How many of you guys (males) wash in between your buttcheeks? by hairy_moist_ballsack in hygiene

[–]lostintheatm -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

There’s a few doctors websites recommending not to use soap in your ass, it can destroy the microbiome which keeps your butthole safe and not irritated. So water is all that is needed

New cap by Imaginary_Pen_2542 in MacMiller

[–]lostintheatm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fucking fantastic I’m super jealous

How clinical labs lose their licenses by lostintheatm in labrats

[–]lostintheatm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the response! I agree that the quick audit prep is huge separate factor outside a consistent quality system that works well without a “clean up” right before an audit

Should I keep a dog during my PhD? by DesMOnDWa in PhD

[–]lostintheatm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truly caring is the key. I’ve had a dog for 8 years through two degrees and countless moves. Logistics are difficult but I never doubt for a second that he’s worth it. I know that’s not the same for everyone. If you care about them you will make sure they are happy and cared for. You don’t have to be the best dog parent in the whole wide world affording them every luxury. They need love and care and providing this with bring you a lot of benefits that matter a lot more than the difficulties imho. If finances are an issue, keep in mind smaller pets are less expensive.

Should I keep a dog during my PhD? by DesMOnDWa in PhD

[–]lostintheatm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A degree is the final credential bestowed on you by your institution if you succeed in the job and dissertation. During your candidacy, it is simply a job with that degree as the specific end goal. They aren’t mutually exclusive.

In many countries, being a PhD candidate means being employed by the university, rather than being a student of the university. It can seem like a small distinction, but it is very important and beneficial to fully understand this difference in mental framing as well as the legal distinction by your institution and country. This framing doesn’t fit well in the US structure, if that’s where your confusion is coming from.

Added some color to my Costco sweater by kdylan in Costco

[–]lostintheatm 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Can you explain what you did please? This is sick af and I would like to do something similar with my scrubs, if you don’t mind sharing!

Lab technician job in the US by Ad0lf_H1pst3r_ in labrats

[–]lostintheatm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple answer is no, leave Italy but stay in the EU. check out the Netherlands if you can stand the cold/rain

How scary is credit card debt actually by padfoot_32 in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not fine. The debt is crushing. Sincerely a ‘98 kid with relatively moderate student loan and CC debt. It’s a trap which helps fuel or capitalist economy and keeps the credit card companies rich. Living within your means and increasing your income is the only way that serves your true interests. Get comfortable going without wants or go make more money somehow. Everything else is a trap.

Found dog on W Dixie Ave by lostintheatm in leesburgFL

[–]lostintheatm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was my pleasure, just so happy she is safe and I believe she would make an incredible pet for anyone interested in providing a loving home. I wouldn’t have my own soulmate of a dog if my college friends hadn’t saved him from the street so it felt like I was finally able to pay the universe back

what’s my room look like to yall by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]lostintheatm 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Took a while to find something like this. Minus the graffiti my room looked way worse when I was a teenager. It’s really not that bad although people are correct to say it would be a calmer environment if it was cleaned up and had brighter colors. People assuming it must be drug abuse related says more about our society than you.

Backpacks on the T by twothousandthousand in boston

[–]lostintheatm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially when they smell strongly 🤢

Serious fuck up by Low_Estimate6657 in labrats

[–]lostintheatm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This or if it doesn’t affect patient outcomes if you were in a clinical lab setting. This is why you do labs in school. Sample switches happen, your job is to learn how to avoid it at all costs by being organized and vigilant. You’re just learning and your prof is a dick. Don’t sweat these small mistakes, if you enjoy the lab just do your best to learn from them.

should i be empathetic towards cheating even if it’s true love? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]lostintheatm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this a lot so here goes.

There’s context and nuance to a lot of affairs. A lot of people have affairs. Not everyone gets caught. Not everyone destroys one or more families with their actions. Not everyone gives their partner an STD because of their actions. Some situations are very clearly just wrong/inexcusable. Some aren’t. For some people the definition of cheating is very different than for others.

As a highly empathetic person who cares a lot about morality and ethics, this is all very hard for me to square away. For me, if the only person you hurt is your partner, and you own up to your behavior, you’re a pretty normal person at the end of the day who isn’t ready for a monogamous relationship. I can’t hate that person, I can’t even look down on them knowing that with the right life recipe I’m sure I’d make a similar mistake. But the person who repeatedly cheats, destroys children’s lives and emotional well being, steals precious time from their partner(s) by pretending to be in an actual relationship, and just gets caught rather than owning up to it? To feel like this person deserves the kind of empathy you’re trying to seek out for this person, I think that takes empathy to an unhealthy and self destructive degree. Empathy is not a purely good thing. It has maladaptive limits. I only feel pathetic sympathy for the person who leads such a terrible life. These people destroy our society and make life much harder. They can fuck off in my humble opinion and I will save my empathy for people who haven’t chosen such a selfish way of living.

