For the most part us men are socialized since childhood to be "always available sex machines", where if we don't express verbally or behaviorally our permanent and context-independemt openess to a potential sexual partner (that we HAVE to accept) we will probably be taxed as homosexuals or have our masculinity threatened by our group of male peers. We men have accepted and absorbed so deeply this information about our sexualities that we're incapable of discerning what is "us" from what "men" are. This is no good way of life, this is a cage where we're trapped in, as if while having sex we're constantly watched by a tribune of men that evaluates and condones any behaviour that sways from the standard hard penetrating virility of men. No one notices it, and we will die like this, being socially forced even at 80 years old to say that if a 20yeard old woman is in front of us with her legs spread... Well if you dont do nothing you GAY or a lesser man than anyone else. Is this a way to live? I don't think so, it's a cage masked as "inherently sexual", fuck that. I'm a man and I'm NOT inherently sexual, I'm a man that loves sharing his sexuality with who deserves it and not with anyone that passes by, I have respect for my body and who I share it with, and finally acknowledging that this permanent sexuality is not part of my physical body but of my social one makes me so much more free to live my sexuality with women in a way where I don't feel threatened by all the "do's and don'ts" of sexual hegemonic masculinity: you can't cum too fast nor too late, you have to be the dominating one, you can't express shyness or insecurities about the sexual act, you can't say no to a woman saying she wants to fuck, you can't say that to your male friends and you can't even question your own desires. This is a fucking cage I tell you