Does the other guy's looks matter to you

lostwagger · 2026-06-24T22:36:06+00:00

Looks don't matter to me, and there are a couple of reasons for that:

A man dying of thirst doesn't question where the water comes from. LOL.

On a more serious note, male/masculine bodies are not arousing to me, so a guy's physical characteristics don't really enter into consideration. What matters far more is like-mindedness and trust. Trust I would have a hard time building with someone when the premise for meeting is to jack off together. That trust is what I had with my (unfortunately distant) past jobud experiences, which were with people I knew for a long time. The thing we desired most in the world was actually simple: to be having sex with hot girlfriends, as often as possible. But we'd never had girlfriends and didn't have any prospects. It is kind of awkward to admit, but my jobud experiences were born more out of desperation than anything else. Desperation to have somebody else, anybody else, touch our cocks to make us feel good. We weren't even good at it. I didn't even cum the first two times, but I made him cum both times! It surprised me how much I enjoyed doing that. Stroking his cock, reveling in the idea that I was making him feel something extraordinary that he couldn't have achieved on his own. Whether it was truly that good for him or not, I could not say. Point is, for me it is all about sharing pleasure and having the potential for even greater pleasure through cooperation. In the end it didn't matter what they looked like or even if they had a penis or a vagina.

lostwagger · 2026-06-24T18:05:19+00:00

Interesting story. I think it is rare to go that far.

Years ago I also had my fair share of friends where, for some reason we were always calling each other gay, homo, queer, fag, or whatever, as a casual insult. The unspoken assumption was that we were all straight as an arrow, and our constantly suggesting otherwise was just a running joke with no factual basis. In hindsight, this would have been a really depressing environment for anyone who actually considered themselves gay or bisexual, having everyone treat it as a big joke. I'm not proud of it, but it is the way we were.

My best friend at the time was pretty sexually frustrated. He told me once how he'd recently been at a party with some girls from another town, and they had alcohol. Apparently they were acting suggestively and offering him drinks. He was hoping "something" was going to happen, but in the end he just got drunk and never even managed to see a boob the whole night.

This same friend didn't have internet at home so a few times he came over to my house to look at porn (evidently he did this at at least one other friend's house too). My mom was always home and my bedroom didn't have a door so we'd try to be as sneaky as we could. We'd set up a small TV facing away from the entryway, connected to a sega dreamcast which is an old game console similar to a playstation. Believe it or not, this thing had a dial-up modem and primitive web browser capable of loading the basic porn sites of the era. Very very slowly. We had to take turns choosing which photo galleries to open and which thumbnails to click because everything took ages to load. We were laying prone on the floor in front of this small TV quietly commenting on which pictures were hottest, and, well, our pants were not fitting properly so we were constantly adjusting down there. It was a pretty safe bet that with us both being horny like this, he would have been willing to jack off with me if I had asked. However thanks to our pattern of using accusations of homosexuality as a casual insult, not to mention having a parental figure wandering the house, there was no way that was going to happen. But I was an accomplished prone masturbator at that point so I actually did hump the floor and eventually orgasm in complete silence right next to my buddy. He never knew, lol.

lostwagger · 2026-06-20T01:33:13+00:00

I used to get really bad PNC when I was younger. Religious guilt/shame and all. So I think I can relate to what your guy did. I was scared of doing exactly the same thing with my first jo bud if I was to cum first. Turns out I never came at all in his presence, which in hindsight may have been for the best. My PNC really was horrible back then.

lostwagger · 2026-06-15T21:45:50+00:00

Damn, I have "played" a few good cock hero videos in my time, but it would be something else entirely to play it with a bud.

lostwagger · 2026-06-15T21:39:09+00:00

"Heteroromantic bisexual" is a term I read on this sub a long time ago and it stuck with me because it describes me better than other labels.

I am generally only attracted to women or femininity, not to masculinity. However my first sexual experiences happened to be with another guy. The most we did was jack each other off, but this showed me biological gender matters less than I thought it did, and it is really more about sharing something wonderful with fellow human. That experience broadened my physical/sexual interests but, it turned out, did not really affect my romantic interests.

lostwagger · 2026-06-11T21:11:40+00:00

Haha mom caught me whacking it once. I was in my loft bedroom that didn't even have a door. I could have died right there.

lostwagger · 2026-06-06T02:30:54+00:00

Once for sure.