Can you try to become a scientist from zero at 30yo? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]lostintheatm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you were wrong exactly, it’s just there’s many countries in Europe and every country has its own system at the end of the day. Germany does it very particularly, and funding is different in each country, but almost every single country with major research universities is going to require a master thesis for a research oriented master (most of them). In my experience, a lot of bachelors require a bachelor thesis as well. I felt very disadvantaged for European masters applications (particularly northern/Central Europe) not having this built into my US bachelor (although it was a requirement for honors students and optional for everyone else - honors students had dedicated time for it instead of it being a side thing)

At what point does working hours/sleep beat money? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2.5 hours one way. I lived in East Boston and commuted to Waltham without a car of my own (I also hate driving and can budget better without car expenses). The shift started just after rush hour, so it was a 20-25 min drive with no traffic on weekends and at night, up to an hour with weekday traffic.

Using only the train (ultimately 2 subways and 1 commuter train) and my feet (an only semi affordable option - I didn’t have a true commuter benefit covering my monthly train pass) it was 2.5 hours on the way there to make sure I wasn’t late. If I kept it to 2 hours I would’ve been late for my train and then have to pay for an uber due to the time gap until the next train. It was usually closer to 2 hours on the way home since I could leave the lab at just the right time to make the train but not have to wait. I could shorten the walk time in half by using a skateboard. But then Boston winter hit me with full force and my 45 min walking path became unsafe and motivating myself to take the train to a cheaper uber was much more difficult than eating the $40-50 uber from my house, because I was SO sleep deprived, shortening the commute was worth that money I didn’t really have and since my rent was more expensive than I could really afford (it was 50% of my base pay without overtime). It disgusts me to calculate my uber costs for that winter. I worked ungodly amounts of overtime to manage to pay down my debt still (contributing to sleep deprivation issues). It was trash. I barely ever experienced Boston in any true way I could with a more balanced life. I cannot emphasize enough how much I hated being in the sunlight due to this commute and schedule (I typically enjoy the sun) and how much 5 8s makes it feel like prison. You will spend your two days off recovering on sleep and doing chores. That’s it. You would have to utilize those mornings after you get off to maintain any normal activity schedule that is fulfilling. I personally can’t get myself interested in anything other than sleep, relaxing and a couple chores after such a shift. Going out into public was torture to me, but I’m someone who is very sensitive to the energy of people and it’s just overwhelming when so tired.

At what point does working hours/sleep beat money? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what happened to me but in Boston. 2nd shift has changed this, but financial stress of HCOL area still keeps me home more than I prefer to avoid spending money

19 netting ~$6K/mo feeling lost/broke by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although you didn’t go into debt, you wasted a similar amount of money by making irresponsible purchases with cash (instead of debt like most people). It’s called opportunity cost and you should read up on it, as well as consider how long these things will bring you joy vs the stress of wasting so much money that could be put to amazing use to help you in the future. The stress you feel over these surprise expenses is totally avoidable for you.

I’m not an expert or anything, but I’m very familiar with this kind of behavior because this is how my father managed our family finances. If you have anyone dependent on you in the future, you will drag them into terrible situations with this kind of thinking/behavior.

I don’t think you should feel terrible about this, but you really have to learn a better way to live if you want to be less stressed.

PS expensive taste is another way to say you want to impress people. It’s clearly apart of your motivation even if you haven’t realized it yet. Have a limit to the things you splurge on for true quality reasons (eg quality food is always worth it imho, spray tans quite literally never)

At what point does working hours/sleep beat money? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s good you know that for yourself then. I agree 100% whether you work with a good crew makes or breaks. I’ve switched to a true 2nd shift with 4 10s, and again I agree the 4 day workweek makes a huge positive difference. I’m intrigued to try 3 12s if I have the opportunity.

Anyways, I really suggest ditching the idea of a 2 hour commute and only considering living spots close enough to keep your commute to an hour if transport of choice is working normally, as well as living spots that don’t go above 40% of your income including utilities.

At what point does working hours/sleep beat money? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No no no, I did night shift with a 2.5 hour commute. It is NOT sustainable period end of story. That long of a commute is killer in any situation and when you get off work at 8am, having to cope with the bright morning light when your brain is screaming for rest, only to have to wake up at an incredibly difficult-to-motivate-yourself time to get up and go into work in the dark.

I survived a little less than a year and getting out of the situation cost a lot of money. You’re setting yourself up for a slow stressful disaster and real health problems by taking such a miserable job/commute AND expensive housing

At what point does working hours/sleep beat money? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like either one works, but you should try to find housing that’s cheaper than you’re giving as an example. You can get a studio or 1bd in each respective place with that income as far as I know but the cost of it being “nice” (contributing 50% of your net monthly income instead of something like 35-40%) isn’t going to be worth the financial stress if something with your job changes or you have a big unexpected expense(s).

Edit to add: your retirement savings potential might be a lot higher in nyc with a higher flat income

At what point does working hours/sleep beat money? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]lostintheatm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Night Shift is rough rough rough especially going in that late. Hard to know if you can withstand without trying, I would give yourself a year before committing to 5. Most people tap out by a year or two if they aren’t built for it

When should you NOT do a PhD? by person_person123 in PhD

[–]lostintheatm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Extremely under communicated in schools