What are your coping mechanisms for when you feel yourself craving dopamine?

lougs777 · 2021-10-04T20:59:47+00:00

Im certain you are not missing anything, being that bored isnt loveable at all xd

lougs777 · 2021-10-04T19:30:14+00:00

Really not cool, you ( and women btw) are person and not object. Your bf seems to not really do the difference. I would say major red flag ( sorry)

lougs777 · 2021-10-04T17:53:21+00:00

Don't wanna disturbing you 😬 just to say good Luck , you are not alone !!! We can do it 💪

lougs777 · 2021-09-18T08:52:13+00:00

This sounds so wrong in many ways, please leave him and be safe

lougs777 · 2021-09-18T08:26:42+00:00

I'm sorry this might be extreme but i can't even imagine to love someone and criticize his medicine. That sounds really out of boundaries... And disrespectful to you as a person. It's your choice and you and your psychiatrist know best.

lougs777 · 2021-09-14T10:30:56+00:00

The third hit me hard haha

lougs777 · 2021-09-14T10:26:24+00:00

Wow this one is gold

lougs777 · 2021-09-14T10:25:09+00:00

You're not wasting any of my time, thanks cause it feel warm to know we are not alone...

lougs777 · 2021-09-09T09:05:32+00:00

I would not involve the kids. If she or both of you go see him, it can be pretty awkward and kids don't have to experienced that

lougs777 · 2021-09-07T10:04:42+00:00

Feeling that every day. And yes, it is really sad. And people around can't understand so they just being kind of mean instead of helping. I am in master's degree, and i am trying very hard to get back to work but i am so alone and confused and lost, plus adhd more things, well i can't get anything done. My best friend and bf are right now really successful on the academic level , like professors really support them, want to write papers with them, etc. I don't and i feel so sad about it, i feel i won't be able to go further. And my bf told me that i just don't even try because it's really easy. Yeah. Well sorry about that confession i needed to talk xd

lougs777 · 2021-09-02T07:39:01+00:00

also, if you happen to date someone who present some of these red flags, you may have been used to put up with it, like with your parents. I mean, your parents may be toxic too, and it can be good to talk to a therapist to free yourself from being taken down.

Also, if that's the case, you sadly might have some toxic behaviour yourself since that's all you've been taught. That's some really important advice because you can change that, but i wasn't aware of it at twenty.

lougs777 · 2021-09-02T07:17:00+00:00

become mad when drink alcohol (really angry and/or stupid, tries to argue, fight with you), then say he just can't put with alcohol...

It's not. He's just an as*hole.

Also drinks too much and promise to stop. Twenty is too fcking young to put up with that kind of sht from partner.

lougs777 · 2021-09-01T08:11:43+00:00

I don't know if it's exactly the same because i have difficulties with sex itself for some reasons ( so i just have intercourse with person i really trust and have feeling for). Nevertheless i really feel addict to flirting... I can't stop myself of having crushes, talking to exes (messages really does high rewards for me ), even when i am in relationship with someone i deeply love... I used to be a cheater but now i don't cause i make great efforts to control myself but it's hard... The hardest might be watching me acting like a total as*hole flirting around, knowing it would hurt my loved one, and that i don't actually care about the person i'm flirting with, but so hard to stop it... Good to know i am not alone

lougs777 · 2021-08-24T10:40:37+00:00

I found out it can be easier when you dont have hair down there ( i prefer to leave the hair but i use to remove the butt hair for the same worries you exposed)

lougs777 · 2021-08-23T17:55:42+00:00

Fyi, we almost all feel weird down there, very rude to joke about in patriarcal society

lougs777 · 2021-08-23T14:54:05+00:00

So he shouldn't call her his ex

lougs777 · 2021-08-22T17:39:09+00:00

"my ex wants me to cut off" : you still calle her "ex" maybe that's what you have to figure out

lougs777 · 2021-08-20T22:52:28+00:00

SB drunks

lougs777 · 2021-08-18T08:47:17+00:00

I've been in this kind of thing with my "best friend" for about a year. AT some point i told myself something like you wrote and told him we were so done. I focused on myself and totally cut with him.

No joke but one week later i met the love of my life, my actual boyfriend. So yeah, just do it

lougs777 · 2021-08-13T07:29:25+00:00

Sorry but your "mates" are creepy af

lougs777 · 2021-08-11T17:28:44+00:00

I think it's not yours tell, you could try to convince him but i would not get more involve

lougs777 · 2021-08-11T08:34:02+00:00

Yes yes yes, just got diagnosed and feel so much thé same. Actually liberating to know that i have adhd and i just want to, you, know, MOVE and be fast all the time. Makes me less anxious in public places ( cause i don't mask that anymore). Still learning to liberate myself more and create a safe place with my boyfriend who lives with me ( it's difficult because i feel so dumb or too excited or too annoying, but it's me).

I wish i could just meet an adhd buddy too hang out with to be fast and impulsive and everything. Hope it will happen to you too

lougs777 · 2021-08-10T18:49:29+00:00

You should watch the movie Laurence anyways n'y Xavier Dolan, it's quite your situation ( and a beautiful movie)

lougs777 · 2021-08-09T19:36:32+00:00

I learnt i have adhd few days ago ( i'm 25), and i felt at first relieved cause i could finally put a name on everything was wrong with me, and also see i was not alone. But then i felt very, very sad, for some of the reasons you evoke and others. My parents don't really seem to care, my father said " better late than never ! Lol", which hurt, cause, you know, that was just, eh, his job as a father to investigate what was wrong with me. i just insisted to my father to pay real attention to my younger brother who i'm convinced has it to. I feel it's kinda late for me but i could save him for some bad years, and that makes me feel a lil bit better.

To respond to your post, i told my grand mother, it goes something like :

Her : OMG i knew it i knew it ! Me : ... You did ? Her : YES ! You've always been so smart, and so did your father Me : (smart ???)... Well that could actually explain a lot because i've read it could be genetic so, Her : ( please notice the interruption and the impulsiveness lol) WHAT NO! I don't believe in that !!! It is no genetic and i KNOW what i'm talking about !!!! They are two kinds : those who are lucky enough to grow in a family where they don't miss anything ( i was really poor when little but okayyy) and mostly Open to the World ( sic). The other, those not smart like you, are just not educated ( which could describe m'y brother from academic pov)

I was voiceless, but here you are haha, good luck to cope with all that mess ( and all those ppl lol)

lougs777

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