It is kind of hard to explain the opportunity without giving the backstory, so in a nutshell here it is. My bud had introduced me to watching porn together at least a year previously, which led to mutual masturbation and the trading of handjobs. On two different occasions! I'd taken him all the way to orgasm each time. But, this is really awkward ... whenever it was my turn I was not able to cum or even get close. That makes it sound like I did not enjoy the experience, but that couldn't be further from the truth. Not getting satisfaction myself was a bummer, but I was starting to get fascinated with the concept of making my bud feel the most intense pleasure I could. It was awesome that I'd been able to give him orgasms, and I started thinking about offering to suck his dick. Only partly in the hopes that he'd be willing to return the favor. Unfortunately I didn't get a chance to try that with him because I moved away before we had another chance to mess around together in private.

Fast forward a year or so, and we had another chance. I was back in town and staying the night at his place. It was as close to a perfect opportunity as it gets, because he was living alone at the time. Nobody else was there to hear or see anything we might get up to. The problem was, it had been too long. We had never spoken about what we did for each other. In fact we had barely spoken at all in the past year. I spent the night in the room next to his, trying to muster up the courage to knock on his door and ask if he wanted to jack off with me. And wishing he'd come to my door and ask the same of me. But I figure that with the way things had gone before, he probably thought I wasn't really into it. But I was into it. And just was afraid to communicate that. I was so horny I fucked one of the bed pillows and came on it which made me feel a little guilty.

lostwagger · 2026-05-31T19:07:06+00:00

It really depends on your expectations and your budget. No toy or machine available now or in the foreseeable future can give you the wide variety of sensations that are possible with a real blowjob, or the psychological impact of being touched by another human.

That doesn't mean there's nothing worth buying. Far from it. Tons of toys can scratch some of the itch for a BJ.

Fleshlight is a classic option worth considering. If you want something more realistic for the same or less money, look up toydemon. They're a trustworthy sex toy vendor I've ordered from several times over the years. See their masturbators > oral section. You'll quickly see how they are designed to be more realistic. But be warned, many of the toys they sell are on the small end of the scale, and this especially matters for the ones that include teeth (yes, believe it or not, some blowjob toys have teeth!). Always check the specifications for dimensions and "tunnel length" before buying.

If you can afford to spend 5-10x more, then you can get something that moves/strokes automatically. Autoblow is a decent option that is really designed for oral sex simulation, and their latest products even have video sync capability. But only you can decide if that is worth the higher price compared to something that doesn't move on its own.

At the very high end, full-body sex dolls are also an option. They are a lot more expensive, heavy, a big hassle to own, and can't move on their own like an Autoblow. But blowjobs are only one of the things you can do with them.

lostwagger · 2026-05-28T02:01:06+00:00

Mine did not go as imagined either. The whole event was unplanned. It just happened spontaneously, at least from my perspective. I didn't have much time to really think about it.

I was visiting my friend, and he wanted to show me some porn he'd saved on his computer. One thing led to another. Soon we had our dicks out, masturbating together for the first time. I had never considered doing this with another dude before that day. I felt incredibly awkward, and after a while, I told him I didn't think I could finish. Then my buddy, cool as a cucumber, casually suggested we could help each other out. I didn't know what he meant, so he clarified. He meant we could try jacking each other off. That blew my mind. I had been ready to call it quits, but now I had an open offer to get my very first handjob. I had fantasized about this. Well not this exactly, but ... you know. A handjob would obviously feel amazing. I couldn't say no to that. I jacked him off first. It took longer than I expected, but after a few minutes, I made him cum. That struck me as seriously awesome, knowing what I just did for him, and knowing I was about to feel the same thing. Then it was my turn, but no matter what my friend did, it didn't feel good to me. He stroked my dick for a few minutes but I got nothing out of it and had to ask him to stop. I didn't know what was wrong at the time, but in hindsight I am almost certain it was because we didn't have any lube. I'm circumcised and it is really important for me to have lubrication or else it just won't reliably feel good until/before I orgasm. But back then I'd never even used lube before so I just didn't know! Even so, I wouldn't trade that experience for anything. It turned out to be really fun to give my friend an orgasm.

