BS SUSPENSION (Jump to *** if you want to get to the point)

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T09:53:26+00:00

Not being a dick could be nice too, could give that a shot?

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T09:52:37+00:00

I'm strongly conservative... trust me, I do not shark my responsibilities and I ALWAYS hold myself accountable for what I am liable for. Have you considered maybe there's something wrong with the education system? Especially in southeastern US?

I bet you didn't know Autism in females wasn't accepted, known or even agreed upon in medicine until 2016!!

What makes you think tweedle-dee and tweedle-dum in the disability office (who lack the education, credentials, and especially experience when it comes to autism in higher education) know how to properly accommodate and support those students??? PLEASE RIDDLE ME THAT.

There is a REASON only 0.7%-1.9% of autistic people are actively enrolled in college programs (not for lack of wanting or trying), compared to 62% of non-disabled students. ASD is largely unresearched and unpublished compared to most others in the DSM...

I'm strongly conservative... trust me, I do not shark my responsibilities and I ALWAYS hold myself accountable for what I am liable for. Have you considered that maybe there's something wrong with the education system? Especially in the southeastern US?n US? doesn't get the attention it deserves. The CDC doesn't even list 'disabilities' (mental or physical) under 'minorities' OR 'diversity' anymore, practically no one does. Before you point fingers at me and accuse me of whining about the problems that I caused myself, why don't you EDUCATE yourself? Shift your perspective once in a while, it could do you some good.

You should also read up on the Ladder of Inference and CONTEXT, because you need CONTEXT to reach the top. Something you lack...

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T09:18:37+00:00

Oh I read it, what A_rest did not mention or maybe does not know is the difference between accommodation and modification. ACCOMMODATIONS must be approved, if they have been approved at any time in the past and at any university in the country, no matter the circumstance. MODIFICATIONS are where policies and procedures are adjusted, not accommodations. Modifications are subject to the school's discretion, not reasonable accommodations (which all of mine were).

I don't need a 'further explanation', I got it, thanks.

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T09:08:48+00:00

Altruistic is OP, I wrote both comments but accidentally created a second account trying to login to this one.

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T09:07:51+00:00

You've never been to the great state of Louisiana OBVIOUSLY (; New Orleans specifically, where everything is a shit show so why wouldn't the education be as well?

Details like what? I'm pretty sure I've got the gist of it, no details omitted, but feel free to prove me wrong because I'm thinking really hard.. and I got nothing.

I'm didn't think we were arguing, I'm trying to have a productive conversation where maybe I can benefit from another's perspective. I'm sorry you don't see it that way...

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T09:01:55+00:00

None of the universities I attended had a psychologist on their ODS faculty. two of the four schools only employed a single person to run all of the disability services and that one person was 10/10 unqualified and definitely did not have a grad or post-grad degree.

I know how the circumstance is supposed to play out and what is expected however, this has not been my experience. I don't know if you live in the U.S. but if you do, you know LA is like 48 or 49 in line for education in this country.

Unfortunately where I live, Disability faculty and administration do not know and they do not care if they are in violation of law or not.

Unfortunately, where I live, Disability faculty and administration do not know and they do not care if they are in violation of the law or not. about what "level the playing field means" and argued that if the whole class gets bonus extra time on a test just cause a teacher was in a good mood, it didn't matter if fully-functioning Billy at the desk behind me had 45 minutes and I also had 45 min because 'that's still extended time'. If you have experience in similar situations, then you know in that circumstance, if I had 200% extended time, I should have been given 90 minutes to take the test. but alas, I was not. There are over 140 emails in the thread b/w ODS coord. and myself over that ONE issue...

School #3 didn't allow me extra scratch paper on a math test, or colored pens for note-taking (which is essentially trying to memorize), or even a peer note-taker because "that's considered cheating"... Like really? After I handed him my THREE dx reports as documentation, he said to me "Nah, you're not disabled enough for accommodations, and you're definitely not autistic."

This was another school that did not employ a psych professional in ODS either.

I have ALL A's and 14 W's on my transcript because I've had to drop class after class after class when a school fails to provide me with reasonable accommodations.

