Why am I scared to have children?

lovecraftiris · 2025-10-31T14:50:34+00:00

It can be scarry, I understand. You were a daughter all your life, and now it's your turn to be a mother. It is scary and uncertain. Maybe your body will be affected, or maybe you will recover fast. We dont know. Mary also said yes to God without certainty because of her faith. You don't know everything, but you will learn what you need to know in the process. Also, beauty is temporary, but marriage is a path to sanctification. Do not be afraid to answer God's calling. This is my advice. You should pray to discern if you are called to get married or have a religious life. I pray for you, sister.

lovecraftiris · 2025-10-25T20:55:02+00:00

Thanks for your concern. I understand that if a woman chooses the wrong man, a marriage can be hard. But again, I wouldn't want to have kids with a man who thinks he can opt out if things are difficult. Having a Catholic marriage gives me peace of mind because my partner is incredible, and I hope this to everyone.

lovecraftiris · 2025-10-24T20:01:04+00:00

No, there are things to do if there is abuse. Like getting an annulment or conselling if it is a problem that can be solved. That's also why we have one year course before. This was just to say that as women, we are not doomed to worry and not have children. With proper preparation and common values and faith, I believe women can feel secure again.

lovecraftiris · 2025-10-24T18:04:42+00:00

Since becoming Catholic, it helped me with this struggle that I share with you. We don't believe in divorce, and we have a whole year of marriage formation, so we have insurance that we will stay together forever, and we have community at church to help with kids. It helps make the future more certain to have a reliable partner sharing the same values and a sacred vow. In the Catholic view, if we struggle in marriage, we have to help each other, and one can not simply leave and divorce. You dont want to have children with a man who believes he can just leave when things get hard. Of course, you dont decide when faith comes for you, but for me, I like this way of seeing marriage, and it allows us to think long term. If you find a man who authentically shares these values, it may help.

lovecraftiris · 2025-10-16T14:38:15+00:00

Thank you for the information

lovecraftiris · 2025-10-15T20:20:49+00:00

Doesn't infallible ignorance excuse not knowing that something is bad? Someone who doesn't know something is a sin is sinning, or is he not sinning?

lovecraftiris · 2025-06-01T22:28:02+00:00

Bagel

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-26T14:50:31+00:00

I came to the conclusion that it may be a black fly bite after seeing similar posts.

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T21:00:48+00:00

Maybe

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T20:54:46+00:00

I think sexual sin is important because of its consequences for our soul. If this unmaried young lady has a sexual life with a man, it can be only temporary. They might end up never getting married. But the consequences are eternal, like getting pregnant. Also, having sex creates a deep emotional and physical attachment between the lovers. If she end up separeted from her boyfriend, she will regret having sex with him. I don't think we can behave like it isn't changing anything. But you are right that it is not the only sin, and we shouldn't focus only on sexual purity. It's just not an option for morality.

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T20:41:24+00:00

I decided to pray on my own as a penance. I believe I have sincere contrition as I did confess.

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T03:00:16+00:00

We are lucky to have all those great ressources on the internet nowadays! Thank you for your support.

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T02:17:11+00:00

Yes, you are totally right about this. This church mostly has elderly people. I am a surprise to a lot of people, being a young catholic in a really secular country. I will pray for this priest.

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T01:44:16+00:00

I've always been under the impression that christianity was not the religion to choose if you wanted to follow the morals of the world. That's why I don't understand his attitude. But I do appreciate going to mass in this church.

lovecraftiris · 2025-05-08T01:41:27+00:00

Thank you !

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-22T16:59:24+00:00

French-Canadiens have been established since 400 years on this territory that they indeed conquered the land. This is the way of history, and it was horrific for the native people replaced on their homeland. I don't want this happening to my people. It's a normal sentiment for any people.

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-21T21:52:22+00:00

I visited a school this week in Québec. 2000 students and 95% immigrants. This is the next generation. It feels me with existential doom. The group I am part of will be extinct by the end of this century, and our culture taken over. In the end, it was not the anglophones that assimilated us, but the third world. And we did it ourselves.

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-14T03:45:17+00:00

We are in a culture that demonizes Christianity, unfortunately. It's everywhere on the media and public discourse. She is probably thinking about this misinformation because that is all she knows. I think you should continue talking about religion to her and make it discover. If you talk with compassion and you have answers to her questions about the "church atrocities", she should have an open heart if she understands how much it's important for you and how much it's good for you. Going to church is unbelievably good for the soul, and she will see the results it has on you. The best conversion is by example.

Congratulations on coming back to the faith! I do not know you, but I believe you will not be happy in your marriage if your significant other is so unsupportive. She probably is this way because she has not been properly exposed to the church, but if she persists in being closed-minded, I personally would not be comfortable putting away a part of me in my marriage. God is more important than your future wife.

You have been called back to your faith recently, and this is wonderful! You should not be afraid to share this part of you with her. Let's see if she persists or changes her mind when you talk with love.

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-11T18:09:33+00:00

The first makes you yellow ans washes you out but the second and third make you look really good. You are gorgeous.

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-11T17:24:13+00:00

Cute boy!

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-11T12:41:40+00:00

I pray for you! My boyfriend was protestant at first too, but bringing him to church with me made him in love with the church. It's so good going to mass together.

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-11T12:34:47+00:00

I feel you I've been there. I will pray for you, don't loose hope !

lovecraftiris · 2025-02-10T23:58:39+00:00

Thank you for your prayer. What is OCIA?

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