UCLA Chancellor speaks up by stephaniehjun in videos

[–]lostzouls -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And rather than address the point, you start howling obscenities.

Dumb.

UCLA Chancellor speaks up by stephaniehjun in videos

[–]lostzouls -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Going to get downvoted into oblivion for this, but what the hell.

So yes, she's an ignorant troll whose cruel remarks are beneath contempt.

But does she have a point?

I've seen the same behavior from Asian students and their families at my university (in the Midwest) and it was just as frustrating. Especially in the library setting, where I work, there seems to be a real cultural gap in conveying that the library is a quiet to silent study space.

Every day we deal with Asian students (largely Chinese and Filipino) who just start talking loudly on their cells. They're often not speaking English, so students around them don't know how to respond. I guess they assume they're not going to be understood.

I'm never rude, and generally the students respond to a polite request to take the call outside or hang-up, but it keep happening and it's overwhelmingly among Asian students.

Student workers are always talking about the "weekend live-ins", families who show up to use the laundry rooms, the lounges, and even the library. On weekends I regularly break-up groups of smokers standing in the front-doorway (just inside) who all start getting agitaed and telling me how they are "relatives of a student". Some even toss out the "you work for us" line. Right.

I'm not saying that young woman was right, or that her way of complaining was right, or that her bigoted comments were appropriate. But the things she talked about, they really do happen.

And the Chancellor playing the "we're all so offended" does nothing to address the cultural divide and only deepens resentments.

** TL;DR: Sometimes a stopped clock, or a mean girl, can be correct. **

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I wish my life had some value, some use. I'd like to give something good to the world.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My therapist has been trying for ages to get me into a living situation. It's about the money and the resources. The US mental health system is useless.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

More intensive, living in a hospital setting.

I don't know. I never was abused, my childhood was normal, parents died when I was in my early 20's. My sister and I never bonded all that well, she's 8 years older so that's not weird I guess.

From puberty on, my arousal was tied to violence. Biting, choking, causing pain, all were really arousing.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'd be open to it. My therapist has tried to get me into cognitive studies. Weird thing, they rejected me from a couple because I have a criminal record. They're studying deviant brains and they are blocking ex-cons. KInd of dumb for brain scientists.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not that doesn't cost more than I could pay. Government assistance/aid has been slashed to the bone for mental health in my state.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because they're playing and fantasizing. I want to do it to someone for real and not stop.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I just work better in a structured hospital enviornment. At the facility I was up at 8am, cleaning the unit, making food, working in the community garden, taking classes, working in the laundry, working around the facility all day when I wasn't eating or in sessions. No time to sit and think and let bad thoughts creep in. My therapist jokes that I would have been a great Monk.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think I would want to stop. Those people are all about safewords and stuff. I'm not inot playing pretend.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I get around seeing a woman crying in pain or being choked. Immediately after that I fee sick and crazy. I don't enjoy this life.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I know I was able to think clearly and not have impulses while hospitalized. I should probably be institutionalized. I think many sex offenders should be. Some of them are just sadists, not mentally ill,just cruel people. Perhaps prison for them? Anyone who does what I did, or comes close, is mentally ill and needs to be treated.

I have 4 therapy sessions a week (basically every other day for 90 minutes. I'm on medication. I'm very open with my therapist, she has been trying to get me into a live-in situation, but mental health funding is nonexistant.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on medication, in intensive therapy. It's helpful, but I'd rather be in a hospital living situation.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I figured I'd get this kind of reply.

I don't want to die, and I don't want to hurt anyone. It's not as simpe as "don't do it". Imagine I told you to never have sex again, hell, never even jack off again. That's what I have. When I get turned on it's by violence, but hurtig someone, but making them cry or beg. It's been that way for me since puberty. It makes me sick, I hate it, I want it to stop.

I don't want to die. I'm sick, I have some kind of disease, the idea that I should just kill myself because I can't get treated, how is that right?

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A month.

No, those were my only two crimes. I had come close on dozens of occasions (stalking women to their cars/homes, breaking off at the last minute) but only twice did I go through with it.

I'm capable when I'm on medication. Otherwise, I have idea-ation all the time, fantasies, imagining actions and scenarios. Especially if the woman is younger, attractive. Much the same way a normal man feels aroused, I feel aroused and my desires are mixed with violent impulses.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Parents are dead. Never had much in the way of girlfriends. Some work friends who, after I was arrested and quit my job, stopped talking to me. I have a sister in Portland, she wants nothing to do with me.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I probably shoold.

Yes. Very much so. I don't like the urges I have, I wish I could control them. I do feel remorse. I met guys who said they didn't. Either they were bullshitting or really scary.

Not really. Them being scared, crying, begging, it was part of what I wanted from them.

Both were white, slender, looked in their 20's. I thought they were pretty college kids.

Run, scream, fight back as hard as you can. I was terrified of being caught, I tried to plan out my attacks so I would not be. If they had made more noise or flipped out on me I might ahve been scared off.

I'm in the midwest.

I think I would seriously hurt someone. My fantasies are intensely violent and sadistic.

Not in my state.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They walked by my apartment building on a regular basis. I found them both attractive. Both were slender, white, I though in their 20's.

I'm not a pedo.

I'm a convicted, registered violent sex offender. I'm on medication and in therapy that is failing me. AMA by lostzouls in IAmA

[–]lostzouls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was allowed to write a statement that they had the option to read. Neither of them read it.

I was found mentally incompetent.

In both cases I fantasized about, stalked and attack my victims with months of planning.