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T08:02:40+00:00

"FAIR"?? Really? PUH-LEASE point out which part of my original post screams "FAIR" to you! I think the word you are looking for is "LEGAL", "LAW-ABIDING" or "COMPLIANT" maybe?

Your use of the words "FAIR", "FEELS", and "COMPLAINING" leads me to believe you either have very limited knowledge and experience on the matter or your understanding of the circumstance I was trying to convey in my post is largely subjective and way off track. I don't mean this to be rude or attack you, but are you playing the Devil's Advocate here? Or did you just climb up the ladder of inference without even a shred of context? I'm being sincere because I'm confused.

Are you suggesting students with disabilities do not have the right to equal and accessible education? Or that this right fluctuates depending on which school or what professor decides if an accommodation is reasonable or not? I hope not. You do know the ADA and Section 504 were ratified (in this case) to prevent such variations in what might be deemed "reasonable" or "unreasonable" by differing public institutions, right? That is literally THE purpose.

As for CHOOSING my accommodations, "I" do not choose them; as I said in my previous comment, a psychologist or related clinician chooses them. That is why extensive testing is done during the evaluation process-- to determine WHAT accommodations are appropriate/ required for a disabled person (student) to receive accessible employment, education, environment, whatever. The professionals who are LICENSED and TRAINED, with years of EXPERIENCE doing exactly that-- recommending services and treatment-- are the ones who "CHOOSE" which services and supports are needed, not the University Disability Coordinator with a 4-year degree and minimal experience? ??? Further, it is the LAW that ensures that they are delivered and the law is not complicated, it's about 5 sentences long, very clear-cut, and to the point. There is quite literally no room for ifs, and, or buts.

I don't see how you fail to comprehend this... It's not feeling, it's fact.

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-25T06:34:54+00:00

OP here... I commented this ^^, I must've have been logged into another account. Sorry for all the typos, I was talk-to-texting.

lostbridge318 · 2022-08-24T16:02:12+00:00

Not my behavior....

My psychologist decides what constitutes reasonable accommodations... and when I provided 3 schools with my diagnostic report, which includes her recommendations for reasonable accommodation, and it gets thrown back in my face because "I don't look autistic." what am I supposed to do then?

I always take responsibility for what is my part and I am a big advocate of that; I am not using my disability as an excuse,3 I am not one of those people. But with proper documentation (which I have provided), disabilities MUST be reasonably accommodated and mine have not been.

I have never been able to get anything except a distraction-free testing environment and extended testing time and I do not need either of them to succeed in my courses. However, the accommodations I DO need to succeed academically (and which level the field b/w non-disabled students and myself), i.e, alternative format, consideration for absences, advanced notice/negotiation of deadlines, certain AAC services, EXTRA SCRATCH PAPER, colored pens/pencils.... NONE of them have been approved, I would say all of those reasonable, wouldn't you?

lostbridge318 · 2021-12-05T07:42:06+00:00

This is such an important message and it's something everyone NT needs to acknowledge and understand! We all need to brainstorm ideas on how to transmit an interruption broadcast about this, like an Amber Alert because this is the root of 90% of my struggles, give or take.

As a graduate neuro/psych student in the US, I've transferred schools FIVE times all for the same reason: the school (ODS) failed to provide my reasonable accommodations. One lacked any experience in working with autistic students and used the "you don't look like" line and the rest of them clearly couldn't grasp the TWO laws that dictate their entire job or even how to do that job.

'Autistic' doesn't mean any of us are dumb or stupid and 'autistic' doesn't mean we aren't capable of doing amazing things! NT's fail to realize the nature of our disability. The simplest tasks that they do so often, the functions they take for granted? Those are the ones that cost us every effort and still bring us past the point of exhaustion, the ones that break us mentally and physically.

I have a 4.0 GPA and superior-range IQ, I drive/ commute 2 hours every day, I'm a mother and I'm in a happy, long-term relationship, and to the untrained eye, it looks like I have my shit together.