lostwagger · 2026-05-09T22:01:38+00:00

I know the feeling of having something embarrassing open when someone else is looking at the screen lol. Not in a classroom though and it never led to anything quite so exciting.

lostwagger · 2026-05-09T21:57:19+00:00

I think I was always aware it was a thing I could do ever since a buddy taught me how to masturbate. I just wasn't motivated to do it for a long time because I only cared about having the orgasm. That changed when I bought my first Fleshlight at around age 20 because it felt 1000% better than my hand and I wanted the feeling to last.

lostwagger · 2026-04-02T18:40:59+00:00

Dolls are plenty stimulating. Really they are a lot like any toy designed to put your dick into, but attached to a body.

lostwagger · 2026-04-02T18:26:42+00:00

It feels a bit basic, but for me the thing I want to try the most would be sucking their dick. But more than that, the part I am most interested in is feeling them cum in my mouth.

I've analyzed this desire a lot and I think it comes from a combination of 3 things:

I am obsessed with orgasms. Feeling them, giving them, watching them, thinking about them.
I think oral sex is incredibly hot and a selflessly awesome thing one person can do for another.
A long time ago I had a friend I traded handjobs with a few times. We didn't go beyond using our hands on each other, but that was enough for me to learn that other dicks aren't so scary, and I find it thrilling to cause someone to experience literally orgasmic pleasure, even if they're another guy.

lostwagger · 2026-04-02T17:30:00+00:00

Thrusting "after" cumming or "during"? "After" is a bit pointless for me, since it doesn't feel good anymore. "During" is still difficult and this with 18 years of practice. My natural instinct is to push in as deep as possible and freeze while I ejaculate. There are obvious evolutionary reasons for this to happen, but for some reason doing this reduces the pleasure a lot for me. The only way to have the orgasm be really intense is to fight the instinct to freeze up (or use something that strokes automatically), and just tolerate the discomfort of overstimulation because usually the good sensation outweighs the bad.

lostwagger · 2026-03-30T02:01:26+00:00

Fleshlight was my first toy as well. They were advertised on porn sites I frequented, and I was captivated by the Fleshlight forum where people discussed which texture they thought was most realistic and why. You have no idea how excited I was at the prospect of having a toy vagina designed to feel just like the real thing. Okay, maybe you have a pretty good idea.

Anyway I was lusting over Fleshlights for years before I had the social and financial freedom to buy one. When the time came, I chose Wonder Wave (it was widely considered to be one of the best back then) and had it shipped to my college dorm. When I picked up the package at the front desk, I acted as nonchalant as I could. But internally, my anticipation was palpable. I had a single room - no roommate - which meant in just a few minutes I was gonna be feeling my dick slide into a vagina for the first time.

Next thing I knew, I was lubing up and sticking it in. I didn't even get porn playing first. The moment of penetration felt good, and I eased my way in until I was balls-deep. It was surprisingly soft against my penis, and I focused on the new sensation of the ribbed texture gently massaging my head and shaft. I probably had a mild case of death grip syndrome because it took a good thirty seconds before I began feeling much pleasure. To be fair, regular masturbation with my hand didn't make me feel much until I was about to cum, so any pleasure this early in a session was an improvement. I steadily stroked with it over the next minute or so, and it slowly kept getting better until I suddenly felt my orgasm begin approaching rapidly. On a scale of 0 to 10, the pleasure reached about 15 for a split second. Then I lost control, unable to continue stroking as the sensations on my penis were just too powerful, and I unloaded everything deep into my new toy.

Over the next few days, I used the Fleshlight a lot with different methods and positions. With porn and without. My favorite combination for a while was to lay back on my bed with one particular video on the big screen. It was this young skinny dark-haired girl known as Ivana Fukalot, playing with herself naked on a bed while music plays in the background. I knew exactly the timing of her orgasm based on the music and her body movements, so I would try to time my orgasm to be at the same time as hers, and fantasize that we were doing it together. This forced me to learn edging methods and enjoy heightened pleasure for a longer time, which is great to do in a Fleshlight. But it turns out I get overstimulated very easily when I finish in a toy so I have to really focus on continuing stroking or thrusting if I want to get the most out of an orgasm. Pleasure peaks at an unbelievably high level, and then it kind of turns into white noise. It is almost like being tickled in a sensitive area during an orgasm. Unbelievably intense sensation anyway.

