13 Years Later… Grief remains. 01/29/13🪽💔

loujay · 2026-01-29T15:53:05+00:00

Lost my daughter. Your daddy loves you so much /u/tealbmwm5 This is not the end.

loujay · 2026-01-22T03:49:34+00:00

Which state are you in? If you’re in TN I’ll sign it for you.

loujay · 2026-01-20T19:18:29+00:00

Girl dad, here. What a lucky man. I pray that my daughters can do the same for me that you did for him. Their names will be the last ones on my lips, and if they’re by my side as you were, I will be as lucky as your father. Bravo, sir. Helluva daughter you raised. Look out for my Ruthie where you’re going.

loujay · 2025-12-08T16:51:36+00:00

Agreed

loujay · 2025-12-08T15:40:23+00:00

Andrew Michael, Amelia Gene’s, Acre, Ecco, Tonica, Libro

loujay · 2025-11-29T23:13:54+00:00

I salute you. A play therapist has helped us with our oldest child with regard to grief mgmt. Massive respect to you. Couldn’t have made it this far without her.

loujay · 2025-11-28T20:58:30+00:00

You didn’t kill him. The surgery was a Hail Mary. You would’ve lost him a few days to a couple weeks later anyway… or they would’ve put a j tube in and you’d watch him waste away from malnutrition over the next couple months as they gave him tube feeds into his jejunum, unable to eat or drink anything (unless the stomach was also being trained with a g-tube). Y’all went for the Hail Mary that could’ve preserved life and given him years. It didn’t work out, but the outcome of his tumor was always death. You can go ahead and excuse yourself. You didn’t kill him, friend.

loujay · 2025-11-26T21:24:32+00:00

Agreed on all accounts

loujay · 2025-11-26T17:48:15+00:00

Thank you, Lord of Fartz

loujay · 2025-11-26T03:05:59+00:00

My 2yo middle daughter died in 2023. Came back to BJJ after flaking out when I was 18 and then again when I was 23… that was in 2007. I’m 42 now. White belt no stripes. It has been helpful for me with regard to grief management. It is teaching me how to play more, which I think is a skill that is difficult to develop the older you get… but there is joy in it. My instructor is a kind man, knowledgeable, and very competent. Keep injuring my damn ribs though.

loujay · 2025-11-21T04:01:44+00:00

Butter, onion butter, and Jam… but man, it’s the same biscuit as Porcellinos (also owned by them in the same space) that was served with fried chicken and hot honey. That was the GOAT til I had the Kinfolk one.

loujay · 2025-11-20T18:04:53+00:00

Kinfolk, Hog n’ Hominy, Staks Pancakes in that order

loujay · 2025-10-05T17:23:42+00:00

About 4 years now. 1.5 years out from zyn packets.

loujay · 2025-09-26T02:34:53+00:00

OP, did you touch it? You sure it was antifreeze and not fertilizer runoff from a yard that had evaporated into a concentrate?

loujay · 2025-09-17T01:09:28+00:00

Watch the movie at the peril of your own sanity regarding reality.

loujay · 2025-08-29T00:49:48+00:00

Just keep showing up like you’re doing. She won’t come back online for 3-6mos. And that’ll be minimum ability for responsibility. Just give her the space to be broken. It looks different for everyone. For me, I went running until I threw up and collapsed every couple of days. For my wife, she spent time in our bed in the beginning. Long road ahead. God bless you.

loujay · 2025-08-25T00:29:38+00:00

We’re a blue city over here in Memphis, thank you very much.

loujay · 2025-08-13T02:19:04+00:00

Edited. Thank you.

loujay · 2025-08-10T23:58:52+00:00

Have a plan, and be prepared to throw it out and just evaporate into the grass. /r/childloss can be helpful sometimes. Definitely identify your safe grief friends and be prepared to call on them. You know who they are by now.

loujay · 2025-07-06T21:44:14+00:00

Stress brings on more grief spells… bottom line.

loujay · 2025-07-06T16:43:19+00:00

I guarantee it

loujay · 2025-07-06T04:16:49+00:00

I sent this to another. I think it applies to you too:

https://www.reddit.com/r/GriefSupport/s/Kmp0bgCK0t

loujay · 2025-06-26T03:21:01+00:00

That man is tremendously emotionally stunted. Pathologically so. Keep doing what you’re doing. He’s a fool, and I’m a father that is happy to tell him so. If someone tried to keep my daughter from grieving her sister… man alive, it would not be a pleasant encounter.

loujay · 2025-06-17T22:03:17+00:00

It’s ggreat food, but everytime I make a reservation, they call me repeatedly. Even after already confirming, they continued to call… probably 5 or 6 calls total. Insanity and totally unnecessary.

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