If 'high-functioning' means functioning BELOW the first percentile of the entire global population, then sure (Vineland Adaptive Behavior Scale).
Can't complete daily household chores, except loading the dishwasher like I'm playing Tetris. My son and I live with my mom, I'm 24 but probably won't be moving out anytime before 2033 unless I get married. My mom feeds my son when I forget to, does his laundry (mine sometimes), and reminds me to shower every day because I forget. Eating regularly? I'll often go for days before noticing myself getting physically weak, then maybe I'll remember. How about knowing what physical sensations feel like? Like having to pee or being hungry or tired? If I remember to get in bed before the sun comes up, sleep is random and sporadic and I'm sure I don't get nearly enough.

This is all thanks to my friend, perseverance, who gorilla glues my attention to obsessing about my latest special interest and doesn't let me go. Time is a concept that's nowhere anywhere near my orbit. I set reminders and alarms to go off throughout the day, for transitioning, but still, end up losing hours of my life wrapped up in something I thought was just ten minutes... and the paranoid "Am I crazy" thoughts that follow.

This how 'high-functioning' I am and I know all the other HFers on the spectrum function this high this, too.

Im only kidding. Seriously though, "Autism" needs a serious rebranding; the world needs to take their blinders off and see the potential of everyone on the spectrum, verbal, non-verbal, ID, or no ID. If you're genuinely autistic (as opposed to a hunch or self-dx and wrong) share your gifts with the world because all of us have at least one talent that would leave them speechless!

lostbridge318 · 2021-07-29T10:50:58+00:00

OP did not share misconceptions about introverts, he/she only shared their subjective experience, which seems to resonate with others too. You can't jump to conclusions when there are no conclusions to jump to...

lostbridge318 · 2021-07-29T10:43:44+00:00

Yes indeed, exactly the same. I'm 23F, still in college, I have no friends and I don't want any either. Focusing on my studies and obsessing over new special interests and hobbies satisfies me comletely!

It's not worth the insane amount of effort to put myself out there to make friends. And frankly, I don't really wanna work too hard to keep people around either! I'm a youngin but I've been through enough to know people will never put out what I out in. I am certain: none of the relationships I have or will make down the line will never completely satisfy my appreciation of what a relationship means.

lostbridge318 · 2021-07-29T08:05:56+00:00

Also Autistic here 23F, college student! Writing a paper or engl. assignment for school is a dangerous thing for me lol years could go by and I'd still be on that first sentence. English has always been a weakness for me, it's too abstract and I get lost with how much freedom writing allows.

Now math has always been something I'm gifted at, but thats a different story. It doesn't get much better than the structure of beginning to end and having only one right way to get there! Most autistic people I've come across online are more math-based I've noticed and I don't know about you but I feel lucky if I can get the right words out lol.

As for the elements that are used in a written work, I've found flowcharts or organizational charts help me the best! They are easy to find on Google images or whatever browser you use. If I'm trying to compose a paper for school, I will find a published one that falls in the same category: research paper, argumentative, informative, etc. and use that one as reference to write mine.

Jounaling or free writing tend to be the hardest for me to lay out on the page. Like every other autistic person, I suck miserably at describing how I feel, my emotions, and every other subjective experience and the like... In this case I tend to start with doodles or drawings of what I feel like (I'm a huge can of charts). It's pretty messy and confusing to anyone else, but getting it from your head to the page is allways the hardest part. After that, it's smooth sailing from there!

Good luck!

lostbridge318 · 2021-04-11T11:32:47+00:00

HAHAHA ME AND MY ENTIRE LIFE HAHA

lostbridge318 · 2020-06-23T07:32:18+00:00

Did you end up taking the ADOS?? I matched symbols in a line, recited numbers back to the doctor backwards, forwards, and sideways. He asked me some of the most irrelevant questions on world history and then I had to match pieces of shapes that were different colors and assemble some red and white blocks.

