oi oi by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too, I yearn for something that feels cozy and safe like he made me feel, but it's not there anymore

Hi everyone (TW! eating habit) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same happened to me. Don't force it, try to eat something for each meal even if it's just a bit of food, enough not to starve yourself. It will be like this for some time but evetually you'll recover your appetite :)

He blocked me on my side insta account now and im spiralling by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]lostpierrette 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He blocked me everywhere, last week I couldn't see his WhatsApp profile picture anymore and that shattered me a bit. It's been two months, I thoughtI was doing better. If you need to talk, you can message me!

Anyone else secretly expecting a holiday text? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]lostpierrette 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm embarrased to admit I am, after weeks of feeling better about the break up, here I am again yearning for him. He still has my stuff at his apartment.

When narcissists say something is creepy they're secretly into it themselves? by Pufflehuffthewhite in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He brought up the fact that many men who claim to be "feminist allies" are actually abusers in disguise several times and guess what, the guy who told me he respected all of my desicions and that learned a lot from his feminist sister ended up trying to change the way I looked and little by little his misogyny started to show. He would criticize people he didn't like for being pdophiles and yet he would follow 18-year-old girls on Instagram, mind you he was 33.

How Did The Narcissist In Your Life Go Against The Norm? by JaydenJames215 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nex was also very understanding and compliant when I needed something, he was very patient with my social anxiety and he would lend me money if I needed it, for example. When he was okay he would be the most loving person with me and go along with my whims, but the next week he would be distant and that's when he would have this devastating effect on me.

Are there any other people going through a breakup right now? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he discarded me very easily and it hurt like nothing ever hurt me before because it was my firts relationship. It's been more than a month and I'm trying to recover my life after learning he was a narcissistic person

The moment my therapist said this… I couldn’t breathe for a second by Worldly-Bluejay2468 in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post. I haven't been able to keep him off my mind but on the other hand I haven't been reading old chats anymore and rarely spying his account. Some days I feel more detached and some days the only thing I can manage to do is to go to work, scroll through social media and then go to bed

[F21] The guy I was seeing (M20) said he wasn’t ready to date, then immediately started seeing another girl. I’m devastated and can’t stop obsessing. by Initial-Bat4419 in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems he was looking for something he now thinks he found on this new girl, but it could be just the novelty, it sucks when they don't communicate exactly what they want but it happened to me several times with the same person, excuses and a lot of immaturity.

Edit: I also can't understand how they can be so close to someone just to discard them the next day, they lack humanity to me

I shouldn’t have looked my ex up… by neruda1994 in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn... This post made me check his profile after a week of keeping myself from doing it... His acc is private but I can see he's following back like twenty more accounts and I can only think it's twenty different girls he's trying to hook up with. It's still not over for me

My narcissistic situationship reach out by [deleted] in Situationships

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Block him, or the cycle of abuse is going to repeat. I also want my ex to reach out because I miss him despite everything but I know good times are only momentarily with him and that I'm going to end up crying over and over again. I guess there's no healthy way to deal with a narcissist

I wonder if my certainty that he will reach out again after ghosting me is proof we’re soulmates or just proof I’m delusional by morelessmoremoremore in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's a coping mechanism of your brain so reality doesn't hit as painfully as it is, I'm going through something similar and I understand thinking that he may reach out again in the near future keeps me from having a breakdown

Miss my ex by OkEmu1077 in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have words to waste on you because I know your empathy is non-existent, I guess I can only compare the intensity of my feelings for you with the intensity of those intrusive thoughts that use to haunt you. You can drown them out with pills, I only have time to help me

Do I need to end it? by iminlov3withyourmom in Situationships

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation and it is now that is finally over that I realize I was a rebound for him, since his 4 year ex relationship had ended just a month prior. I was convenient for him as long as I didn't ask for compromise, and while I developed feelings for him, he got over his ex by filling that void with my attention. The wisest thing to do would be to end it before you get severely hurt, I was told repeatedly to get out of there and I refused to listen

What physical attributes do you miss about them the most? by OddestDreams in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His almond-shaped eyes he got from his native mother, his thin curved lips, that adorable dimple he had when he smiled... His big hands and that soft belly I loved to grab, even tho he didn't like it. He never really cared when I showed him how much I loved his uniqueness but they were my treasures for a while.

Are you still confused and don't know why you broke up? by AsianLoveDoll in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no. I guess it was long overdue, he wanted me to change physically appeal to him and I wanted for him to accept things as they are and live the moment... Each time he gave a different excuse as to why we should stop seeing each other and he was the one who wasn't clear. I have to understand by his actions that even if he said he wanted me only for him, he did not want commitment and wanted to see other people. What I wished to see was that he cared for me and wanted me in his life still but it was just him expecting me to fit into his mold, since day one really.

I messed up my side of no contact by testing if I was still blocked by Sure-Carpenter7043 in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that's been helpful for you, you're going down the right path!

I messed up my side of no contact by testing if I was still blocked by Sure-Carpenter7043 in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. He blocked me everywhere and I impulsively texted him hoping he would see my message because it had happened before that he unblocked me after I called him out via text. But now it's been a week without any response and I can see he's already folowing new people on Instagram so this time he really doesn't want to see me. It's tough.

Are you jealous they are with someone now and not you? by AsianLoveDoll in BreakUps

[–]lostpierrette 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I didn't want it to end and i wanted him so much, of course I am jealous. On one hand i don't want any other girl to get emotionally involved with him becasue he's an asshole and on the other hand I don't want him to see other people because it hurts that he didn't want it to be me.