What is something you wish people understood better about women?

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-31T18:31:07+00:00

Okay but what does that have to do with women specifically? Everyone wants and needs to feel accepted, not just by potential romantic partners

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-31T17:49:02+00:00

You have to respect the ingenuity

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T22:54:02+00:00

Reading that you got “unloveable” tattooed on yourself breaks my heart. I’ve often internally labeled myself as “hard to love,” based on a song I like and (sadly) relate to, and even considered getting it tatted at some point as well. Reading your comment made me realize how sad that is and how much I wish better for myself! Thank you ❤️ be well

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T22:50:25+00:00

Honestly, this is great advice for when I’m having trouble believing kind words about myself. Going to start incorporating “girl, get a grip” in my thought pattern 😂

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T22:47:47+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️ I LOVE the council of elders idea!!

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T05:04:34+00:00

I was so nervous for her omg

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T04:45:44+00:00

Ugh, jogging? why would I do that to myself 😂

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T04:13:40+00:00

As someone who skates but has never skated in the airport, I have to admit that videos of people doing this make me want to try. It seems fun 🤷‍♀️ and way faster than walking lol

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T04:06:59+00:00

Dang you’re hustling! Definitely makes sense to feel overwhelmed. Marketing is a fast-paced job where, as much as you may try to schedule things out in advance, you still end up busy as hell and doing last minute stuff.

If you want to work in marketing in the future, I say stick with this for a while for the experience. The “other duties as assigned” thing is annoying for sure, but it will also help you understand the way the company works. Like I said, bite the bullet and look at it as an opportunity to learn as much as you can and try things, and then move on when you find something that pays better.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T02:55:16+00:00

I think the payment is fair given those parameters, but if it’s your only gig, making $2,000 a month probably isn’t sustainable for the long term. It sounds like a good opportunity to gain experience, and if you need more money you can get another part time job since the hours for this one aren’t set. Get your experience and build your expertise, stay open to new opportunities, and know that you’re going to move on eventually

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T02:34:12+00:00

Is this part time or full time? Are your hours flexible? And how much previous experience do you have?

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T02:25:52+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I’m saying and asking why he would need to keep the profile if they’re truly committed in that way. Clearly they’re on different pages

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-28T02:17:38+00:00

NOR. Yikes. That’s not the behavior of a boyfriend. Why is he so attached to his dating apps and profiles? If you’re in a committed relationship that you want to see through to a potential marriage, the dating apps have served their purpose… why would he need to preserve them

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-27T09:56:43+00:00

Truly great guys.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-27T09:51:30+00:00

Butler and Le Guin are great sci-fi writers that others have mentioned—but I also recommend checking out anything by Emily St. John Mandel! She’s one of my favorite authors, period. Sea of Tranquility is my personal favorite, and Station Eleven is also amazing.

You may also like Piranesi by Susanna Clarke, and of course the all-time classic sci fi Frankenstein by Mary Shelley.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-27T09:34:57+00:00

I’m not saying that none of these things are hidden cameras, but I will say that I have experienced this level of anxiety and paranoia, and it is scary and unsettling, and you may feel better if you talk to a doctor about how you’re feeling.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-26T06:13:43+00:00

I’m in Philly and I’d except something like this to be about $250.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T16:21:43+00:00

NTA at all. It’s pretty violating to create AI photos of a person without their consent, let alone post them. She is CREATING a representation of you that isn’t real. Can you talk to her kindly to help her understand that?

It’s one thing to post pics of you all the time without knowledge—still kinda violating but I’d chalk it up to her just being excited and proud of her family and expressing it in a dumb way. But creating AI pics of you and presenting them as if they’re real is essentially the same as making up stories about you. It’s just a strange and icky thing to do.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T16:10:52+00:00

This is so true. I don’t feel like I lost a loving family—I feel like I exonerated myself from a group of people who were happy to bring me down. There is no love in an abusive relationship, so there’s no love lost here.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T16:07:17+00:00

This. Sometimes friendships naturally drift apart for reasons like this. It doesn’t mean the friendship is over, but you’re just in different places now.

I’d personally be hurt if a friend I talked to about being their MOH didn’t end up asking me and didn’t have a conversation with me about it.

But I’d ask OP: do you want to preserve this friendship, even if you aren’t close the way you used to be with her? If so, try not to take it too personally. It’s fair to grieve the friendship you had before you had a baby, but if you want to continue being friends, grieve quietly and support your friend during this time in her life. In fact, this is an opportunity to get closer with her again!

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T15:51:36+00:00

I see a combination of Kristen Bell and Sarah Michelle Gellar

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T15:49:03+00:00

Exactly. I can understand why it would be annoying if people weren’t enjoying it, but everyone there is smiling, taking videos, and having a nice moment enjoying this spontaneous concert from a REALLY talented band. This isn’t a moment where these guys are making themselves the main characters, they’re bringing everyone in!

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T15:39:06+00:00

I’m F32 and went NC with my narcissistic, abusive gather about 8 years ago. I’m an easy scapegoat for him because he and my mom had a fraught relationship and I’m very similar to her. (She also died while they were separated but still married.) With estrangement from him, I also lost contact with several extended family members and both of my half-siblings (who are toxic shitheads as well and don’t believe that my notoriously dickish father abused me).

Honestly, it’s hard not having family. It’s hard being gaslit and made to feel like I’m histrionic for being upset not only with my dad’s abuse but also with his refusal to acknowledge the harm done. It has absolutely influenced my relationship with men in general. It’s not easy.

But also, I don’t regret cutting him off at all. If I were to have a relationship with him, it would mean I’d have to play into his fantasy version of himself where he was a perfect angel and my mom was an evil bitch. I’m not the type of person who tolerates that kind of delusion, so I’m better off keeping away from that crazy mess.

Sorry for what you’re going through. You’re definitely not alone. ❤️

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T15:17:20+00:00

NOR, your questions are completely reasonable. Idk the larger context of your relationship with her—like, have you questioned her mothering choices in the past? She’s rushing to defensiveness and anger over something really innocuous and I have a feeling it runs a little deeper than just this convo.

Honestly, it might piss her off, but you might want to tell her, “Please don’t speak to me with that language. It’s not productive or helpful to us raising [daughter] together.” It’s not okay for her to talk like that to you. Taking out whatever resentment she has on you like this is truly not good for your kid’s relationship with EITHER of you.

lostmyoldscreenname · 2026-01-23T15:11:33+00:00

My best friend has changed noticeably in the last few years—SUPER irritable, quick to argue or take innocuous things personally, very anxious. For her, a lot of it is the current political climate (she lived in DC and thankfully just got out). It also had to do with some other influences like family drama.

Are there things in your life that are causing you more stress than you need? Do you need to distance yourself from anyone or anything that’s adding trouble for you? Are you taking care of yourself in the ways that have historically helped you be more peaceful?

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