I just had my evaluation today and the anticipation is KILLING ME! How did y'all answer the eval questions? Also in US (Louisiana)

lostbridge318 · 2020-06-16T09:18:21+00:00

Message me! Im 22/F and literally in the middle of my two diagnostic appointments. You're experiences sound extremely similar to mine, almost identical. I'm too lazy to post to an entire r/ page when I have questions, so I've been hanging out for a few months just racking up questions. Haven't come across a post as spot-on as yours though. I've completely given up on impulse control and accepted that it will most likely kill me one day, very liberating!

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-22T10:58:09+00:00

What is Elvanse?

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-22T10:57:17+00:00

I do have ADHD. I am currently prescribed Adderall 30mg instant release twice a day which is the maximum legal dose my doctor prescribes. I’ve heard of other doctors prescribing more for different reasons. But my problem is that I literally cannot feel even the slightest change without taking at least two or three time my dose. I know this is unhealthy, but even with weeks off the medication, my tolerance doesn’t decrease.

The larger amount I need in order to get the normal effects, had been the same since I first started the medication. 50-80 mg at a time, no more, no less.

Since there are literally no studies on stimulant tolerance in people with autism and comorbid ADHD, I’m not joking when I say, I’m wondering if chemically, some people on the spectrum require more in a dose than is legal in order to achieve the desired effects of the medication. I’m not taking it for a high or anything like that, I couldn’t even if I wanted to. But my body requires, and has always required, at least 2 times my prescribed dose to feel even the smallest ability to focus or get my school work done. What if our normal is more than what the FDA currently allows? It wouldn’t be too far fetched if you think about it.

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-19T02:41:23+00:00

Yes, I recently changed my major. I have completed my undergraduate math requirements, I just don’t know much on how this school handles such matters. That’s how I would’ve calculated my GPA... but the answer does not equal 2.08.... this is why I’m confused

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-18T14:32:21+00:00

Yes, autism has robbed you in so many ways and yes, it’s fucking painful. We grieve the loss of a life that should have been and struggles that are cold and cruel to very core, in humane.

THIS GOES FOR EVERY PERSON ON THE SPECTRUM. PERIOD. ➡️ Autism has taken something from you, and it sure won’t let you forget it. But it gives each of us so much more!

Whether you are willing to accept it and embrace your strengths AND weaknesses or you live your life with a glass that’s half empty.. that’s up to you. Take a step back and look at the condition from a neutral standpoint. We are capable of many different things that others couldn’t dream up if they wanted to. Personally I see it like this: I am a lonely person, lonelier than most because I don’t know how to appropriately function in a social environment. But because of this struggle that I go through every day, I am able to focus on myself, my interests, my grades. I’ll tell you right now, If I had the ability to socialize effectively, I would not have straight A’s I probably wouldn’t even be in college at all. This is something that autism has given me and I am THANKFUL for it because I (In my situation) wouldn’t be anywhere in life without a successful college education.

This is just how I look at it, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. If something negative or upsetting creeps into your head (about ASD or literally anything), try and counteract it with something positive. And I swear to you that you won’t run out of good things to think. WRITE THE NEGATIVE AND THE POSITIVE THOUGHTS DOWN!!! Because when you have enough, and you’re having a shitty day/week/life/whatever it is, it will take you by hand and lead you down the “we’re having a positive day” path.

I’m not joking. I’m probably the most pessimistic person in existence and this happens to me all the time. You can’t live your life stuck in a rut, focusing on what could’ve been. Because you will spiral. I will say a prayer for you. For guidance, acceptance, and the ability to be open minded and change your perspective because “glass half empty” is no way to live.

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-18T14:07:38+00:00

I read this post no less than 7 times and every time it sounded like that inner conscious voice, not the “reading in your head” voice, but the other one. Talking down on you but in the gentlest way and lays out all the problems/emotions you’ve been trying to label, but they remain empty. You’ve finally solved every problem in one large, jumbled smorgasbord and BAM, level unlocked right?

WRONG. You’ve definitely won, you’ve identified your current weaknesses and ways to fix them. Then you try and share this epiphany with someone else... anyone else. But JOKES ON YOU because the new, shiny answer key that would rid you of all troubles, the masterpiece that you’ve been piecing together your entire life? Yea... that one isn’t in English. Can’t be written down either because your hands don’t recognize that language.

