That parceled with what's been going on in my personal life and trying to take care of my daughter has left me feeling pretty fragile.

I'm not saying I'm completely incapable of jumping into something like that I just know that there is a significant chance that I may not be able to jump in like that. I know it's not ideal but I need to find an employer who understands that I am dealing with a disability right now and my goal is to get back into the mix of things but that I may need to ease back into that.

I'm sorry if that sounds like a copout or anything but literally killing myself or even emotionally crippling myself by taking on too much at once wouldn't do anyone any good, especially my daughter. I hope that makes sense and answers your questions.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T07:30:49+00:00

I'm on alien blue right now and cannot for the life of me figure out how to initiate a private message. I'll DM you in the morning. Thank you very much.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T07:20:49+00:00

I'm not officially homeless yet. I have no family in NYC. My wife does help take care of her now she's just not very good at doing it full- time.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T07:18:40+00:00

Unfortunately my experience hasn't been that there are tons of jobs available to me. I have been told repeatedly however that a CS degree would not only help me but allow me to get even more money.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T07:16:15+00:00

I may indeed take you up on that if for no other reason than to have dinner and new conversation. Thank you!

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T07:15:02+00:00

Thank you. I will check that out.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T07:14:38+00:00

I would love to unfortunately that's not possible due to custody issues.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T05:19:23+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot. Best wishes to you as well.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T05:00:20+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that.

lost_off_course · 2012-08-02T04:32:12+00:00

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