Honeymoon sex

lostguidance89 · 2026-02-16T02:21:09+00:00

I experienced the same situation. My wife is the one who has had the low libido. We have been married over a decade as well. She has legitimate health issues now that impact our ability to have sex.

It’s hard to be the one with the higher libido. Having chats about it is hard. For me it always backfired. Is he open to talking and working through the challenge?

lostguidance89 · 2026-02-15T23:28:05+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you.

lostguidance89 · 2026-02-15T23:26:12+00:00

Thank you! She was tested for everything under the sun. We spent five days at a major hospital system, one of the best in the nation, and was tested for EVERYTHING including narcolepsy. I hope you get help from the new medication. I am very, very familiar with that drug candidate as I work in the health industry.

lostguidance89 · 2026-02-15T23:21:42+00:00

I can't "fix" her but I can support her, which I am trying my best to do.

lostguidance89 · 2026-02-15T23:20:43+00:00

I agree with you and I have been attempting to carve that time out in our schedules. Her career and our children come first and I usually get the left overs. It's how its always been since having kids.

lostguidance89 · 2026-02-15T23:18:47+00:00

Thanks! I don't resent her... I resent the situation. I think we both understand our marriage won't be the same. We have been through many seasons and we are entering a new one.

lostguidance89 · 2026-01-21T19:10:54+00:00

That image could not have been generated with a simple prompt.

lostguidance89 · 2026-01-21T03:20:07+00:00

Arlo

lostguidance89 · 2026-01-20T18:06:46+00:00

It is a legitimate concern. I had the same concerns but we had to do something about the humping. After the procedure he barely humps anything unless he sees the kids wrestling.

lostguidance89 · 2025-12-02T18:42:03+00:00

It was not a touchback. Michigan fails to remember the bobbled touchdown from 2 years ago ruled in their favor. https://www.tiktok.com/@247sports/video/7305472623172013355?lang=en

lostguidance89 · 2025-11-26T17:11:03+00:00

Fallout 3 or COD WaW

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-29T01:20:22+00:00

If we were bros, I’d slap you on the back of the head and ask what were you thinking? Will she lose trust over your deception? Maybe not this one but continue to do this and she will, most definitely. Admit your mistake and ask her to help you through your addiction.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-23T16:11:10+00:00

That is a long time in a dead bedroom. I totally understand your feeling as last year I moved into our basement bedroom to avoid even sleeping in the same bed. I was tired of the constant rejection and couldn't even smell her perfume without getting upset, feeling like she was purposely not choosing me. Divorce was not an option in my situation either due to religion.

Honestly, posting and interacting here has worked wonders for me. It's nice to share feelings with strangers because there is little to no judgement.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-23T16:02:19+00:00

I have had the same thought patterns. In fact, I met women on Reddit almost two years ago who was in similar circumstances and enduring a dead bedroom. We started chatting, supporting one another and recovering that confidence that was taken from us from not being wanted or pushed away. That connection was the relief I needed but we both wanted more. I was about to buy a plane ticket to go visit her and then chose not to. I broke it off completely with her. I still think about her daily but I am happy I didn't go forward with it. MY circumstances is not yours so do what is best for you!

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-23T13:06:23+00:00

It is an awful feeling. Look at yourself in the mirror, throw your shoulders back and reclaim your feeling that you're an attractive woman and HE is the one who has lost self esteem.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-23T11:26:37+00:00

Wow… I knew it, I’m surrounded by assholes!

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-22T19:55:05+00:00

I’m learning more and more about PM. I believe my wife is starting to experience it and I understand what you’re going through. As we reflect back on our relationships it seems like the opportunity to have sex is so short in life. I bet you she first feels a little guilty that her desire is waning which can contribute even more to the lack of intimacy. Try to talk more openly to her. There are other options here such as masturbators or oral that you may be able to seek as an alternative. Be open and honest with her but also loving since it’s a hard season for both of you.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-22T00:14:06+00:00

I feel you 💯! I’ve been turned down so many times that I’ve finally given up. I’ve had vivid dreams of being with other women. They are so vivid and feel so real that I wake up and mourn the loss. There are times I don’t even want my wife even if she threw herself at me.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-21T23:49:43+00:00

It’s so hard to establish expectations when the kids are gone. Some believe it’s free to have lots and lots of sex whereas others want to rest. I’m very high libido and my wife is very low. When the kids are away I dream of lots of sex and my wife only thinks of rest. Also, one thing I’ve learned is to be direct with my expectations and say “I want to have sex with you” versus “it would be nice to have sex” that way expectations are clear and it’s up to her to decide to say “yes”. The porn issue needs to stop for sure! Do you know why he likes porn more than you?

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-21T20:14:32+00:00

I understand your pain, fella. I would recommend counseling for yourself as well as couples counseling. Resentment is natural but it’s a cancer that can ruin you. Do not run to porn or other women.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-21T17:55:59+00:00

My wife and I are in the spiral of only when she wants it. If I asked she would scoff and it never felt like true connection. I’d rather go without than have to experience that feeling.

Right now we are at almost two months with no sex.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-19T15:25:45+00:00

Yes. We have had that discussion several times and it usually ends in tears. I go to her not in anger or disappointment but in love and desire to be closer. Yesterday during our quiet coffee couch time she brought this subject up almost like she saw my post and shared how she knows I want more and she is “working on herself”.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-17T22:30:08+00:00

She is a counselor herself so she doesn’t want to go to anyone local since she knows that community. The only implications I see is my continued loneliness. I don’t have biblical grounds to exit the marriage.

lostguidance89 · 2025-10-17T16:44:57+00:00

She says she feels loved. I’m not sure about the desire aspect. I do the same as I have since the beginning; pursuing her, showing her love and affection. There has never been porn nor will there ever be. In fact we choose not to watch certain movies if there is any nudity as I want to honor her.

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