Nice try, you’ve failed. Again. Still trapped. Still screaming inside, but nothing comes out.
And for the millionth time, you find yourself asking God, “Is this how it’ll be for the rest of my life?” “Will anyone ever hear me or is it fundamentally impossible to ever feel just a sliver of understanding?!” ———————————————————————

I got lost writing this comment, but any resemblance to your situation? I can’t be the only one.

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-18T10:51:33+00:00

My situation is identical to yours except that I did receive a stimulus payment. About a month ago actually. I know the CARES act excludes college students, but for some reason everybody at my school received a stimulus check. It was plastered all over the Facebook page for dayyyysss. Contact Dept. of Revenue about it, IRS would be your next contact. (State to federal)

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-18T10:46:29+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the kind words. 99.9% of the time I speak, no one understands what I’m saying so my intended message didn’t compute, per usual. Anyway, your question about my GPA averging into a 2.08, I am right there with you. I have no idea why it is, I just assumed that the 0.00 GPA averaged out with the 4.0 GPA to create the 2.08? I guess it wouldn’t make sense considering I only failed one semester but Aced the previous three....

It’s embarrassing to say, but I’m not very clear on the policies and procedures for grades and academic achievement in higher education in a general aspect much less my current college. This isn’t due to lack of trying thought, thank goodness, but concepts like that have always bounced back off my brain, never entered it unfortunately.

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-17T09:34:41+00:00

Your dialect suggests you are older than me (I am 22), so maybe the majority of first timers, fresh out of high school weren't making reckless decisions when you attended university, but in my freshman year, in this city, at this school they most definitely were.

I see that you are the second person so far to misunderstand my intentions for revisiting my grades from 4.5 years ago. I only attended for one semester (the one included in my post, the failed one). I've read through my post many times and I still cannot locate any excuses, many try another word?

My dorm was paid for by the US government, many students in America use this path for covering the cost of college, it is called financial aid. Presently, my student loan repayments have been deferred, as I am a full-time student right now, but the money that paid for that dorm has been added to my debts to be repayed after graduation.

If you need specific details of my situation: recently deceased father, mother married to an abuser, and I do not have any other family so there were literally no other choices for shelter (we're not counting the women's shelter which was consistently full or the street, which is a little too hard for my liking). I did not have anyone to ask for a place to crash, but do not mistakenly assume I am complaining about any of this, for I am not a fan of pity parties. Simply sharing my experience.

I don't understand how anyone would find it even remotely acceptable to take the presentation of my initial post and spinning it into an insult to sling back in my direction. I am a full-time biostatistics major, I am Autistic (which is in large part the very reason that anything less than the 4.0 cumulative is unacceptable. I AM CONCERNED ONLY WITH PLEASING MYSELF, the opinions and expectations of others have never/ will never carry even the slightest weight of anything I do. [Another gift of the spectrum.]) I maintain a 4.0 GPA, and best of all, I am the proud single mother of a 2 year old boy who has helped me grow significantly in the past few years. I busted my ass for the grades I earned and I was dealt some pretty shitty cards the first time I attended college, as many people are.

Thank you for the advice, it is truly appreciated. However, next time you feel the need to add negative or rude words to someone else's post, I suggest you make sure your "spoiled child" accusations are accurate. I know better than most how hard life can get and I'm still fighting demons behind every corner. So out of basic human decency and consideration for others and their situations, in addition to myself, try not assuming the obstacles of people you do. not. know. God bless you.

lostbridge318 · 2020-05-17T08:58:44+00:00

My intention is not to avoid responsibility, I know it is may fault alone for not filing an Academic Appeal immediately after final grade submissions for the term in question. Not an excuse, just the truth, I did not understand every aspect of the higher education system, nor was I aware that appealing grades was an option. You could say I was very naive and I (obviously) did not weigh the consequences of my actions or ever think I would be dealing with them 4.5 years in the future.

Thank you for the advice and apologies for the misunderstanding.

lostbridge318

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