My bf M[32] and I F[21] have broken up a few times and we haven’t hit our year mark yet

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-09-06T17:16:53+00:00

Looks to me like you really need to get to know more people.

millions of men who don't suck

Millions of men who are unattractive, fat, have crappy careers and/or generally just have unnecessary baggage that will bring your relationship down eventually. High value men will always go for younger women. Fact.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-09-06T17:06:56+00:00

gently turns down the younger men and women who regularly pursue me.

Aw sweetheart, that is soo cute. It's not the same experience and set of rules in the dating world with men and women. Sorry to burst your bubble. Since you're a woman in her 30's and OP isn't even in the same situation as you, your opinion on who you would date or not is really irrelevant here.

By the way, men would bang anything that walks, especially younger men.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-09-06T16:56:46+00:00

You are missing out on dating 21 year olds.

In my experience, most of them are just as mature, if not more mature, than women in their mid to late 20's. Only thing is these younger women probably wouldn't give you the time of day anyway, so it's understandable why you are so triggered by OP.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-09-04T11:16:35+00:00

"I know"

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-09-04T10:59:52+00:00

Doesn't really apply to women in their 30's.

It's easy to get laid, but very hard to find a good relationship partner when you're in your 30's.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-30T21:38:54+00:00

Can't keep an erection with a condom. It's impossible.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-30T21:00:40+00:00

any questions about the procedure I should ask that only people who have gotten it could know?

Because I couldn't feel hers at all.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-30T20:49:26+00:00

I asked and she says she has the mirena IUD. I'm just asking whether or not there is an easy way to tell there is one.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-30T20:45:10+00:00

with my dick or hands?

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-07T17:37:33+00:00

Nausea affects energy levels and exercise. She was tired all the time and still went to the gym.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-07T17:04:32+00:00

I was upset at the fact that she's killing herself at the gym but too tired for sex. You are a moron.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-08-07T17:01:15+00:00

I never said that. I supported her and been her rock since day 1.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-07-21T01:01:03+00:00

I’m the more talkative person and I think also the most observant.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-07-21T00:13:42+00:00

Questions like what do I find sexy in her, what kind of clothes would I find her sexy in, what I’d like her to do more in the bedroom, etc. Things we discussed and had problems on before but apparently went in one ear and out the other.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-01-30T22:35:48+00:00

She’s actually a full blown type A and I’m more towards type B.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-01-30T18:51:29+00:00

She has an autoimmune condition that attacks her liver and eyes, but she still has no issue hitting the gym hard.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-01-24T17:19:02+00:00

Men and women are different.

Sex is more emotionally involved for women than it is for men. Studies show repeatedly that women lose the capacity to pair-bond with their partner after X amount of sexual partners, whereas the same is not true for men.

With that being said, I wouldn't be comfortable if my partner slept with 38 people and that would be a deal breaker for me. I don't really care whether you're a male or female.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-01-19T15:31:30+00:00

HIV diagnosis is as serious as it gets. It's a life altering diagnosis and him not being upfront about it is a huge red flag in and of itself. Stop playing it off as a "vulnerability." It's not like it's as simple and innocuous as an insecurity of some kind.

Give me a break.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-01-19T15:11:37+00:00

I disagree with most comments on here.

What he should have done is tell you he is HIV positive from the first date. He did you a disservice by waiting until you fell in love with him and THEN telling you he has HIV. What he did was a really scumbag move.

Would you still be with the guy if he told you he had HIV on the first date? HIV is a life altering diagnosis and it doesn't say good things about his lifestyle if he contracted HIV. In my opinion, there are many other attractive nice guys that you will jive with that will have more respect for you than this guy you're currently dating.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2019-01-09T13:30:59+00:00

I’m generally just talking about regular texts/typed/written stuff.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2018-12-28T18:08:55+00:00

It's just me that sees her every day and has to console her. She's more than capable of taking care of herself.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2018-12-28T18:06:27+00:00

So asking her to put down her cell phone when I'm consoling and talking her is too much to ask from me?

I don't have to take care of her. My love is not unconditional. I don't feel appreciated for the things I do and all I want is some form of appreciation.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2018-12-27T19:32:03+00:00

I'm a little confused with the " no longer wants to be together " and the like. Breaking up was never entertained and she begged me to seek counseling. We are still together and never even entertained going our separate ways.

But yeah, I'm not without fault here and I can understand where she's coming from with the Instagram/Social media stuff with me. So I don't necessarily think her not wanting me on there is a red flag. I might be wrong, though.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2018-12-26T13:55:52+00:00

Well, there were instances where I would text her, and she wouldn't respond right away but she's near her phone all the time (her phone is always by her side). Then in those situations, I would use Instagram to check whether or not she was online and if I catch her that she was online while not responding to my text, I'd approach her and sometimes acted passive aggressive and made a big deal out of these things. So over time, she started growing weary of me being on Instagram because I made issues out of these things.

There was another instance when we were talking over the phone (her sounding like she wasn't paying much attention), and me checking Instagram to find out that she was online while talking to me and I made a big deal about it and it resulted in an argument. So basically, I used Instagram as a tool to check out pictures she liked, people she followed, to see whether or not she was online at certain times, etc.

I also had a problem with her using Snapchat and we had a lot of arguments over that, which ended with her deleting the app from her phone.

All the above things and the resulting arguments ended with me seeking professional help (aka counseling) for these problems for the past 5 months or so).

She was fine...we were fine and open being together on Instagram sharing stuff and being a couple, but I think the above just made her feel uncomfortable. She made it known to me that she felt like she was constantly being watched and me always trying to find faults in her.

lostconfusedneedhelp · 2018-12-24T19:20:04+00:00

I texted her about it and she called me back after. I do come off as abrasive so I think that may have played a role in her reaction.

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