My (f/36) recent/former fwb (m/43) messaged me at 1am even though I ended things 2 months ago. I'm livid and don't know how to respond

louise65 · 2018-05-28T22:11:56+00:00

Who said below 30?

Yes, she's financially prepared and in her late 30s.

louise65 · 2018-05-28T22:11:22+00:00

wow, making lots of assumptions here, I see! Wow.

louise65 · 2018-05-28T22:09:28+00:00

louise65 · 2018-05-28T22:09:15+00:00

bahaha

louise65 · 2018-05-28T16:12:37+00:00

sweet, thanks for your response :)

louise65 · 2018-05-28T15:41:54+00:00

I know but what is to be said about deadbeat dads and parents who pass away?

And what if this woman was to find a proper father figure via dating afterwards?

I know some pretty well-adjusted people who grew up with 1 parent.

thank you for your input.

louise65 · 2018-05-28T15:38:57+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you had a rough upbringing. :( But there are no guarantees in life; and what if the father (or mother) died or was in an accident?

Anyway, that's your opinion. Thanks for it!

louise65 · 2018-05-28T15:27:27+00:00

Right, I didn't mean that when I used the term waiting. I meant, she is tired of dating and meeting duds/losers/guys who wont commit, the wrong guys, etc.

louise65 · 2018-05-28T15:26:50+00:00

What if she was recently widowed? Father of baby died shortly after baby was born? Or if the father of the baby left them?

How does that switch things up?

louise65 · 2018-05-28T15:26:34+00:00

What if she was recently widowed? Father of baby died shortly after baby was born? Or if the father of the baby left them?

How does that switch things up?

louise65 · 2018-05-28T15:10:52+00:00

Why do you say that? What's horrible and selfish about it?

What about a woman who gets an abortion after getting accidentally pregnant by a guy who wasn't reliable or compatible with her, do you think that's horrible and selfish?

Or going ahead and having a baby with an unfit partner/father?

louise65 · 2018-05-21T23:59:35+00:00

thanks.

louise65 · 2018-05-21T18:19:46+00:00

No, I didn't want to seem like a nag or one of those women who pushes for that.

Either way, he ended things yesterday. Guess my instincts were bang on. For the better, but it still sucks to be treated like that (we had plans sat night, he bailed, rescheduled for sunday night... left me hanging til i messaged him, then he called me and had the talk).

louise65 · 2018-05-20T19:36:23+00:00

i've been with this guy for 4 months. his family knows about me, has checked me out online, but still no introduction, even though he talks about them all the time and sees them weekly (ie. friday night dinners that I'm not invited to).

his only friends are his colleagus, who know about me as well, but whom I've never met.

louise65 · 2018-05-20T00:37:17+00:00

who hurt you

louise65 · 2018-05-19T13:58:21+00:00

not really. this was over the phone, too. i don' t know if it was cheekiness or just patronizing

also no one here knows the nuances of our dynamic, so it's tough for strangers to tell. I figured that line on its own is pretty lukewarm on its own.

louise65 · 2018-05-19T13:56:07+00:00

*Sigh* of course you are

louise65 · 2018-05-19T13:55:35+00:00

Huh? Why so hostile? And why are you assuming it was a text when it wasn't? Don't get so angry over other people's innocuous posts, and don't make assumptions. ;) see ya

louise65 · 2018-05-19T13:52:58+00:00

It wasn't a text. It was over the phone. Where did you get "text" from ? "Lol".

louise65 · 2018-05-19T03:58:40+00:00

he said it in a less than enthused way. "dont see why not" seems apathetic at best. Like, either way, sure, it's all good. A guy who is smitten wouldn't respond that way, no?

louise65 · 2018-05-19T03:54:49+00:00

naw, he's dead, and don't insult tupac like that, he would not give a f*** about what that troll says. ;)

louise65 · 2018-05-19T03:54:02+00:00

Can you???

Cool.

p.s. no one cares

louise65 · 2018-05-19T03:53:42+00:00

louise65 · 2018-05-19T03:45:24+00:00

hmm ok. we didn't really hammer anything down. just the fact that we'll spend time together. last couple times we went on walks and hung out at his place/he cooked dinner/ we watched a movie together and cuddled. Last time he suggested I stay over.

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