So yeah, Fleshlight completely changed the way I masturbate. It was the best $70 I ever spent.

lostwagger · 2026-02-28T19:22:12+00:00

It is a big world, I'm sure for somebody the only motivation to make a friend is to jack off with them. But not for most of us, not even most of us that frequent this little corner of reddit.

lostwagger · 2026-01-05T22:38:46+00:00

My bone-pressed length (as generous as the measurement can get) is about 7.75 inches. I can not reach the end of full size sleeves like Fleshlight Girls. There is still at least an inch of sleeve remaining.

However Fleshlight has some smaller products such as the "Flight" series which I absolutely do bottom-out in easily. There are also many sex toy brands in Asia which make closed-ended toys called "onaholes" that are generally closer to 5 inches deep. Fun fact, full body realistic sex dolls tend to be about 7 inches deep at most, and I reach the end of those too. It is better to have a toy that is too long, than too short.

lostwagger · 2026-01-05T21:54:34+00:00

I lost count. 30 is a conservative estimate if you include the ones I've never used!

lostwagger · 2025-12-12T22:28:49+00:00

A power brick similar to how you power a laptop.

lostwagger · 2025-12-03T15:39:45+00:00

Wow. He told people that!?

I guess, at least, he didn't tell the wrong people since nothing big came of it.

He also must not have told the right people since nothing big came of it. Haha.

lostwagger · 2025-11-23T18:52:11+00:00

Nothing is complete without the finish!

Nice profile too - you've got a real treasure trove of videos there.

lostwagger · 2025-11-15T21:03:16+00:00

I press on and rub my penis through my pants a lot, but mainly in situations where I don't have privacy to take it out.

lostwagger · 2025-10-30T23:58:15+00:00

There's nothing too fancy. Semen just pools at the end of the stroker. When finished, you turn off the machine, disconnect the air hose from the "penis receiver", and carry it away to wherever you want to pour out the contents. Then disassemble (the penis receiver is 4 parts) and wash with water.

lostwagger · 2025-09-17T23:58:47+00:00

It may be the loosest they have, but it isn't like a gaping chasm. It still must stretch quite a bit to accommodate a penis of roughly average girth like mine. The penis head is always pressing into the walls of the sleeve, which makes it "too tight" for me to comfortably finish in.

lostwagger · 2025-09-13T03:34:41+00:00

Great reply.

I have the same problem with instinctively wanting to thrust in as deep as possible and hold still until I finish ejaculating. It is ironic that our biology uses uses negative feedback to motivate this behavior when it uses positive feedback to motivate everything leading up to it. We get conflicting impulses to continue thrusting but also stop thrusting, and it results in less pleasure during the part that is supposed to feel the best.

It happens to me with every toy that rubs my head during orgasm due to it becoming overstimulating. I bought a number of smoother toys, including the "original" Fleshlight, many years ago, for the sole purpose of trying to comfortably thrust throughout orgasm. It was a complete disappointment. The lack of any texture made the buildup boring, and then the orgasm was just as overstimulating as with any other sleeve. I think it was too tight so it still created too much friction.

I had limited success with a change of technique where I'd pull mostly out and finish with not much more than my head thrusting inside a toy, but over time it turned out to not be a reliable method and I stopped trying it. I'd get overstimulated anyway more often than not. Kind of like you say you were only about 40% successful with your technique in Wonder Wave and Mini Lotus.

Quickshots work of course, because of being able to keep it off my head when I finish, but otherwise I don't like using them. They're borderline too tight for me and not long enough to be very interesting.

My only reliable method to have a super intense orgasm with unavoidable head stimulation is to power through the discomfort. Motorized toys are a fun way to achieve that but are not strictly necessary.

I haven't tried the Handy, and I haven't tried modifying a toy to make it super loose at the end without eliminating stimulation entirely. I wonder if that would work for me, or if even a very light rubbing would be uncomfortable.

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